u/Mentally_Recovering

So I'm going to start this off by saying I only embroider for myself to keep in the hoop and hang on the wall. I have never sold or gifted my embroidery to anyone.

A few month back I started embroidering a bird and obviously needed a reference photo. I googled "cardinal on a tree in winter" and used this real photo of this cardinal to embroider. I am not a good embroiderer by any means and it turned out wonky and horrible lol.

Anyways I posted the reference photo and my finished cardinal to an embroidery facebook group. I did not expect my post to be removed and then accused of copy right. I screenshotted the picture and posted the link to it as well so people could literally google the photo. I figure the photo artist would want me to link them.

Is what I did wrong? I mean I provided the link and everything. Some comments i saw on my/others post is you have to ask for permission to use a reference photo and if you don't have permission it is copy right.

I am confused by this because there are several people in this facebook group posting bugs/birds/animals they embroidered while not linking their reference photos??? so i guess if we don't link it we aren't stealing even if we are using references?

can y'all share your thoughts and opinions and let me know if i am wrong?

also every single embroidery I have done used a reference photo i just don't post all of my pieces so i guess no one knows.

(just found this sub and have so many opinions on crafts and art so I have been scrolling this sub continuously since i found it)

so 3 years ago when i was indoctrinated into AA I decided to become a "member" of the Wednesday group. they gave me the job of setting up chairs and greeting people. My AA group hosted the regional AA admin meeting (idk what to call those people). We voted on this meeting of several changes to AA including the declaration at the beginning "AA is a group of 'people' instead of 'men and women'" kind of thing

fast forward at this regional meeting we are voting and changes to the big book. one major change was taking out the phrase "lustful enough to rape" and replacing it with a more accurate phrase. there was push back from an old timer who said why change the big book it has worked for decades. we tried to explain the lustful wording was horrible but he said that "new comers are changing a program they barely understand"

finally i had my last moment of sanity leave when we were voting on some more changes to the big book and the program. some old person who has been in the program 45 years said "these young people are ruining the program. why do we need to change?

I left after that meeting.

first off why are you in a program for 45 years if it works you should't need it after that long

second that "lustful" wording is disgusting and shows SA as an act of lust instead of power

and third why am i giving my time and money to a program that is this stuck up and holier than thou?

so yesterday I go to take out my trash. the dumpster I am going to is a normal apartment flip top dumpster across the parking lot. I have to walk out my door and another 30ish feet to the dumpster and through the parking lot with cars in it.

As i am walking i notice both sides of the parking lot isle are filled with cars and there is no free spot left.

I walk back from the dumpster after dropping off my trash and again see the isles of cars.

When I go to put my car in my garage 5 minutes later I see a huge long industrial dumpster (think ones they put in drive ways of houses under construction) in one isle of cars. this dumpster takes up 5 whole spaces of cars. It is move out/in season in the apartment complex i live in so there *was* a dumpster like that for several weeks.

however I did NOT see this dumpster that is now 15 feet away from the flip top dumpster. it literally appeared out of nowhere! I did not miss an industrial length dumpster when i would have had to walk right by it to the flip top dumpster.

so now at this point there is the flip top dumpster 30 feet away from the door of my complex and also the industrial dumpster

it appeared out of nowhere! I would have seen this dumpster it is extremely huge! and it also had a couch right beside it since its to tall for some one to throw the couch into it

I am at a loss of where this dumpster came from

I made a huge cable crochet blanket that took 7 caron one pounds to make and 2 months and i showed it to my father and he said "ooh you should sell it". No one wants to buy a blanket for $500+. he then asks can't i only sell it for $50 or something?

NO! what the fucking hell!

Knitted several hats for myself as i live up north and like three coworkers asked if i could make them some because mine are cute. Sure I said but I need $45 for yarn and my time.

of course they said "but arent we friends? it doesnt cost that much". then one of them looked up cute yarn online and showed me and said she could buy the yarn and i make it for her...what about my time? i dont work for free! plus you chose fingering weight yarn...

i dont even want to share with my own family or friends anymore! everyone just wants me to sell shit and to be honest i am mediocre at best...

**Very long post, TL;DR at end**

*This is not hate on Christians! I repeat NOT hate on Christians! I AM a christian and pray and read my bible every day. I repeat NOT hate on christians*

Now that that is out of the way...

I have bipolar 1 with psychotic features and to start this post i think i need to explain what that means. It means i have severe manic and depressive episodes, struggle with suicidal urges/Self harm when depressed, and also hallucinate (see and hear things that aren not there). I take my medication, mainly antipsychotics and mood stabilizers and they HELP me a lot! However, they don't take away 100% of my symptoms, I still hallucinate and have hypomanic (less severe manic) episodes and depression. I have been self harm free for 3 years and have not had a major manic/depressed episode in years.

