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▲ 363 r/davidlynch

Toothpicks

I think when we see him with a toothpick, he is in a period of trying to quit smoking.

I've been on a Lynch binge over the past few months. I've watched each of his films on DVD/Blu-Ray immediately followed by the bonus features/documentaries. Nearly every minute of Lynch behind-the-scene video shows him holding or smoking a cigarette - except for during the filming of Wild At Heart. During the bonus features of Wild At Heart, he is always shown with a toothpick. There is not a single shot of him smoking, although many of the cast and crew are shown smoking around him.

I read that he also chewed one during the filming of Fire Walk With Me.

Quitting smoking is one of the hardest things a person can do, and it must have been so difficult with so many other smokers around him constantly, on screen and off. Wild At Heart especially has a lot of smoking and fire motifs included in the imagery.

I think I only noticed because I'm a former long-term, heavy smoker. I attempted to quit many times over the years and was finally successful 7 years ago.

If he had been successful in quitting back then, perhaps we would have gotten many more years with him and his art. I read that in his final months he was finally able to kick the habit and encouraged everyone to quit smoking. I don't think that message gets shared as much as he would have liked.

So I guess this is just me sharing that message. It's so fucking hard, but it is possible, and it is a worthwhile challenge. You can do this 💪

u/MissDiagnosedMama — 5 days ago
▲ 532 r/NoLawns

Wildflower Meadow

Just wanted to share this beautiful wildflower covered empty lot in our neighborhood. I'm so grateful that they chose to make this instead of having plain monoculture grass.

The signs say "DO NOT MOW, DO NOT SPRAY, WILDFLOWER AND POLLINATOR HABITAT"

Missouri, 7a

u/MissDiagnosedMama — 8 days ago
▲ 54 r/openmarriageregret+1 crossposts

Sex only outside of the marriage

Update: Thank you all for your thoughtful responses and discussion points. You have given me a lot to consider. I appreciate that so many of you have shared your experiences with similar situations.

There has been a second wave of responses [perhaps my post has reached the general public (i.e. less open-minded) outside of this sub] that have assumed malicious intent on my part, and are assuming that I'm trying to trick or manipulate my husband or create a situation that would harm him for my benefit. Some even say that I have cheated and want his permission to continue. That is completely incorrect. I have never cheated and would never cheat.

The entire reason I posed this question is to see how to best handle this situation in a respectful and ethical manner, so that all parties are leading a fulfilling life. My husband and I are both very open-minded people, so I thought it would be beneficial to consider possibilities outside the societal norm of simply separating.

A big thing I'm realizing thanks to some thoughtful commenters is that my husband may feel forced to make a decision that he is not actually comfortable with just to prevent the separation. I think couples therapy with an open-minded counselor that is accepting of ENM and/or non-traditional relationships may be the best way to work through all of this.

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Original post:

Has anyone here opened their marriage, but no longer has a sexual relationship with their spouse?

ETA: I would love to hear from others that have experience with this type of non-traditional relationship dynamic - whether it went well or went badly

I am interested in staying with my husband and remaining partners in running a household and raising our two young children together, but I am no longer sexually attracted to him and do not want to continue that part of our partnership. [Redacted info about my own sexuality as I don't think it's necessary to have the discussion]. I am not interested in seeking new to sexual partners for the foreseeable future.

I want him to have the great sex life that he deserves. The thought of him being in a sexual or even emotional relationship with another person does not bother me at all.

Has anyone been successful (or not) with this dynamic and would like to share some insight?

This discussion assumes he would want to stay in a relationship like this. Obviously I know that he may not be comfortable with this and may simply want a divorce when I bring it up. I'm just curious if something like this has worked for others.

ETA: I'd really love to hear from people who have tried something similar (successfully or not) or have other insights into open relationship dynamics. Disrespectful comments from those who have no interest in discussing the dynamics of an open relationship are not adding anything of value to this conversation and will be reported/blocked.

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u/MissDiagnosedMama — 13 days ago
▲ 83 r/davidlynch

Not sure if it was David Lynch or production designer Patricia Norris, but they sure loved the look of snake plants.

I suppose Sycamores and Douglas Firs are also obvious choices.

u/MissDiagnosedMama — 18 days ago
▲ 35 r/twinpeaks

Does Dougie know he's a tulpa? We don't see much of Dougie before Coop joins him/takes over his body. Does he have weird past memories from Agent Coopers life? Or does he have an amnesia of sorts wherein he doesn't know anything about the time before he came to be?

Do only some tulpas know they are tulpas? It seemed like Diane's tulpa possibly knew that she was a tulpa. Or maybe she really thought she was original Diane, and that's what caused a lot of her stress and anxiety...?

I know I shouldn't try to make too much sense of things because that's how Lynch operates, but in case I may have just missed some details, I wanted to see what the group thinks about this.

u/MissDiagnosedMama — 22 days ago