u/MoonriseTurtle

Growing up, I was never the "girly" type, but it never really bothered me. I knew I was smart and had a lot going for me. Now that I’m out of uni, though, I’ve started feeling really "masculine."

My partner loves me as I am, but I can’t stop comparing myself to the Hijabis I see on Instagram. They look so put-together with their effortless makeup, great style, and photogenic faces. Meanwhile, I just feel frumpy.

I take good care of my body and workout, but anything traditionally feminine just doesn't come naturally to me. I wear baggy clothes, I don't know the first thing about makeup, and I hate seeing photos of myself, my hands arent long or pretty. It’s really starting to mess with my self-esteem.

I’d love to tap into my feminine side, but I’m scared of losing who I am. I honestly can’t tell if I genuinely want this change, or if social media is just making me feel like I need to fit in.

I would appreciate any advice. How do I become more feminine? Please give me tips

Growing up, I was never the "girly" type, but it never really bothered me. I knew I was smart and had a lot going for me. Now that I’m out of uni, though, I’ve started feeling really "masculine."

My partner loves me as I am, but I can’t stop comparing myself to the Hijabis I see on Instagram. They look so put-together with their effortless makeup, great style, and photogenic faces. Meanwhile, I just feel frumpy.

I take good care of my body and workout, but anything traditionally feminine just doesn't come naturally to me. I wear baggy clothes, I don't know the first thing about makeup, and I hate seeing photos of myself, my hands arent long or pretty. It’s really starting to mess with my self-esteem.

I’d love to tap into my feminine side, but I’m scared of losing who I am. I honestly can’t tell if I genuinely want this change, or if social media is just making me feel like I need to fit in.

I would appreciate any advice. How do I become more feminine? Please give me tips

The whole album is perfect

I've been strength training for 1 year now. The other day, I was talking to the gym's PT. I told her that I don't know how to structure my upper body days, I know what the main lifts I need to do (with emphasis on back), but I have no idea how to incorporate arms and shoulders into it logically. And I told her I feel like I'm lagging on the arms part. I also explained that I was trying to hit each muscle group twice per week.

She dismissed all of that and suggested a chest/back day and arms/shoulders day. The INSANE part is that she suggested I do 4 back exercises and 3 chest exercises on the same day. For the other day, 5 shoulders exercises and 4 arms (2 different exercises for isolating triceps and 2 exercises for biceps)

Chest/back:

1. Lat pulldown

2. Seated cable rows

3. Face pulls

4. Single arm dumbbells rows

5. Bench press

6. Incline bench press

7. Machine chest press

Arms/shoulders:

1. Shoulder press

2. Lateral raises

3. Front lateral raises

4. Upright barbell row

5. Tricep ex #1

6. Tricep ex # 2

7. Bicep ex # 1

8. Bicep ex # 2

9. Face pulls for shoulder

Guys, please tell me that this is insane BS, right? I tried the arms and shoulders routine, and I felt like I was on the verge of injury. I just didn't want to disagree with her because she's certified and like it felt wrong. I would appreciate it if someone could share their upper body routine with me because there's no way in hell I will follow this.

I know a lot of us relate to the song Phoebe, and some of you might find it sad, but I personally find it really empowering. I sometimes struggle with feeling like i don't fit in and feeling weird or not attractive enough. That's why I resonate with the message behind the song Phoebe. I might not be the most attractive, but I have a lot of wonderful qualities that I value personally not related to looks, similar to Phoebe Buffay.

On that note, a while back, I compiled a list of creative people who inspire me so that on the days I feel down about myself, I remind myself of what really matters to me.

Some of these women include Phoebe Bridgers, Chappell Roan, Rosalia, Rama Duwaji, Audrey Hobert, Hayley Williams, and the designer Alexander Mcqueen. There are many more that I forgot. I just love creative people or people who aren't conformists.

Who is your Phoebe?

I'm one of those people who had been waiting for new music for a while, with Punisher being my comfort album. I was super excited to hear Lost Boys, and I liked it on the first listen, but i wasn't obsessed. I took a break from it, but now, coming back with no expectations, it feels so fresh, and the more I listen to it, the more i find myself appreciating it. I’m excited for whatever direction the new album takes!

How do the producers prepare the islanders for the outside world? Especially in this case when they're getting so much hate. I wonder if any previous islanders have talked about this?