The "active managers underperform the S&P" misconception and the wrong conclusion it implies
If you don't know how the financial industry works the "active management is worse than S&P" argument appeals directly to the image of Wall Street as full of flawed human beings who act irrationally and make mistakes vs. the S&P which can do no wrong and will return you a 10% CAGR year over year without failure if you just trust the system, buy and hold, time in the market, 10 best days. This misunderstanding of why the majority of actively managed products underperform the S&P produces the wrong conclusions for retail investors.
Most of the actively managed mutual funds are just "fee traps" that methodically extract from retirement accounts. The worst offenders are "contrafunds" that don't perform (but a lot of employer 401ks will offer for some reason), thematic funds that are 90% S&P under the hood, or just total market + bonds packaged as a target date fund. This makes up the vast majority of products classified as actively managed that bring down the average performance of actively managed funds as a category. They are not meant to match the S&P's performance to begin with, they are meant to scrape fees from the financially uneducated.
Endowments, pension funds, institutional portfolios have investment mandates that require they buy international exposure and ESG compliant equities. They have no choice but to buy products that contain "developing world" or "sustainable energy" equities, and Wall Street is perfectly happy to package these underperforming equities up for those buyers who have no say in the matter. This again contributes to the sheer number of "actively managed" products that yes, underperform S&P, and again were not intended to perform well from the outset.
Another thing that's never talked about is the number of portfolio managers who use a high Sharpe ratio return stacking strategy that underperforms S&P by construction but protects capital much more effectively in a broad market drawdown. This is stuff like leveraged S&P plus uncorrelated assets, or hedging with options and swaps. The investors of billions of dollars into these strategies are not stupid, they are aware of what S&P is, they are investing for risk-adjusted returns and are willing to pay for their money to be in these strategies instead of the S&P.
Real returns-focused active management outperforms the S&P by such a wide margin that financial advisors avoid talking about it on purpose because it shows how passive exposure to pure market beta is comparatively terrible for wealth preservation and compounding. Hedge funds, for example, collectively made tens of billions of dollars per day in the first week of the Covid crash and tariff crash, and collectively hundreds of billions in their recoveries. Pershing Square, for example had 44% returns from Jan 1 to June 30 2020 while the S&P lost 3%.
If you're not willing to become financially educated and situationally aware, with basic principles of interest rate environments, risk premium of equities, and basic technical analysis, then allowing your wealth to be whipsawed around by the market is what you'll have to resign yourself to, because it's way safer than taking uninformed action. Just don't kid yourself that Wall Street does the same thing when they actively manage something. They monetize market movements, they're not hostages to them like S&P holders.