u/Mofiru_

I'll be honest, I already experienced the "I'm attracted to you stage" a couple of times. But I always wanted to date someone I truly loved, not just liking them. So it led to nowhere because I didn't feel attached enough and didn't want anything physical either. I know this is me and my issues with bonding, but now I feel old enough to be willing to try and meet someone. In my job I only interact with women so I don't have much time for going on dates and dating apps seem icky.

I'm a latina from Chile, someone from here would be ideal. But I'm open to meet someone from other country, someone who travels or is planning to at some point because otherwise it's going to be impossible to meet irl.

About me

(physical appearance) : 5'6/167cm — slim body — brunette — brown eyes — white skin.

(hobbies/things I like) : playing videogames (I love interactive stories, Rockstar games and horror games, rpg games) — watching "halloween-themed" series or movies (like AHS or Harry Potter for example) — animals — cooking and baking — reading books — amusement parks — listening to different types of music (pop, phonk, k-pop, old reggaeton, classical music, even soundtracks from games/movies)

Chilean women have strong attitudes so if you're looking for a compliant girl we're not compatible...

My type

(looks): I like pretty/handsome/cute faces. That's it. You can be chubby, skinny, fit, blonde, brunette, redhead, doesn't matter. Taller than me because sometimes I wear heels.

(personality): mature, respectful, supportive, protective, caring, kind... Basically a gentleman. I'm pretty feminine myself so I'd say it's fair enough. Strong enough to handle food poisoning in case I create a new living being while attempting to bake a cake.

Over 19 and under 29.

¡Holi! Tengo 21 y soy de Chile. Busco amiguitas pero si eres chico está bien también.

Amo los videojuegos (favoritos Detroit Become Human, TLoU y TWD, algunos de Rockstar Games e RPGs Indie de Horror. También Crash Bandicoot, Stardew Valley, Los Sims, Pokemon) — gustos variados en música phonk, pop, reggaeton antiguo, k-pop, etc — series favorita Gravity Falls, Malcolm in the Middle — me encanta Halloween y la ficción mitológica/sobrenatural y Harry Potter — me gusta el anime, los animalitos, hornear y cocinar — la moda, el skincare, los perfumes — mi arma favorita es el AK-47

Basically what the title says, haha.

For English I'm interested in people from the USA or UK. (I'm more familiar with American English, but I want to learn the "og way" as well!)

I'd say I'm pretty good when it comes to listening and writing... A few mistakes sometimes...

According to a test my current level is B2... The goal is C2. But in order to reach it, I need to learn a more... Sophisticated vocabulary? If that makes sense. Also, learning how to pronounce correctly is very important to me. For starters, I don't understand the difference between beer, bear, beard. Also witch - which. When someone says them I do because of ahem context, but when it's my turn to say them, things get real.

Regarding Russian and French. I have no knowledge about the language. A few words at most.

Some random details: I'm 21. From Chile (Latina, for a better understanding) so lf people above 18 and under 29. That's all!

I met a Slavic guy (not in real life, online.) and at first we were friends... But now we're not? At some point we started to feel attracted to each other? I like him and I think he likes me too. If I take too long to reply he keeps asking me if I'm busy or if he's bothering me too much. We often send voice messages and we already know what the other looks like. We play videogames together.

Sometimes we struggle to communicate, mostly because the only language we have in common is English. I'm trying to learn a little bit of his language and teaching him my native language as well, but it gets messy because we're not actually learning anything important. Just a bunch of stupid words lol

I've noticed that we have a lot of cultural differences, he's very straightforward and while I appreciate it, sometimes it feels like he's going too fast. For example, when I flirt even if it's a compliment he gets really freaky for no reason but when I say I'm uncomfortable he seems to understand because he says he's not going to push it and talks about something else. He's also very open-minded? Like he doesn't even hesitate to tell me about his experiences regarding intimate stuff 💀

Now here's what made me post this. He mentioned marriage after a conversation when for some reason we ended up talking about the kind of life we want to have. He asked me if I'd see myself marrying him and having kids. I didn't know how to reply and I felt pressured to answer so I told him I didn't know because we didn't even know each other. I think he got mad because now his replies are kind of dry but I asked him if he was mad and he said he wasn't. And now we barely talk.