Now that I have explained this I need to get to my main point...

I have had several people in person and online tell me I am possessed, and while i believe in possession, there is also true mental illness as well. I am not possessed. I also have people telling me I am just "psychic" and can see into other realities/the afterlife/can hear God's or satans voice/am connected to the spiritual realm. This is NOT true. I have a verifiable, proven, and treatable mental illness. I am not into self pity, if God wanted to sprinkle some extra mental illness on me I can take it up with him, but I don't blame him at all, I have this life experience for a reason.

Medication helps treat my illness, which is how i know i am NOT possessed. Prayer, while i do that every day multiple times a day, has yet to 100% cure me. I am not saying God can't work magic, he definitely can, but He clearly hasn't cured me. I am not looking for a cure from him, i go to a psychiatrist for that. I, again, pray and read my bible and believe I am a devout and true christian. I try to follow God's word the best I can, but obviously fall short a lot.

Part of my healing and treatment is to take the medication i mentioned and I take my medication as prescribed, which I do. The medication takes away 95% of my symptoms, which I am very grateful for.

I am not the only mentally ill person who has been told they are possessed, I work in an inpatient psych unit and several other people who have my symptoms have told me they were told they are possessed or see into some special realm. This is very dangerous talk! Again, i believe in possession, but also mental illness DOES exist. it is very harmful to tell someone who needs medication that all they need to do is pray and read their bible when in fact they need medication provided by experts. We can believe in possession AND mental illness at the same time. It is not sinful to admit we are mentally ill and need medication. It is possible to have these symptoms and NOT be possessed, in fact, most people have a mental illness not a demon in them.

We need to support everyone who struggle with mental illness in their journey to get better. We do not need to tell them they are possessed and to just pray and seek God and they will be cured. I think first line treatment of these symptoms should be to seek medical care. Back in the very ancient times they thought epilepsy was demonic attack, and now we know its a brain condition.

We need to reevaluate how we respond to mentally ill people and make sure they get the help they need instead of just telling them to pray and seek exorcisms. We need to do better as Christians to understand that mental illness exists. again, i believe in possession, but that is not most of the cases.

I welcome discussion, but outright stigma or lies, I will not put up with. If you want further education I am welcome to discuss. And yes, it is safe for me to work in an inpatient setting with patients.

TL;DR: mental illness exist and it is hurtful to claim possession on someone who is truly mentally ill. prayer works but it does not 100% cure a truly mentally ill person.

so in december i noticed my tooth hurt and was sensitive my old dentist told me then i had a crack in my tooth and took xrays. went to a second dentist to get it fixed and he took xrays and did an exam and said no crack present. then i went back 3 weeks later for a full cleaning and exam which they took xrays again and said no crack. now this week i went in because my tooth has become even more sensitive and again they took the 4th set of xrays and said tooth looks perfect no crack.

so this new dentist who i trust said we could try this MI paste stuff for two weeks and if that doesnt work a crown or root canal. he said he would start with a crown since nothing is wrong with the tooth but if the crown doesnt work he wants to do a root canal. i said to wait two week to see if the paste works since i have never had dental work done (no braces or cavities)

so i go home with the paste and then i decide i want to go to an endodontist to see if their special equipment and new xrays will find anything.

this has been a frustrating process! the xrays all 4 of them look fine and my current dentist doesnt see where the first dentist said there is a crack.

my main question is if nothing is wrong with the tooth like a crack or anything should i get a crown or root canal? root canal seems aggressive but i cant be taking 1200mg of ibuprofen a day for the rest of my life.

i dont have access to xrays but i was told three times that the tooth has no crack by this new dentist and i trust him and his opinion better than the first dentist. im not worried about so much the xray as the question of root canal or crown

so in december i noticed my tooth hurt and was sensitive my old dentist told me then i had a crack in my tooth and took xrays. went to a second dentist to get it fixed and he took xrays and did an exam and said no crack present. then i went back 3 weeks later for a full cleaning and exam which they took xrays again and said no crack. now this week i went in because my tooth has become even more sensitive and again they took the 4th set of xrays and said tooth looks perfect no crack.

so this new dentist who i trust said we could try this MI paste stuff for two weeks and if that doesnt work a crown or root canal. he said he would start with a crown since nothing is wrong with the tooth but if the crown doesnt work he wants to do a root canal. i said to wait two week to see if the paste works since i have never had dental work done (no braces or cavities)

so i go home with the paste and then i decide i want to go to an endodontist to see if their special equipment and new xrays will find anything.

this has been a frustrating process! the xrays all 4 of them look fine and my current dentist doesnt see where the first dentist said there is a crack.

my main question is if nothing is wrong with the tooth like a crack or anything should i get a crown or root canal? root canal seems aggressive but i cant be taking 1200mg of ibuprofen a day for the rest of my life.

i dont have access to xrays but i was told three times that the tooth has no crack by this new dentist and i trust him and his opinion better than the first dentist. im not worried about so much the xray as the question of root canal or crown

I get why he is doing it but the more videos i watch of him the more scared i get of wasps. i saw the executioner wasp video and all i can think is why? he seems to like the pain even if he says he doesnt because why else would he do it beside the BSI scale rating?

from watching him all i can think is i never want to go outside again lol

my first perfume is jimmy choo forever and before that in high school i wore marc jacobs daisy i believe the pink bottle with flowers on it.

