u/More-Cut3515

I'm curious if anyone else experiences this.

I tend to pick up on people's personalities, values, communication style, and intentions fairly quickly. Because of that, I often lose attraction early if I realize we're probably not compatible.

For example, if I notice that someone isn't emotionally mature, has values that don't align with mine, or seems to approach relationships in a way that wouldn't work for me, it's almost like a switch flips. Flirting stops feeling natural because my brain has already categorized us as incompatible.

Another part of it is that I don't really enjoy small talk or playful flirting for very long. I'm much more engaged by meaningful conversations about people's experiences, goals, beliefs, or the way they think.

The downside is that dating feels difficult because attraction disappears before anything has a chance to develop. Sometimes I wonder if I'm judging people too quickly, and other times I think I'm simply filtering for compatibility very early.

Has anyone else experienced this? If so, how do you balance giving people a fair chance without ignoring genuine incompatibilities?

I am a calm guy, introvert, not high energy high exitment type of guy but people enjoy my company, i have a lot of friends etc.

I am big on self improvement lately, lost a lot of weight still losing it, having my own small business, charachter development and everything.

However, i struggle to attract women, i mean i dont attract them at all. I am told i give nice guy energy, that my face is "too cute" for a man, but still i dont see what i am doing that makes ne a nice guy. I am not agreeable too much, i am not empathetic to women (even attractive ones) i dont chase attention and so on.

What do you think i could work on to give more "masculine" presence or energy without faking to be someone else?

Thanks

Why do girls give me the nice guy label without even talking to me?

I would not say i am one, i mean i am not a loud guy i dont tease women and dont engage in conversations that are shallow or meaningless but i would not say i am nice.

Especially i am not that empathetic or caring, i am often cold or too direct with my opinions.

I dont understand what gives nice guy energy about me.

Does anybody have any ideas what could it be?

What does give away nice guy energy like immeditaly. I have received the nice guy label a couple of times without even engaging in conversation or sharing an opinion, i mean like in the first few minutes.

I am not a loud guy, i am pretty calm focused, dont like being the center of attention if it is undeserved. But i would not say i am nice. Actually i am known by people to be not that empathic, being too direct often, sometimes cold etc.

Why do women immeditely get the feeling that i am a nice guy whithout even talking to me?

Can you tell immediately if he is a nice guy, and what gives it away?

What is the best way to DM a girl that you dont know, you just follow each other? But how do you do it to actually get to know her, no hookups or anything like that?

What is the best approach? Do i just DM her cold, or like something then wait for her to like something back etc.

Amateur in dating here so any tips are welcome

I have been trying to wear contact lenses but every time i try putting them it takes me 20-30 minutes to pull it off.
I happen to bring the lense on my eye and the finger is on my eye but then the lense comes off when i remove the finger. Watched tutorials and everything but i cant figure it out.

Any advices?