u/Nixe_Nox

I was postponing a derm visit for a long time... and finally went. The dr coldly told me that these bumps are blemishes/moles (I am sorry, English is not my first language) and NOTHING CAN BE DONE ABOUT THEM. That's just how my skin is & what my skin does, so I should get over it. Surgical removal? Noo, that's wrong and she won't let me. Skin care? Nothing will help. Any treatments? Waste of money. Oh, but she said I should invest in make up. 😶

Devastating. The first pair (pic 2) appeared maybe 10 years ago right next to my nose piercing, and then some more, and more, and now I also have a couple under my eyes. Most are skin-colored or darker. They never leave, and some days look just awful. Am I just going to be covered in bumps and should accept it?! I have decades more to live in this face! 😭

Context:

• Body-wise, I have had hidradentis suppurative since early adolescence. All my fucking life: pimples, acne, abcesses, cysts, 1 surgery, bumps, shame, FUCKING HELL CAN I AT LEAST HAVE MY FACE LEFT ALONE

• My facial skin is normal but with an oilier nose that has always produced excess sebum.

• I have been using spf daily, year-around for the last 4 years.

• When it comes to make up, I regularly use foundation and concealer, rarely anything more.

• I mostly use foam cleansers on my face or the La Roche Posay Effaclar cleanser.

• I don't use moisturizer daily, can't stand it for some reason. Any product I've tried, if I use it every day it feels heavy, oily, suffocating or triggers acne. So I just use a nightly niacinamide moisturizer when I feel actual need for it, about 2-3 times per week.

I am sorry for the emotional tone, I am crying my eyes out because I don't feel beautiful and comfortable in my skin, and I have a wedding to plan. Plus I am not good at make up and don't enjoy it. On top of it all I'm 34 and have to accept the settling of general skin changes.

Please share if you know:

What am I doing wrong?

Is my dermatologist right?

Is there anything I can do to eliminate the bumps and/or prevent new ones?

Thank you in advance 😟

I saw a dermatologist last week, after months of years of trying to not think about this.

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I have bumps like these forming on my nose and poradically on my upper cheeks for years. They form and never leave. I finally had enough and felt so ugly that I went to a doctor. All she said was that they are blemishes/moles (I am not from an English-speaking country) that my skin is prone to producing them and there's nothing I can do about it, and that surgical removal is a very bad idea.

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I have been crying ever since. Can someone please give me some more elaborate advice? Perhaps there's something I can do to at least lessen their appearance?

TL;DR: My relationship has been blessed by the Mug Gods!

A few days ago, my cat destroyed my favorite mug. I don't own an incredible amount of mugs but they are personal and silly and I get very attached to them - this one especially, since it's literally the first mug I've ever known (I was born '92, mug was made '96). It was at my parents house since forever, and regularly used. Besides its adorable, kitchy 90's nostalgic feel, it became a little symbol of the lazy domestic bliss I used to enjoy there. When I eventually moved to another city, it was the only mug I took with me even though I don't care about Easter in the slightest.

So I was upset and talking to my fiancé about it later that day, and he was like "Ah, the one with the flowers and stuff? Don't worry, I have the same one here. Do you want me to bring it over? 😶 You're telling me you've also had MY mug all these years that we've been together and never mentioned such cute info??

In the meanwhile, I was so disappointed and felt that it will never be the same if I fix it (some lost innocence theme, omg), so I should just practice letting go... and after he told me this, I sprung and ran outside to dive in the dumpster and retrieve it.

The reason why this is so interesting is that we live in the Balkans and we're from different cities. I researched and found out that it's an American company (J.I.I.) that mass-produced these mugs. It definitely didn't export to the freshly post-Yugoslavia & post-war markets over here, so this type of goods would most likely arrive through the US military presence, second-hand Western EU imports or diaspora visits.

I find it so cool that both sets of parents went somewhere in the 90s and saw this pastel porcelain thing and thought "We need this". Maybe there were more designs from this line and this was an Easter leftover.

So I am keeping both of them now, and I am fixing mine. I told my fiancé that we were meant to be because the mugs spoke 30 years ago! 😆

Hi community, I love my ring so much & needed somewhere to happy-vent! 🥹

My fiancé surprised me with this ring that he chose himself and he actually unwittingly chose my favorite gemstone, labradorite. He said he simply liked it because "it had this pretty blue" lol Well it shows some gold, lavender and turquoise too. He's a musician with a tight budget but still did such a good job. I am in awe of the stone and also love the silver setting which feels kind of folklore-inspired and perfectly unusual.

We've known each other for 20 years and have been together for 5, but he was also my first love when we met as teens. We shared a unique attachment that shaped me and I never forgot about him. It's surreal that we are engaged now!

Anyway, wishing everyone an amazing day 💙

Hi everyone,

With deep respect to your amazing craft, I am here to seek advice.

I recently got engaged and this is the ring my fiancé chose. I absolutely love it, it is one of my favorite gemstones and the whole design perfectly suits my personality. However, when you have two artists getting engaged, practicality is not a top priority for sure.

The thing is, I want to wear it everyday, forever haha. I always gravitate towards jewelry that I can put on and almost never take off, I just treat it as a part of me, and now I have that urge is doubled by the importance of this ring for me and the love and awe I feel when I wear it.

So I though I have to learn how to protect it and tried to read a bit about the hardness and longevity of labradorite and the safety of the cabochon shape and this setting, and now I want to cry.

The internet says it's kind of a "soft" and porous stone; chat gpt tells me I cannot ever scratch it, hit it, have it come in contact with detergents, grease, sand and pretty much everything other than water, that there are countless scenarios where I have to take it off, etc...

That basically I need to retrain myself into having the most delicate, intentional, controlled movements ever to keep this ring safe. And that EVEN THEN, it will never remain as it is now. Like it's guaranteed to degrade.

But I would really appreciate a real person explaining these things to me.

Are those things true?

Is there anything else I can do to keep it healthy and beautiful for longer? 😭

Thank you in advance 🙏🏻

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So sorry for the weird lighting!

Chicken breast (I believe poached), caciocavallo cheese shavings, lettuce, arugula, one sliced cherry tomato, croutons, some kind of light white sauce and a drizzle of balsamic.

This is my favorite salad from a nearby restaurant and I get it often so it's about time to attach a caloric value to it 😅

Thank you in advance 😊