I really dont know brands at all and have no clue what is high quality. I have a budget of about $30 a month for beauty and am wanting to slowly build up my collection. this seems impossible though because its so low budget and i feel good scents are hard to come by at such a cheap price

I have looked into discovery sets but what if i dont like the scents of all of them? I wouldn't call myself cheap per say but i dont want to spend money on a set where i dont like multiple ones in the set

is my budget going to make perfume shopping impossible? i cant wear perfume to school its against my programs rules so i wear it to work on weekends

I am doing a part time program so I went to school part time this past school year and will finish the program this coming school year. I havent studied since summer started in may and i feel like i forgot everything! when are people using to study for their CMA cert? websites? I am so stressed and dont want to fail when i take my exam in august this coming year

this nest has been sprayed twice and this past winter my friend took out his pocket knife and destroyed the nest only for them to come right back to the same spot. I can't call maintenance because they leave my sliding door completely open when killing the nest and wasp get in my apartment. I am at my wits end with this issue i just want to stand on my porch and enjoy the weather without getting stung.

we use wasp killer and spray the nest doesnt seem to work. it is yellow wasp if that makes a difference. how can i repel these evil creatures?

So in december I got told by a dentist i had a crack. However when i went to get a second opinion they did x-ray and exam said no crack. went back in may to the new dentist and they took more x-rays and did a cleaning.

Just last week when i eat sweets and cold items the tooth that the first dentist said was cracked started hurting. but again x-ray and exam shows no crack with second dentist (which i trust them more)

do i have a crack or not? is there any other reason my tooth would hurt?

ETA: It ONLY hurt when i ate cold cherry pie on my right side and only that one tooth hurts. I just swished with ice cold water and it didnt hurt. I flossed and my gums dont bleed or hurt. I eat a lot of sugar and only that one cold cherry pie hurt it.

so my current perfume is jimmy choo forever and I LOVE it! However, I don't smell the scent profile it describes and when I smelled the other perfume to sample it just smells like fancy soap bars. I never got the "woody" or "cherry" or "flowery" scent.

Is my nose broken? the jimmy choo forever smells like good soap to me but I know im missing the entire scent profile.

any tips on how to open my nose?

I (29F) live alone and am single. I have an older male friend (48M) that is a great friend to me. we met almost 5 years ago. Over the last 5 years he has done several helpful things for me including picking me up 4 times after my car broke down and then driving me to work when my car was in the shop. He is a devout christian and we are always talking about the bible. He has a wife and an 18 year old and I think he just celebrated his 20th wedding anniversary. He took me out for my birthday while his wife was working but she knew about it and was fine with it.

The problem is my therapist over the last year has been asking "does his wife know about you?" "is his wife okay with him taking you out to dinner?" which I then asked him after our session and he said yes his wife knows about me. On top of that I have met his wife on several occasions and had a movie night with them at their house.

My therapist seems to think he is trying to get with me or something. I said if he was he is playing the extreme slow game of not making a single pass at me for 5 years. Still she always takes on this tone of "why is he around you". It's starting to annoy me because his wife is his first and only love in his life so he very devoted to her. And again he is a devout christian. I also played D&D with him and his 18 year olds friend group which was very fun.

I am also not interested in him because he is married! I have no desire to get with him. This most recent therapy session I told my therapist that he came over for 30 minutes after he finished work to just hang out with me and my therapist thought this was very inappropriate.

I DON'T want to get with him and he sure as hell does't want to get with me. He calls me Kiddo for crying out loud! I see him as the uncle I never had for goodness sake!

Is my therapist being out of line? is my friendship inappropriate?

So between the years of 2013-2014 I read a series found in my high school library about a boy who discovers a demon world at a party out in the field. the opening scene i can remember is our male protagonist watching as a portal opens and demons come out. later on in the book he joins forces and fights these demons with the ability to go back and forth between worlds. He can see these demons in the human world while others cant.

thats all i remember from it but i would really like to read it again! it had i think 8 books in the series

I think it had "demonata" in the title (if that is the title) but i am also unsure if it was YA or adult