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Just hired at a post in CA filled out everything as far as the Background checks and drug test. However I don’t have my guard card, will they help me pay for that if so that would be great! or should I come money ready?

My mom keeps saying this to me. And it hurts my feelings so bad. I don’t know why she continues to say this I just want her to see I’m a person now. My own person.

I’ve (19f) been trying to hang out with my mom for the last couple years so today. I finally decided to ask her why she never wanted to hang out with me in her response was “ We can sweetheart we can go to a movie 🍿 if you want to , it’s just seems like you’re really into your friends and you’re life just waiting for my moment. You never ask to walk with me.” Mind you I tried to ask her to go to the beach the day before that and the weekend before that I asked her if we could go see a movie I bought the tickets, but she bailed. I’m just confused on what she means what she says she’s waiting for her moment… I’ve been waiting for my whole childhood. Open to all advice

I feel dumb for doing it for their respect or love. I’ve done this multiple times gotten skinny gotten big. I will say whenever I was very skinny everybody was nicer 😂

Edit: also asking this question because I have a lot of friends, both guys and girls who either feel like they have to be super jacked or really toned and very skinny in order to have somebody like them

I (19F) and my mom (50F) live in the same house but barely speak. For context, my mother’s way of hanging out with me when I was younger was taking me to get my hair done nails done feet done, but she never took the time to actually talk to me. I believe at the time I gave a pass because she was also being physically and emotionally by my father the fast forward to present day. Her and my father have gone through a recent divorce and she mentioned that it was cold. So I finally had the courage to tell her that she never really got the chance to know me we decided to have a conversation, but I feel like she was debating me the whole time and wasn’t really listening to certain things said or tuning me out. feel like every time we talk things escalate and every time I try and hang out she’s always busy or she can’t because she’s trying to figure out things for the house or too tired . I invited her to lunch, the beach, idk what else. She mentioned that she was gonna try but I haven’t seen any effort since that day we had that “talk”. Some days you walk past each other and don’t say anything I feel attention. I try not to hold resentment but some things I can’t get over it. Being told that she loves me but doesn’t like me struck me to my core. I feel like she doesn’t love the true me then? Should I I try one more time? Does she simply have zero interest in me?

This is a sensitive topic for me, but I need help. , I (19F) have been overweight for most of my life. I got really heavy my freshman of hs year weighing about 240 I felt gross and disgusting so I wanted to make a change for myself. I started tracking calories and I eventually lost all my weight but by middle of sophomore year and kept it off all the way up until the end of my senior year. I got down to 180 I was happy. I thought it was because I was back in school and having lunch and eating whatever my friends wanted to eat (skinny friends). Now that we’ve graduated I’m still struggling to get the weight off. I feel so unmotivated and disgusted and disappointed mostly in myself. I felt like all the years I was working hard it went to waste. I feel like all of my friends back home to see how much I’ve gained and I’m ashamed. I’m back but around 225lbs. I feel like I’m stuck and alone. Not to mention my parents and brother commenting on how fit I used to be everyday.

I (19) and my mom (50)/dad (54) perceives me as antisocial not remotely empathetic. In reality, I’ve been told by friends and friends of family members how outgoing, I am funny and extroverted. I truly believe that if my parents saw me the way I am with them they would be completely shocked and have no clue who I am. For context both of my parents have been emotionally and physically abuse at one point. My parents have been going through a divorce however, my mom seems to be taking it a little harder. She’s currently battling for her life due to cancer and other health problems. I feel bad but I also feel like my emotions are being dismissed in the middle. She asked me to pick a side. I said no. That I would remain neutral as any person should (depending on the situation). My dad has moved to another state now and my mom seems to be mad at me only for some reason. For a little more context, lol I am the youngest of four boys and the only girl! My mom told me “you need to move out or pick a side”. So I told her I’d be staying with a friend for a few days and then she seemed to get upset that I actually was gonna leave??? she said many more hurtful things and has lied to me about doing things to other family members, causing more drama, but I dismissed it because I thought she was going through a rough time but now it seems like she’s being manipulative. She called me randomly asking why I don’t love her and why I don’t understand. I still love both my parents but I have no empathy for their actions or choices. Feel as if they both use the excuse that they didn’t know better and that they’re sorry but it feels like a never-ending cycle and I feel like they’ll just do it all over again once I forgive. I’m only 19 and I feel like I’m 30. Back to my main reason they don’t know me at all. They couldn’t even tell you my favorite color… but they get upset when I don’t talk to them. Am I wrong?

I’m 19 and my mom perceives me as antisocial not remotely empathetic. In reality, I’ve been told by friends and friends of family members how outgoing, I am funny and extroverted. I truly believe that if my parents saw me the way I am with them they would be completely shocked and have no clue who I am. For context both of my parents have been emotionally and physically abuse at one point. My parents have been going through a divorce however, my mom seems to be taking it a little harder. She’s currently battling for her life due to cancer and other health problems. I feel bad but I also feel like my emotions are being dismissed in the middle. She asked me to pick a side. I said no. That I would remain neutral as any person should (depending on the situation). My dad has moved to another state now and my mom seems to be mad at me only for some reason. For a little more context, lol I am the youngest of four boys and the only girl! My mom told me “you need to move out or pick a side”. So I told her I’d be staying with a friend for a few days and then she seemed to get upset that I actually was gonna leave??? she said many more hurtful things and has lied to me about doing things to other family members, causing more drama, but I dismissed it because I thought she was going through a rough time but now it seems like she’s being manipulative. She too has been emotionally physically abused by my father but now I feel like she does the same to us and she gets a pass because she’s “going through a rough time” She called me randomly asking why I don’t love her and why I don’t understand. I still love both my parents, but I have no empathy for their actions or choices. Feel as if they both use the excuse that they didn’t know better and that they’re sorry but it feels like a never-ending cycle and I feel like they’ll just do it all over again once I forgive. I’m only 19 and I feel like I’m 30. Back to my main reason they don’t know me at all. They couldn’t even tell you my favorite color… but they get upset when I don’t talk to them. Am I wrong?

I’m 19 and my mom perceives me as antisocial not remotely empathetic. In reality, I’ve been told by friends and friends of family members how outgoing, I am funny and extroverted. I truly believe that if my parents saw me the way I am with them they would be completely shocked and have no clue who I am. For context both of my parents have been emotionally and physically abuse at one point. My parents have been going through a divorce however, my mom seems to be taking it a little harder. I feel bad but I also feel like my emotions are being dismissed in the middle. She asked me to pick a side. I said no. That I would remain neutral as any person should (depending on the situation). My dad has moved to another state now and my mom seems to be mad at me only for some reason. For a little more context, lol I am the youngest of four boys and the only girl! My mom told me “you need to move out or pick a side”. So I told her I’d be staying with a friend for a few days and then she seemed to get upset that I actually was gonna leave??? she said many more hurtful things and has lied to me about doing things to other family members, causing more drama, but I dismissed it because I thought she was going through a rough time but now it seems like she’s being manipulative. She too has been emotionally physically abused by my father but now I feel like she does the same to us and she gets a pass because she’s “going through a rough time” She called me randomly asking why I don’t love her and why I don’t understand. I still love both my parents, but I have no empathy for their actions or choices. Feel as if they both use the excuse that they didn’t know better and that they’re sorry but it feels like a never-ending cycle and I feel like they’ll just do it all over again once I forgive. I’m only 19 and I feel like I’m 30. Back to my main reason they don’t know me at all. They couldn’t even tell you my favorite color… but they get upset when I don’t talk to them.