u/Morrit99

Ok. So I have never had much luck on online dating. Would anyone mind helping me create one? I was going to use AI but I feel that's a bit cheating...

If I lay it all out, would you mind maybe giving me a bit of a hand? What to put and what not to put please?

So, about myself.

I will get the bad out the way.

I am disabled, I use a wheelchair when I am out and about but I can still walk.

I am a rather large chap but am on my major weight loss journey. So far lost 10 stone in the past year with at least another 10 to go.

I have my own place, live alone with my dog, cat and snake, in the countryside of Warwickshire.

Due to health reasons I am out of work. Spent the past 10 years in recovery.

I am a great cook. I was a chef for about 10 years. Worked in Michelin star kitchens. I have a passion for food, so definitely a foodie.

I am pursuing a degree in Psychology, with a potential for a degree in Law as well, see how it goes.

I am a bit of a sci fi nerd, so I enjoy that sort of thing. I enjoy gaming, museums, history.

I don't drink. I smoke, don't do any recreational drugs.

I'm 6'2".

I will admit, talking about myself makes me cringe. I am very shy but I love to make people laugh, when I am comfortable with someone I am always making them laugh, so I can be a bit of a goofball.

I am divorced, been single for 6 years now. Sounds corny, but I have been through a lot of therapy to come to terms with significant trauma in the past decade and childhood. Losing all my close family and trying to rebuild my life from scratch has taken a toll, but I am much more confident and secure in myself. A lot of soul searching and motivation rather than wallowing in self pity. It's been tough, but I am out the other side.

Also, I don't have many pics of myself. Being such a big chap I have always avoided cameras. Have a self conscious image problem. What sort of photos would I include?

Thank you in advance. Please try and be kind. I may not be gifted with health and good looks, but I do enjoy banter so... Go for it. 😂

You often hear stories about how some men send random women dick pictures on dating apps without provocation or any suggestions. It's just one day, a lad texts a girl and BAM. There is his member, standing to attention.

Clearly, some of them are proud of their meat and 2 veg enough to send them. But a pork sword is not a pleasant sight.

In the history of online dating, has this EVER worked?

Btw I am a bloke, and never sent an unsolicited picture of my wee fella to anyone...

I set up a new desk clamp set for my HOTAS today and thought I would have a quick spin, see what my ship is up to.

Turns out there has been a lot of activity because I was in an inhabited system. Now, I remember dropping out of FSD with very little fuel and it was empty so that was a nice surprise.

I thought "I'll have a quick pointless round the system, see what's going on."

That was 5 hours ago... I haven't even tried my VR on yet!

Will be taking a trip back to earth for a look see tomorrow... Find the Voyager probe. Then do more transporting of groups! Nice little earner.

I missed this game.

As the question says, can am international LD relationship work?

To me, it would need to end up with someone moving to the country of one of the people in such a relationship.

In my youthful years I was in a couple of international relationships and it was kinda fun, really exciting but also frustrating. Can't just pick up the phone and arrange a quick visit, it is a logistical and expensive nightmare.

I no longer have the drives or urges I used to. Being older and wiser means I have left the urges behind and now just seek companionship.

I LOVE living on my own too. I have just moved into a place that is MINE to do what I want. In the past I moved in with girlfriends or wife, and it was never truly my own to begin with, now I have that, I enjoy living on my own under my own terms. Not sure I would give that up without serious thoughts. Plus...the view from my house is legendary.

Of course, a bit of nookie now and then wouldn't go amiss, but I much prefer company and cuddles and the intimacy involved there. What was fun in my 20s is not needed nowadays really. But being able to say goodbye and have my.own space again would be something. Not sure I could give that all up again.

So, what experiences do other folk have? How do you make it work? What distances are we talking here? How long have you managed to keep it going.

Btw, I am not in any relationship at all right now, but I have seen people discuss them quite a bit now and then, which makes it seem that they are more popular now than when I was last on the scene.

Also, where are you based? I'm in the UK, to me long distance is anyone over 2 hours drive away, whereas in America that's 'just down the road' so that's a consideration.

I am gonna have a bit of a rant, so please bear with me. I am sane...