He's 25 and I'm 21.

When a chubby guy has blonde hair or blue eyes with a cute face... I find him ridiculously cute. I think it's because when I was a teenager I saw a tall, fat guy with dark blue eyes in a farmers' market and thought about him for days... He saw me too. Too bad he was too old for me (I was 16 and he was 24) then I never saw him again. It was like the average guy falling for the McDonald cashier lmao

The problem is, it's hard to find a guy that fits this description, at least in my country. You know, not those fat guys who spread hate against women but that kind of fat guy that simply lives his life peacefully and is genuinely kind. I hate a little extremely attractive guys that look like playboys when they smirk at me like that's going to make melt instead of throwing up. And cute chubby guys look pure, kindhearted, thoughtful, safe. Plus a comfortable pillow to hug. Fit guys you can't even hug them without feeling you're hugging a rock. I know I shouldn't criticize good-looking men, but I can't stand them, most of the attractive guys I've met irl are evil with animals and appreciate no one but themselves, besides they're lustful + shallow and only caring about themselves.

There. I had to say it somewhere...

When I was a kid I used to be bullied by the same girls that were my first friends, until I got tired of it and confronted all of them (even hit some of them too.) Their response was "I don't know why I hated you." — I had other girl friends when I was a lil girl until my puberty, but shit was Chernobyl because three of them would cry and give me the silent treatment if I gave too much attention or affection to other girls and I also did the same a few times— so the entire group cut all ties after a certain age because I think we realized how toxic we were being. Of course I matured a lot and I cringe every time I remember that.

Nowadays, I don't even have a girl best friend. It's kind of depressing seeing TikTok trends or reels made for besties. In my IG account I follow girls mostly. I'm pretty female centered. And yet, despite liking their stories and being supportive and sweet to them, most of them only watch all my stories and never react to them, leave me on read or even unfollow me after I post a selfie but ironically they don't remove me from their followers...

When a girl compliments me I feel so happy. I think I crave female validation. When guys compliment me or something it's nice and all that but it doesn't give me the same happiness that female attention gives me.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Sometimes I think about it, what's wrong with me? What am I doing that it's making girls dislike me for some reason?

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Contexto aquí:

Hace un tiempo trabajé con unos Venezolanos (un chico de mi edad y una mujer 10 años mayor) que estaban de forma ilegal en el país. Al principio ninguna queja eran agradables y me enseñaron ya que yo era nueva. Pero conforme me fui amistando más con ellos empezaron a decir que los hombres de mi país eran feos y que los Venezolanos habían venido a "mejorar la raza" y que las mujeres aunque decentes eran feas comparadas a las Venezolanas.

También decían que nuestras playas eran terribles, el agua muy fría y que preferían mil veces la playa de su propio país dónde el agua es más cálida. Y la comida, diciendo que la comida venezolana era infinitamente superior a cualquier comida que tenemos acá.

Se la pasaban hablando de mujeres y calificandolas por sus rostros y cuerpos, imagino que de mí lo habrán hecho a mis espaldas ya que alguna vez los escuché hablando de que tenía una cintura pequeña o algo así.

Al principio aunque es un poco impactante escuchar comentarios así, se entiende que tengan preferencia por su propio país. Sin embargo, cuando ya siempre lo están diciendo se hace tedioso e incómodo. Y no eran solo ellos dos, en ese lugar estaba repleto de Venezolanos que compartían la misma opinión.

En lo personal, no tengo nada en contra de los Venezolanos, solo tengo curiosidad acerca de si esto es algo así como algo cultural entre ustedes y no lo dicen de una forma despectiva o con la intención de ofender.

So... The only words I know are kochanie and suka lmao other than that I have no knowledge about Polish Language.

My native language is Spanish. I have a decent level of English. I understand Brazilian Portuguese too because our languages are very similar.

When I was a kid I played a game called Socom 3 and they mentioned Poland aaand that's how I knew Poland existed. Also, I had a dream in which I was in Poland and it was like a snowy paradise with delicious food lol

Since then I've been interested in visiting the country but before doing so I want to learn Polish. At least to be able to understand a casual conversation. I'm not sure if I could, though. People say it's a very difficult language for people that doesn't speak any Slavic language. However, I do like challenges.

