u/No-Influence-4833

I have a Morton's Neuroma on my right foot and it is killing me. I'm on painkillers from the GP but it's not helping. I am in pain all the time and I feel like I can't do anything active, or even drive the car without severe pain. As I'm laying down watching a movie right now, all I can feel is the burning pain. My GP can't refer me for physio until I get an MRI, which I am on the waitlist for. Does anyone know of anything that can help, or any links to exercises, or any suggestions as to who I should attend to try recover? I honestly can't take the pain.

TLDR: I was told I hadn't checked in a patient yesterday, leading to a 40 minute delay in her being seen. I had in fact checked her in as soon as she had arrived. Both the doctor and the patient made a point about me not having checked her in. I had proof that I did but didn't want to be petty. How do you deal with such situations?

I work in a busy GP surgery, and yesterday a situation arose that really irritated me with a colleague. We all get on great in general but I think this situation yesterday was more about being advised I hadn't done something right, when I had.

Basically, a patient arrived about 15 minutes late for their appointment. They checked in at the desk, acknowledged they were "5 minutes late" and I clicked that they had arrived.

20 minutes later, the same lady came to the desk to say when they GP she was due to see saw her in the waiting room when calling the next patient, the GP told her she was surprised to see her because "she hadn't been checked in". I told her not to worry, she was definitely checked in, and that perhaps because she had arrived late, the doctor hadn't realised and taken the next patient.

Next the GP came down to me to say the same thing, that the patient was waiting over 40 minutes in the waiting room because she hadn't been checked in. I didn't want to get petty and argue with the doctor but on the system I would have been able to show her the very proof that I checked this person in on the system when she arrived late for her appointment. But I didn't want to make a big deal and say "come here and I'll show you".

Instead I just felt really annoyed because not only did the doctor make a point of it, so too did the patient, but I 100% had done everything just as I should have.

I guess my question is, how do you deal with being wronged in the workplace without things being a big deal? I felt like a big deal was being made of me not checking in this patient, but should I then have made a bigger deal of the fact it wasn't my error but the doctors?

I know this will likely happen again so I would like to approach it differently instead of quietly seething the next time.

TLDR: I was told I hadn't checked in a patient yesterday, leading to a 40 minute delay in her being seen. I had in fact checked her in as soon as she had arrived. Both the doctor and the patient made a point about me not having checked her in. I had proof that I did but didn't want to be petty. How do you deal with such situations?

I work in a busy GP surgery, and yesterday a situation arose that really irritated me with a colleague. We all get on great in general but I think this situation yesterday was more about being advised I hadn't done something right, when I had.

Basically, a patient arrived about 15 minutes late for their appointment. They checked in at the desk, acknowledged they were "5 minutes late" and I clicked that they had arrived.

20 minutes later, the same lady came to the desk to say when they GP she was due to see saw her in the waiting room when calling the next patient, the GP told her she was surprised to see her because "she hadn't been checked in". I told her not to worry, she was definitely checked in, and that perhaps because she had arrived late, the doctor hadn't realised and taken the next patient.

Next the GP came down to me to say the same thing, that the patient was waiting over 40 minutes in the waiting room because she hadn't been checked in. I didn't want to get petty and argue with the doctor but on the system I would have been able to show her the very proof that I checked this person in on the system when she arrived late for her appointment. But I didn't want to make a big deal and say "come here and I'll show you".

Instead I just felt really annoyed because not only did the doctor make a point of it, so too did the patient, but I 100% had done everything just as I should have.

I guess my question is, how do you deal with being wronged in the workplace without things being a big deal? I felt like a big deal was being made of me not checking in this patient, but should I then have made a bigger deal of the fact it wasn't my error but the doctors?

I know this will likely happen again so I would like to approach it differently instead of quietly seething the next time.

Supposed to be going to a festival tomorrow, with a big group of people, but I only know like 2 people in the group. It's mainly their huge group of friends from college, so I feel like I'll be very much on the outside.

I tend to get really anxious about feeling like an outsider, which makes me overthink every single thing I do and say, which actually manifests in me being seen as kind of strange, I think. If I just relaxed, I might seem "normal" (for want of a better word) and actually get on ok.