I have lost weight, a significant amount. Still a long way to go. I am 6'2", I can carry it off well when I stand up. But when I sit down, my belly is still really big. My legs push it up and I hate it. To compound the issue, I am predominantly in a wheelchair due to mobility issues. So I am sat down most of the time.

My confidence is still in the pits. I really want to go dating. I'm 46, single and have been working on myself for a good few years. I have a dog, a cat and a snake. I have a flare for cooking, I am a bit of a geek too. Being disabled and overweight is a major hindrance to me and, as such, I lack confidence in approaching women because of my belly. Once I get talking, I am in my element, but I just... I'm so used to not being able to break the ice because my belly gets in the way of my own self consciousness.

I let myself go after getting married. After getting divorced I just spent time as a single man. Revisiting myself. Over 20 years as a boyfriend or a husband, I felt I wanted to know who I was as a person. So I spent time on my own. Becoming a better person, self care, reflection... I was in no rush to get into anything romantically.

I have now lost over 10 stone, but I have a long way to go yet.

I don't like full body photos of me because my belly is all that people will notice. That and the wheelchair.

And the main issue is because of how fat I look sitting down... What should I do?

I am disabled, but I'm not looking for a carer. I am ambulatory, in that I can walk, but find it uncomfortable and often painful. As such, any photos of me are when I am sat in my chair, belly up... I just feel so UGLY and it kills what confidence I have.

I never used to be like this. How can I boost my confidence? Do women look at people and say "Ew he is so fat!" Or is that my self defeatist brain talking?

Spoilers for all books, do not read if you haven't read all of them.

So, I'm relistening to the audiobooks and now I know everything, I can pick up bits I missed.

So, I wonder what you guys think of Zev.

She is not a party member but in the later books, she doesn't seem as... Warm, despite all that has happened to her.

So, in your opinion, do you think she has an ulterior motive? What role do you think she will have?

And more importantly, will Carl ever trust her?

I find her character incredibly interesting. Similar to how there were decent soldiers and politicians in Nazi Germany; they weren't Nazis but they were still proud Germans, but their government was what it was. They resisted in their own ways but we're subject to severe punishments for any sort of resistance.

We know her family was exterminated, so she is clearly angry, so will she bring down the remnants of the Kua-Tin Borant corporation entirely and support the revolution or does she feel superior to everyone else, and will start to try to rule a new?

Also, sorry, but point out interesting tidbits you may have noticed.

Life all has the single common ancestor... Trees through to people etc.

So... If a single cell went to consume ANOTHER cell, but due to a quirk in genetics, it didn't consume but instead, began a symbiotic relationship, then would that make that 1 cell who consumed the other, the source of all complex multicellular life? Or, is it likely that cells started to absorb other cells, then one of THEM divided itself to make more cells?

Sorry if that doesn't make sense... But I can accept that evolution is fact, but I cannot make sense of the actual start.

For billions of years, life was single celled, then one consumed the other, and then the predator prey relationship began and, I presume, that made life explode because life survived by evolutionary quirks making them survive over others. So, I was wondering if it was because of this that life evolved, all because 1 cell consumed another...?

I am planning on making a traditional French Onion Soup for a friend to show off my culinary skills.

I haven't made a FOS for about 30 years. Last time I made it was at Claridges, and we had delicious veal stock.

Times have changed significantly in regards to animal husbandry and the ethical treatment of veal calves. And I am all for it. I also know that British veal is amongst the best in the world.

I have searched online and everywhere I look, they sell veal, but not veal bones. Otherwise,they are sourced from Europe which is not,in my opinion, an ethical choice.

If I need to, I will use beef, but if anyone knows of anywhere that sources veal bones, pop me a message below please?

We used to roast the bones and a mirepoix of veg, and simmer the stock for about 24 hours, extracting as much flavour as possible without damaging the delicate flavour. Then that would go on to be used for various sauces and soups. We just used to dig in what we needed. It never went to waste.

So, plan is to get some bones, do a nice brown veal stock, and show her how a PROPER French Onion Soup is made. I have a source for some nice big french onions, I might even try and find my old petit marmite to serve it in get some proper Gruyère, sourdough bread... That would be awesome...

Anyway, thanks in advance