u/Mountain_Visit_7942

Hello all,

I have a rather niche and difficult conundrum which I am completely in the dark about.

I (34F) am a freelance design director of 6 years and born and raised in London with an English mother and Italian father. I have naturally always have dual citizenship for UK and Italy.

6 years ago I met my Italian partner in Venice, and he is from Venice. We’ve been long distance / travelling back and forth and recently we decided I would move full time to Venice and we would start our family there.

This is complicated for my career for a number of reasons:

I don’t really speak Italian

I would make half what i make in England if I freelanced with Italian clients

All my 6 years freelance connections (that get me work) and accountant are from England. This is the main and biggest point - I wouldn’t know how to get work from Italy. Especially as my Italians rubbish.

Ideally I would like to move my residency to Italy, but still keep my sole trader business in the UK. How would this work tax wise (can I pay half half?) and is there an accountant out there who would deal with this kind of situation?

Also, a lot of gigs I get often say ‘must be UK based’. So I’m assuming if I was suddenly Italy based this would cause me problems? Would uk ad agencies in london not hire Italian (tax-wise) freelancers?

Please can ANYONE who knows about this offer some advice?

Thanks
Xx

Grew up in the uk. Friendship groups and family fell away slowly. Moved to Italy in the hopes of finding myself for 5 years, felt lonelier than ever. Moved back a year ago and somehow I’m even lonelier.

The problem is clearly me. Anywhere and everywhere I move, it remains.

How can I feel at home inside myself.

I was approached by Meta in Feb to join their team. Interviewed, met them in person, and during the interview really felt like I had the job - the hiring manager called me his ‘north star’ when he was prepping the recruitment team of who he wanted to hire. I was really excited.

I left feeling 80% sure I had it in the bag. 1 week later, after pushing them for an answer, they send me the automated ‘we’re not proceeding with you application’ process. No feedback, no explanations, even though I asked. I was disappointed but got on with life and left it behind me.

I wonder now whether these Meta layoffs may have been the reason that this recruitment process didn’t continue. Would I be naive to believe this to be the case? Would they have been preparing for these layoffs all the way back in Feb?

Pretty much says it all. Over a lifetime they’ve all excluded me and hurt me individually in major ways and after trying to rectify things and always always always being the one to reach out when things go south, I’m ready to turn a corner, accept that they’re just not my people anymore, and fade out of their lives.

I just need advice on how to do this mentally. I’ve known them my whole life, but I want my brain not to wander what they’re up to or whether I’m missing out etc etc. what do I do when I catch myself wandering? Already restricted them all on socials, just need to figure out how to restrict in the mind now.

Tks x