Anyway, this has ended up with me questioning if I should even go.

I've cried a lot this evening, because it's so overwhelming. I know it's just a response to a fear of rejection, of feeling on the outside, and feelings of having felt that before over the years.

I do want to get out of my comfort zone and meet new people to expand my social circle, but this feels SO incredibly uncomfortable, so I don't know if I want to go after all. It's disappointing because I kept pushing through the anxiety, until now. I feel like I'll be sad and disappointed if I don't go, but also the stress that the thoughts of going is giving me is through the roof.

Anyone else understand this? Should I just approach this as "doing my own thing and will join the group for drinks when I feel like it" or should I pretend I'm chill girl who isn't so fearful of being on the outside and go with the group as planned, while at the same time battling with feeling incredibly self-aware and fear of rejection?

Supposed to be going to a festival tomorrow, with a big group of people, but I only know like 2 people in the group. It's mainly their huge group of friends so I feel like I'll be very much on the outside.

I tend to get really anxious about feeling like an outsider, which makes me overthink every single thing I do and say, which actually manifests in me being seen as kind of strange, I think. If I just relaxed, I might seem normal and actually get on ok.

Anyway, this has ended up with me questioning if I should even go. Normally I am ok doing things by myself, but I don't want to exclude myself from the group set up either by just doing my own thing, when the plan was I would be going as part of said group.

At the same time, I want to get out of my comfort zone and meet new people, but it feels so incredibly uncomfortable, I don't know if I want to go after all. It's disappointing because I kept pushing through the anxiety, until now.

Anyone else understand this? Should I just approach this as "doing my own thing and will join the group for drinks when I feel like it" or should I pretend I'm a "normal" person who isn't so fearful of being on the outside and go with the group as planned?

Supposed to be going to a festival tomorrow, with a big group of people, but I only know like 2 people in the group. It's mainly their huge group of friends so I feel like I'll be very much on the outside.

I tend to get really anxious about feeling like an outsider, which makes me overthink every single thing I do and say, which actually manifests in me being seen as kind of strange, I think. If I just relaxed, I might seem normal and actually get on ok.

Anyway, this has ended up with me questioning if I should even go. Normally I am ok doing things by myself, but I don't want to exclude myself from the group set up either by just doing my own thing, when the plan was I would be going as part of said group.

At the same time, I want to get out of my comfort zone and meet new people, but it feels so incredibly uncomfortable, I don't know if I want to go after all. It's disappointing because I kept pushing through the anxiety, until now.

Anyone else understand this? Should I just approach this as "doing my own thing and will join the group for drinks when I feel like it" or should I pretend I'm a normal person who isn't so fearful of being on the outside and go with the group as planned?

Does anyone know if Aldi are selling camping gear or are they finished with it?? I know they tend to have bits as their Special Buys this time of year, but I'm wondering if I've missed it.

I turn 30 tomorrow, and even though I thought I'd be feeling overwhelmed with anxiety about where I am (or am not) in my life, I'm actually very excited. I realised I had undiagnosed ADHD about 2 or 3 years ago after a bad breakup, when I lost all ability to mask anymore with the height of grief.

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Since realising I have ADHD, I am so much kinder and accepting of myself, and I'm much happier because of it.

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I see my 30s now as a new chapter. I learned so much about myself in my late teens and 20s, made mistakes, got to know my values and boundaries, what I want and what I won't accept. Above all, I know that all the "flaws" I had, were actually just a differently wired mind, and knowing that makes my life easier now.

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Of course, I don't have it all sussed. I'm still very messy, my RSD can feel debilitating at times, and just in general, as good as I can feel, I can feel very far behind in life too.

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So, I would love to know, just as I would have advice for my (undiagnosed) teenage self, what advice would you have for me, or your past self, on turning 30, and living a full and happy life with ADHD?

I turn 30 tomorrow, and even though I thought I'd be feeling overwhelmed with anxiety about where I am (or am not) in my life, I'm actually very excited.

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I see it as a new chapter. I learned so much about myself in my late teens and 20s, made mistakes, got to know my values and boundaries, what I want and what I won't accept. I feel good.

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I would love to know though, just as I would have advice for my teenage self, what advice would you have for me, or your past self, on turning 30?