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For as long as I can remember, I've always done it silently (or at least very quietly) with my mouth closed. It's completely automatic and just feels natural to me. I do it the same way whether I'm alone or around other people.

Because of that, I've never really related to posts about accidentally doing it loudly, trying to hold it in, wondering whether to leave the room, or deciding if you should say "excuse me." I still let the air out, I just do it in a way that isn't really noticeable, so I've never thought of it as holding it in.

I've also always felt a little disconnected from those conversations about how you should be comfortable enough around a partner or close friends to do these kinds of things freely. The assumption always seems to be that people behave one way in public and another when they're alone. But for me, being my authentic self already means doing it quietly, even when nobody else is around.

My guess is that it's because my tongue naturally rests against the roof of my mouth and controls the airflow, and it also feels like the air often escapes through my nose. I've never consciously learned or practiced it, it just comes naturally. 

I never really thought about it until recently, but now I'm curious. Does anyone else naturally do it this way? 

For as long as I can remember, I've always done things like burping, chewing, yawning, and other everyday habits quietly and discreetly. I do them the same way whether I'm alone or around other people. That's simply been my default, so I naturally find it unpleasant when others don't do the same.

Unlike a lot of people who feel the way I do, I wasn't raised with especially strict manners. These habits weren't drilled into me, and they've been automatic since early childhood. It's simply what has always felt comfortable to me. I remember being bothered by these behaviors even when adults in my own family did them. Reading another post here made me realize that some people developed these pet peeves because of how they were raised, whereas mine seem to have developed independently.

When it comes to burping, I've never really related to people who say doing it loudly is accidental because my automatic habit has always been to release the air quietly with my mouth closed. I think this has less to do with anatomy and more to do with habit and muscle memory. Whatever someone consistently does in private becomes their body's default response, so if they're used to doing it loudly when alone, it makes sense that it might occasionally happen in public without meaning to. On the other hand, if the quiet version is already automatic in private, there's much less to consciously control in public. That's why I think changing those accidental moments starts with changing the habit in private. 

Chewing with an open mouth is probably the one that bothers me the most because it can go on repeatedly throughout a meal. Some people in my family do it, and I've also noticed it from strangers, like someone loudly chewing gum in a school lounge. I find myself wondering why it feels so automatic for me to avoid but seems less automatic for some people. I can't imagine hearing myself chew that loudly and not wanting to stop. In a similar way, I think many habits begin in private and naturally carry over into how we act around others.

Talking while chewing is another one. If I have to speak with food in my mouth, I stop chewing first, keep the food to the sides of my mouth, and briefly speak without letting it noticeably affect my voice. I've noticed people in my family, and even celebrities in interviews where they're eating, casually talk while actively chewing. Meanwhile, I naturally avoid doing that even in private settings where there would be no social pressure to do so.

The same goes for passing gas, hiccups, and yawning. I never pass gas around other people, no matter how close we are, both as a courtesy to others and because it's simply my preference. I've noticed some people have loud isolated hiccups or yawn with exaggerated sounds, and while I understand hiccups are more involuntary, my automatic habit has still always been to keep my mouth closed and make these things as quiet as possible.

I've also always preferred to eat in ways that would generally be considered polite, both as a child and still today. Even as a child, I avoided using my hands to eat anything wet or messy whenever possible because I disliked the feeling of food on my hands, face, or clothes. Since many people assume young children are less concerned about things like that, it's something I've found interesting in hindsight. 

To me, this shows that these kinds of preferences don't only come from being taught certain expectations. They can also develop naturally on their own. I'm curious whether anyone else relates to that experience.

For as long as I can remember, I've always done it silently (or almost silently) with my mouth closed. It's completely automatic and just feels natural to me. I do it the same way whether I'm alone or around other people.

I've never really related to posts about accidentally doing it loudly, trying to hold it in, or wondering whether to say "excuse me" or "sorry." I still release the air, just in a way that isn't noticeable, so I've never thought of it as holding it in. My default is simply to do it silently, even when I'm by myself.

I think it might be because my tongue naturally rests against the roof of my mouth and controls the airflow, but I don't consciously do anything. It's just the way my body seems to do it, and I've always preferred being quiet.

I also find loud burps unpleasant to hear, so I've wondered whether that influenced me not developing that habit, or whether I've just always been this way.

Does anyone else naturally do this, even when alone?

For as long as I can remember, I've always done it silently (or almost silently) with my mouth closed. It's completely automatic and just what feels natural to me. I do it the same way whether I'm alone or around other people.

I've never really related to posts about accidentally doing it loudly, trying to hold it in, or considering whether to say “excuse me.” I still release the air, just in a way that isn't noticeable, so I've never thought of it as holding it in. My muscle memory is simply to do it silently, even when I'm by myself.

I think it might be because my tongue naturally rests against the roof of my mouth and controls the airflow, and it also feels like I often let the air out through my nose. It's completely automatic rather than something I intentionally learned, and I just keep doing it that way because it's comfortable and I prefer being quiet.

Does anyone else naturally do this?