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I know this is yet another post about wanting to quit the corporate grind, but I need to get this off my chest.

Every single day feels like a rat race. And not even a fun one, just exhausting. I wake up dreading work, and I hate that I feel that way because I know how privileged I sound.

I'm an immigrant in a foreign country. No emotional support here.

Back home? My mom is getting older. I see photos of family gatherings, birthdays, random Tuesday dinners and I'm missing all of it. The guilt is eating me alive.

I keep thinking: just go back. Just quit. Just book a flight.

But I don't have "fuck you" money. Not even close. And going back to being jobless in my home country? That's its own kind of nightmare…

So I'm stuck in this limbo:

· Stay here, keep the paycheck, lose my sanity and my family time. I can work in tech but I am not built for all the pressure
· Go back, gain my life back, but risk financial instability and career setback.

I don't know what I'm asking for exactly. Maybe just: has anyone here done it? Quit the corporate overseas life and moved back without a job lined up? How did you survive the transition? Did you regret it?

Or if you stayed: how did you make peace with the trade-off?

I just need to hear from people who've been here. Because right now I feel like I'm failing no matter what I choose.

I know this is another post about heatwave and people are getting enough of it. I know people are suffering, it is a matter of life and death. And honestly, I feel angry because nobody is going to do shit about it. Our beloved government is definitely working in AC building, have their own houses cooling with AC. It’s not like the first year we have this heatwave. Every year I am hearing the same story, bad news is it is just getting worse. Infrastructure is not built around AC for those whose health can’t stand it. I feel sorry and at the same time I don’t see hope in the next 5-10 years or so. This is unfortunately just a beginning, maybe I am just too frustrated about the whole thing and feel powerless because it is not something we can change or have a control over it.

I know this is yet another post about wanting to quit the corporate grind, but I need to get this off my chest.

Every single day feels like a rat race. And not even a fun one, just exhausting. I wake up dreading work, and I hate that I feel that way because I know how privileged I sound.

I'm an immigrant in a foreign country. No emotional support here.

Back home? My mom is getting older. I see photos of family gatherings, birthdays, random Tuesday dinners and I'm missing all of it. The guilt is eating me alive.

I keep thinking: just go back. Just quit. Just book a flight.

But I don't have "fuck you" money. Not even close. And going back to being jobless in my home country? That's its own kind of nightmare…

So I'm stuck in this limbo:

· Stay here, keep the paycheck, lose my sanity and my family time. I can work in tech but I am not built for all the pressure
· Go back, gain my life back, but risk financial instability and career setback.

I don't know what I'm asking for exactly. Maybe just: has anyone here done it? Quit the corporate overseas life and moved back without a job lined up? How did you survive the transition? Did you regret it?

Or if you stayed: how did you make peace with the trade-off?

I just need to hear from people who've been here. Because right now I feel like I'm failing no matter what I choose.

Hey, I want to borrow a bike pump, my tire suddenly is flat. Can anyone help? Thanks!

Các bác cho em xin góc nhìn với. Em năm nay 3x, đang sống ở EU. Mấy năm nay cũng cố làm và tiết kiệm với mục tiêu lâu dài là có quyền lựa chọn hơn trong cuộc sống, kiểu thoát khỏi rat race.

Giờ em đã xong giấy tờ quốc tịch nên cũng cảm giác hoàn thành một cột mốc lớn rồi, thành ra không còn động lực rõ ràng để tiếp tục ở lại như trước nữa. Em cũng chưa có gia đình nên chuyện đi hay ở hiện tại không bị ràng buộc nhiều.

Em có sẵn nhà ở VN, có khoản tiết kiệm ở cả VN và EU tuy không quá nhiều nhưng không phải về từ con số 0. Nhưng điều em thấy khó nhất là không hình dung được nếu về VN thì sẽ sống và làm gì tiếp. Một mặt không còn nhiều năng lượng để tiếp tục guồng hiện tại cảm thấy burnt out và chán nản, mặt khác cũng sợ mình đang lý tưởng hóa chuyện về nước.

Bác nào từng ở nước ngoài lâu năm rồi về, hoặc đang plan về, cho em xin góc nhìn với:
– Chuẩn bị tâm lý/tài chính bao lâu?
– Về rồi làm tiếp, làm remote hay nghỉ một thời gian?
– Điều gì các bác ước mình biết sớm hơn trước khi quyết định?

