u/No_Championship2739

Is it common for people nowadays?
would you marry someone who doesn’t want children in the future?

Im a student at a community college and I have to transfer next fall. I moved to kenner 2 years ago and i dont know much about the city or LSU so i have some questions.

1. How are the teachers and the environment?
2. I am an introvert so is it easy to make friends, are people friendly?
3. What’s the housing situation?

Recently i came across some couples who actually have their own bedrooms and they said that it’s pretty good since they have their own space etc. They are happily married.

What’s y’all’s take on this?

1. ⁠20f, Ive been struggling with hair fall for the last three years but it was never as bad as it is now. I guess because of school stress or some th inf else but i’ve started seeing my scalp now like it’s that bad and my hair is really thin

2. ⁠my hair is so frizzy and i wash it every other day because i have eczema and the oil irritates my scalp if i don’t wash every other day.

3. ⁠I use shampoo, conditioner and leave in conditioner but it doesn’t help and i almost cried today because i didn’t know what to do

4. ⁠i’ve tried changing shampoos and oils and everything it doesn’t work. i don’t wanna go to a dermatologist because last time he told me to drink more water etc.

5. ⁠Should i get prp or should i try treatments from the salon or should i go for minoxidil.

1. 20f, Ive been struggling with hair fall for the last three years but it was never as bad as it is now. I guess because of school stress or some th inf else but i’ve started seeing my scalp now like it’s that bad and my hair is really thin

2. my hair is so frizzy and i wash it every other day because i have eczema and the oil irritates my scalp if i don’t wash every other day.

3. I use shampoo, conditioner and leave in conditioner but it doesn’t help and i almost cried today because i didn’t know what to do

4. i’ve tried changing shampoos and oils and everything it doesn’t work. i don’t wanna go to a dermatologist because last time he told me to drink more water etc.

5. Should i get prp or should i try treatments from the salon or should i go for minoxidil.

1. I didn’t grow up in pakistan and i don’t have the nand bhabhi mentality. I never expected her to clean after me. She told me i have to do the weekly cleaning and i agreed, the reason i mentioned this in the post is because Ilbefore moving in with them she told me that i wouldn’t have to do anything as her sisters don’t do chores etc.

2. I work 30 hours a week and ive had the same exact job since i was 17. My brother told me to apply to colleges in his state so that we could live together and when i got in with a full scholarship that covers my dorm he insisted that i should stay with them instead my mom asked my sil beforehand if she was okay with that and she said yes.

3. Despite working and studying i would do the weekly cleaning on tuesdays because i don’t work on tuesday’s so im gonna clean next tuesday im not gonna also clean on saturday night after her relatives left that not my job.

4. My sil came from pakistan and she had never had a job in the states so she thinks ke yahan per wesa hisaab hai call karke chuti lelo if i want a day off i have to inform 2 weeks prior. I can’t just come from work so the chores and study i have a schedule.

5. My brother would be at work all day i would barely interact with my sil after the first incident it was me my room and my outside world. My room was my living room and tv room, study room you get the idea.

6. Despite not doing anything she would make up stuff pump my brother up and then my brother would walk in and fight with me. I don’t care what anybody says but that’s wrong and i will not accept the disrespect.

7. She would complain about me not spending time with her but when i did in the beganing she had problems and if i would clean she would pick up minor things and yell about me not cleaning right. She’s at home all day no kids, no job she can do that herself. I’m supposed to do my weekly cleaning i did it any afdistional carpet saaf karna sofa vacuum karna she can do it.

8. I’m financially stable my dad after all of this got me another apartment and at that time my brother insisted again ke mujy nahi jana chahiye idk why lekn i lived out, i have a job, i do my own taxes and im happy .

9. It was a rant and thinking about these things still hurt me and it effected me and my brothers relationship lekn ab kuch nahi hosakta is wajah se rant kia tha or koi bhai behn nahi hai jiske sath rant karu. Abhi bhi meri bhabhi ko problem and ke milne nahi ati, kıs muh se milu.

10. The people who said that mere parents ki ghalti hai, unki kya ghalti hai ke unhone bary bhai ko behan ka khayal rakhne de dia tha wo bhi unse puch ke wo bhi isi ghar mein jo mere parents ne lia tha like make it make sense please.

I’ve always lived away from my brother cause we have an 11-year gap, so he went away for college, and from age 10–14 we always talked on the phone and video calls, etc. Fast forward, he tells us about a girl that he wants to marry, and we flew to see him and the marriage happened.

I used to live alone with my parents, so I didn’t really know about privacy. Like, I was the only child. So when he got married and we were living with him for a few days, to me, I was only 15, and I just thought that okay, I’m gonna leave soon and I have to spend maximum time with him. Mere zehan mein, I just felt like he loved me like he used to, and I swear he treated me the same, exactly the same. I was a big extrovert back then and would easily make friends, but my sister in law’s family would make fun of my English, and one member said that I was self-obsessed and what not, but I didn’t really care. I was only 15.

A year later, we (me and my parents) visit him again, and honestly, I was so dumb. I don’t have a sister, so when my brother got married, I thought that wow, now I have a person who would never betray me. I used to share my things with her. I’m a very private person, so I didn’t share any detail about my life (shukar hai). Everything was normal because we would see each other for a month and then we would fly back, but when I permanently moved in with them for uni, things started happening.

My sister-in-law demanded that I would clean once a week and help out in the kitchen.I had never cleaned like that before. My mom never let me. My mom literally treated me like a princess. I didn’t realize it then, but now that I look back, I was living the life. She didn’t spoil me financially, but other than that, she tried to do everything for me.

I said that I’ll try to clean, but I can’t cook and I don’t like the kitchen, and my sister-in-law agreed. So I would clean once a week, and kabhi thek kabhi ghalat, lekin kar deti thi. I also started noticing that she invited people from her family every weekend for a movie night. They were like a year older than me. I would try to vibe and talk, but they always were weird about it, and then I just stopped trying cause I felt like meri unke samne value nahi hai. And whenever they were over, I would have to clean after them. Even if I did my weekly clean, I still had to.

But then one day, I didn’t. I wouldn’t even get out of my room and just completely shut down, honestly not because of the cleaning, but the rude behavior. I was really naive, like dumb. I wasn’t mature or anything. I was only 17.

After a few weeks, out of nowhere, my brother started yelling at me that I don’t clean well, etc. I started crying cause it was the first time he ever screamed at me, but he didn’t stop. “Kuch karti nahi ho, fazool mein beth ke kha rahi ho.” That really hurt after that i literally turned complete opposite of what i was and stopped interfering m their matters and then they complained how i dont take part in anything and im rude i stopped going to their family events etc. These are only the minor things that i stated warn post itni lambi ho jati and honestly i don’t have the words to describe my own brother treated me like garbage.

He would yell at me about small things and act weird and honestly it was because of my sister-in-law he would be at work all day and my she would be at home after the larai i wouldn’t go out of my room other than the kitchen and would just clean after myself but she would make up stories about how i was rude and literally lie to my brother and eventually after a week or so my brother would burst. It became a weekly thing but i moved out alhamdullilah and at first he would pretend like everything is okay and visit lekn ab mera dil hi nahi hai karta kisi se baat karne ka.

Also i’m not saying ke meri bhabhi ki sati ghalti hai i acknowledge the fact le mera bhai bacha nahi hai and the thing is that he never loved me like brother otherwise he wouldn’t have treated me the way he did.

The friend i had for 8 years is now not interested in conversation and doesn’t wanna hang out anymore😓