I have tea, guys. Drink a coffee or eat chips while you read this. (For context we were both 20)

When I was working in a hardware store, I met this introverted guy who was... Confusing. I thought he disliked me. But according to his friend (lesbian girl who also worked there) I was the one acting like I disliked him. That wasn't my intention, saying that I didn't know how to approach him because he was quiet and barely responded + my other coworkers were super friendly.

At first, I avoided him because he never said hello or goodbye to me. Then, somehow we got very close. I'm extroverted and talkative — so he became more talkative as well. Suddenly his friend told me that he liked me but he was unsure about my feelings for him and she made it sound like he really liked me. I knew he wasn't going to say anything so I texted him, asking him if he liked me. He said yes, but he also that he didn't know if I liked him back and that I was confusing. I told him I liked him, but since I barely knew him it wasn't a strong feeling.

We tried to get to know each other, but we had nothing in common at all. Although he wanted to impress me by playing my fav game and that was really cute. Told him I never had a boyfriend. Then he gave me flowers, chocolates... A bouquet of flowers, more chocolates. He protected me from a old guy that was trying to flirt with me, always helping me and so on. He was being a gentleman, basically... At that point I really liked him so I was being sweet and affectionate with him and even sharing my food w him and giving him cakes or ice cream lmao. His friend even got mad because he brought sweets from his country and he didn't give her any bc he gave them all to me.

Then he changed. He stopped walking me to the bus station to make sure I was safe and went with his friend instead. And they stopped sharing their food with me. Or when they went to buy snacks or drink coffee they wouldn't even ask me if I also wanted one. Of course at first I felt kind of upset, but then I realized I wasn't entitled to him so I simply assumed he had lost interest and stopped talking to him.

His friend asked me why I was treating him badly again. It pissed me off bc when she was mad at him he'd quickly try to fix it but when I was upset he'd simply avoid me. And apparently I was the one to blame, with him saying that we weren't dating because *I* didn't want to be with him when he never asked in the first place? — We fixed our issues at some point and he asked me out. Since we were coworkers it was almost impossible but I accepted anyway. He asked me "what are we?" and I said nothing because he never asked me to be his girlfriend, then he got mad and said that "he wanted something beautiful with me"

For a few days he walked me to my bus station and things were getting better, until he made a joke because a stray dog I petted and fed got hit by a car a few hours later, saying that it died because I touched the dog while laughing with his friend. And that's when I lost all interest I had in him. I started to reject him and he got truly mad. He didn't even apologize for that awful "joke" despite being very aware that I adore dogs.

When I left that job, he kept texting me sending me reels of relationships between people from different countries and also asked my address because he wanted to see me... I didn't reply and he quickly stopped texting me. Something that makes me feel relieved tbh

My question is: Why did he act like that? When I talk about it with my friends they say I did nothing wrong, but they're mostly girls so I want to know a guy's opinion because I realized I don't understand men at all lmao

Latina here wanting to improve her awful English (my understanding is pretty decent, unsure about pronunciation) also wanting friends from other countries 💗 mostly lf ig mutuals but I also use discord.

I can teach you how to insult people in "the hardest language" in the world: 🇨🇱Chilean Spanish. If you already know some Spanish, even better.

If you're learning English too we can practice with each other, nationality doesn't matter.

A little bit about me:

• I'm ambivert. I can be both the listener or the yapper.

• I love Animals. If you have pets and love animals too then we're soulmates already.

• Halloween is my favorite holiday and love stuff related to it.

• My fav cartoon series is Gravity Falls and non-cartoon Malcolm in the Middle. I also like South Park and Rick & Morty.

• I play videogames. My favorite ones are from David Cage and Rockstar Games. Also TLoU, TWD, LiS, RE, horror rpg games and so on... Currently playing Stardew Valley only because I'm obsessed.

• I like anime. Not "Otaku level" but sometimes I yap about my fav animes/characters.

• I find shitpost funny. Cringe posts too, they're entertaining.

Keep in mind that I got a job and a life, so don't take it too personal if I don't reply fast. But I'll always listen or read your messages and reply as soon as I can.

For girlies: I love perfume, mostly obsessed with sweet fragrances. Skincare/haircare + pretty feminine clothing but I love baddie core too. 💕