u/MostZealousideal7149

One thing we all seem to notice that they have in common is that they have a "traumatic" past. For some reason we all take that as fact and want to help them, but as time goes they create new "traumas" that may even include us or people we know. When we look at these new traumas we know they are complete BS or at BEST totally exaggerated. Why do we never question the initial trauma as well if we know most of our pwBPD are liars? I'm always afraid to talk about this because a lot of us here don't even question the validity of their pre-adult history.

Sorry if this is against the rules, it's just a question that has been sitting there ever since my wife and family have talked about her biomom wBPD. All of the other siblings never had any type of abuse other than standard dad being a hard ass but my MIL has written countless letters to the family about the abuse she endured when NONE of the others recall anything like that out of 6 siblings.