Em chưa định về ngay, chỉ muốn bắt đầu nghĩ nghiêm túc cho chặng tiếp theo nên mong được nghe thêm nhiều ý kiến.

p/s: mình ở Đức và làm về data

Hey everyone 😊

I’m starting a new role soon that’s more engineering-heavy than my previous experience, and I’ll be working quite closely with data pipelines and orchestration (especially Airflow).

I’m trying to ramp up a bit before starting so I can transition smoothly into the new setup as I have been unemployed for some months.

I’m curious if anyone here has gone through a similar shift, moving from more analytics-focused work into data engineering-type responsibilities and get more confidence on it.

I’d really appreciate any advice on:

•what help to ramp up quickly in the first few weeks

•any practical resources you found useful (not too theoretical 😅)

•how you built confidence working with tools like Airflow

Also happy to connect with other women in data engineering / analytics engineering, always nice to learn from shared experiences 😊

Thanks a lot in advance!

Has anyone else hit a point after 7+ years abroad where they just… lost emotional attachment to the place and maybe even to life structure itself?

I feel strange because objectively I’ve experienced a lot in Germany: jobs, relationships, different apartments, different versions of myself. I gained things, lost things, rebuilt multiple times. And now it feels like I’m emotionally detached from almost everything.

I recently got a new job, which should feel exciting, but instead I just feel tired thinking about doing the same cycle again like a machine. Work, survive, repeat. I’m not even deeply sad every day more like numb and directionless.

What scares me most is not failure, but slowly losing interest in life itself. Not in a suicidal way, more like losing curiosity, attachment, excitement, and the feeling that I’m moving toward something meaningful.

I wonder if this is common for long-term expats after enough resets and instability. Did anyone go through this phase and eventually reconnect with life again?

I’m in a long distance relationship and usually visit my girlfriend once every 3 months for about a week.

The thing is, whenever I visit, I end up doing most of the chores like cooking, cleaning, washing dishes, etc. At first I didn’t think much of it because she’s working and I’m mostly at home during the day while visiting her place. But over time I started feeling less like a partner and more like a maid/helper.

I brought it up to her and she genuinely seems to think it’s fair because “she’s working” and I’m staying at her apartment. But emotionally it doesn’t sit right with me. I travel to see her, spend money and energy on the trip, and then I end up feeling drained instead of cared for.

Another thing that’s bothering me is she can get controlling or angry when things aren’t done her way. Sometimes I feel tense around her and scared of upsetting her over small things.

I’m struggling to tell whether:
- I’m being unfair and too sensitive
- or whether this dynamic is actually unhealthy

Has anyone experienced something similar in LDRs? How did you handle it? I still want to be with her but maybe this is not reciprocated.

Hi everyone,

I (34F, 52kg) have been experiencing abdominal pain for 10 days. The pain moves between my belly area, and upper abdomen. I’ve also had bloating, burping, and some pinkish mucus in my stool.

I went to the ER last night (in Germany). Here are the findings:

• Coprostasis (severe fecal impaction) and Obstipation.

• Ultrasound: look normal, stool visualized

• Bloodwork: CRP is normal (<0.6). Leukocytes slightly elevated (13.31). Hb slightly low (11.6). LDH slightly elevated (301).

•Treatment: Given 40mg Pantoprazole and discharged with a prescription for Macrogol and Klistier

Current Status:

I used an enema today and managed to have two bowel movements. However, the "gnawing" pain in my upper abdomen returns in the evening, especially after eating dinner. I feel exhausted from this and don’t want to go to ER again.

1.Is it normal for the pain to fluctuate (better in the morning, worse at night) even after starting to clear the blockage?

2.Why does the pain feel worse when lying down but slightly better when standing up?

3.Besides the prescribed meds, what are the dos and don’ts or diet for home during this recovery phase?

4.Is it safe to use heat pads or light massage, or could that irritate the bowel further?

Any insight into the recovery timeline or tips to manage the residual gas pain would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

I’m staying in the city this long weekend
I found a few tables in my area near Fennpfuhl Park (Lichtenberg). I’ve got 2 rackets already—just bring yourself.

HMU 🙂