u/Maleficent_owl_1998

Need advice po. Ano po gagawin ko sa parents ko na pangit ng dynamics nila dalawa. My father is a jealous man with anger issue tapos nangbubuso pa sa mga renters. My mum keeps on telling him to stop pero addict talaga. Until na karma, I lived at my sister’s house before, now I am out na at balik sa parent’s ko. My brother in law nangbuso sakin, minanyak ako and hinipuan. It was a mess to the point na I wasn’t safe anymore. Sinabi ko na sa parents ko and pumunta sila para sunduin ako. Pinagalitan, iyak, galit, at disappointed and lahat dahil sa the trust was broken. Now, I know this is karma, nadamay pa kami anak. Sira na relationship ko sa sister ko, obviously, pipiliin nya maniac nyang husband na walang respect sakin. So, now andito ako sa part nang ugat, my father is a poor man with anger jealousy maniac issue, I love my father pero I can’t deal with him. I am single and may work online. Currently, nakatira kami sa relative namin na may sariling bahay. Pinatira kami dito. Now, should I talk to my father about his behavior? My mum wanted to leave him pero yun mahirap pa nga kami. Naka depend si mama sakin kase 2 sisters ko are married. What should I do?

I am single. My mum and dad are in a toxic relationship. Father ko may problem, now my mum wants to live with me kase gusto nya iwan si father. Or mapalayo man lang sya. I don’t like my dad. What can you advice? Kunin ko ba si mum without telling my dad where she is ever?

How do you know if the apology is sincere ng husband? After the confrontation, the next few days:

Him: Nag emote emote ka pala dyan. Wag kana masyado mag focus dun sa nangyari. Kung iisipin mo may mas worst pa na lalaki sakin. Pag malaman ng parents mo, madidismaya sila for sure.

What remark is this?

Female: I am currently living sa bahay ng sister ko. May anak sila isa. 1 year and 5 mos narin ako dito. I am old enough na in my late 20’s. Nagkaproblema ako financially kaya dito muna ako nakistay. I pay my own food, everything except sa rent. Bahay to nila sa kanila na and I always please my brother in law na pabili ng veges, rice and gamot. Pinapadala ko lang. Di kami close the, small talks lang. I was shocked the other day kase wala sila lahat so I go on with my routine and after taking a bath, may natinig akong tao inside pro I continued to my room para magbihis and after confirmed nga meron si Brother in law. I asked him where sila ate and blah blah… He then told me if pwede ba ako makausap sandali. Then, I said yes. He asked me How am I? Okay ba ko dito sa bahay? With my sistet? Nephew? Then fas forward… he wanted to show me yung reflex like massage. Then, he grabbed the alcohol and magson para itry sa arms ko and then I thought that was it, pero umabot na sa lower knee and I was holding back na sabi ko in my mind, last na to then ayun kasama na sa back, I insisted na wag na pero na pursuade ako. I thought sa back lang pero kasama na pababa like sa pwet na upper chicks na talaga. I was frozen and couldn’t believe na aabot sya dyan. I said something para mastop na sya then he did the crack crack something sa bone at the back like he was hugging from the back once and wala crack na bone so I said stop na but he insisted na one more, so he did it again. Then went to his room and to the kitchen and I was about to go to my room but he extended his arms in a form of hug, 1st time huh I hugged him then umalis na sya. I was shocked parin and a few minutes, dumating kapatid ko. I di not tell her yet kase wala ako sa isip and no basis pa ako. Fast forward…he invited me to go with him alone para mag practice driving a car pero secret lang kai ate kase di papyag si ate sa renting a car to practice. I said busy ako. Second time ko na to ni reject offer nya, una before the massage thing. Next, nagpabili ako gulay and fruits sa kanya and he said libre daw, for the 1st I was here, libre na. Then, after a day or two, he called while I was still sleeping at 10:42 in the morning, 11am pa ako magising kase. Then, he said, sorry sa disturbo but may sasabihin lang ako then the call ended becos lowbat na ako. After that, I suspected already something is wierd na talaga so, I told my sister na how was your relationship with him? Blah blah blah and that’s it… suddenly my sister said na bbefore when I was with them din in my early twenties, may nangyari daw pero she cannot say it kase sabi ni brother in law, hihiwalayan nya si ate if sasabihin sakin. I insisted my sister na sabihin sakin pero ayaw nya. What could it be? And pipiliin nya husband nya over me. Then she shrugged it off na wala man hindi daw ako yun. What do you think?

Hi, up until now, it is still in my heart whenever I watch famous vloggers, I always feel like there’s a nudge inside of me like you should try, should do it. Eever since when I was young, I always wanted to be in the spotlight, but, I’m just too shy about it and I don’t have a big support system around me, but it never leaves me. It’s always there. I tried different ways to vlog like faceless, ASMR, and inspirational vlog. Nothing happened!