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Whenever I try to start studying, or even when I’m in the middle of studying, my brain suddenly makes everything else in life seem more appealing, like scrolling through my phone or sleeping. But when I stop studying, the boredom and usual routine come back. My mind also suddenly gets distracted, and I end up stopping studying just to think about really trivial things. I don’t know if this counts as being distracted or if my brain is just avoiding the effort and concentration required for studying. Could spending too much time on my phone and getting quick dopamine hits have something to do with this problem?

انا مشكلتي هي كل ما حاولت ابدا اذاكر او في نص المذاكره فجاه عقلي يتخيل كل شيء بالحياه صار له طعم مثل تصفح الجوال او النوم بينما اذا تركت المذاكره يرجع الملل والروتين المعتاد ومخي مشتت فجاه اترك المذاكره عشان افكر باشياء جدا تافهه مدري اذا هذا يعتبر تشتت او مخي يهرب من جهد المذاكرة والتركيز ، هل ممكن قعدة الجوال الكثيره والدوبامين السريع له علاقه بهالمشكلة ؟

I was born in the worst place to be gay, which is a Muslim country where most of the people around me support the idea of killing gay people , I remember when I saw that America had legalized gay marriage in 2015, I was extremely happy. I thought I could finally escape to a place where I could be myself without any fear. But I was wrong. Most of the comments I see online from Americans are extremely homophobic. Even on Dutch and German websites, it’s almost the same. Sometimes, there are even comments that can be genuinely violent.
It’s like even the most open countries are still filled with homophobia. It feels like there is no hope for me to live without fear or discrimination. Even if the laws are in my favor, society can still see me as less than human. This really devastates and disappoints me. I’m just like, “If even the most open countries are still like this, then there is no hope for my country, even in 1,000 years.”

I was born in the worst place to be gay, which is a Muslim country where most of the people around me support the idea of killing gay people , I remember when I saw that America had legalized gay marriage in 2015, I was extremely happy. I thought I could finally escape to a place where I could be myself without any fear. But I was wrong. Most of the comments I see online from Americans are extremely homophobic. Even on Dutch and German websites, it’s almost the same. Sometimes, there are even comments that can be genuinely violent.
It’s like even the most open countries are still filled with homophobia. It feels like there is no hope for me to live without fear or discrimination. Even if the laws are in my favor, society can still see me as less than human. This really devastates and disappoints me. I’m just like, “If even the most open countries are still like this, then there is no hope for my country, even in 1,000 years.”

I'm 27 years old man living in a total dumpster fire of a world, and movies used to be my ultimate escape before I lost my passion for them. I used to be the happiest person when I was obsessed with Disney movies, but now I feel like I've lost passion for anything entertaining. It's all because of overanalyzing and self-monitoring—I'm constantly checking whether I'm actually enjoying a movie or a song while I'm experiencing it. That completely ruins the fun and stops me from living in the moment. Plus, I just get bogged down by harsh reality and negative life stuff because I can't escape like I used to. How do I fix this?

انا عايش بعالم زفت ومهربي قبل اني اكون شغوف بالافلام وكنت اكون اسعد انسان لما كنت شغوف بافلام ديزني بس احس صار ما عندي شيء شغف لاي شيء ترفيهي بسبب التحليلات والمراقبة الذاتية اللي تخليني احلل نسبه استمتاعي بالفيلم او الاغنيه قاعد اراقب اذا استمتع ولا لا وهالشيء يحرمني من المتعة وعيش اللحظة وصرت انشغل بمواضيع سلبيه تبع الواقع والحياه لاني ما صرت اقدر اهرب زي قبل ، ايش حل هالمشكلة

انا قي و لا ديني واعاني جدا عشان الاقي صديق او احد متقبلني مثل ما انا بدون تمثيل واقنعه وادور شخص عالاقل ما يتمنى لي الاذى في هذي البقعه بسبب حقيقتي ، هل قدرتوا تقابلون اشخاص مثقفين ومتقبلين وعايشين بدول مسلمه من السوشال ميديا ؟

I’m 27 years old, I don’t have any friends due to social anxiety, and I feel so alone. I don’t know how people can make friends. Also, I can**’**t find someone who I can be myself with, especially since I am gay and agnostic in a Muslim country where 95% of the society considers it worse than being a criminal

ماادري كيف فيه ناس تقول ان الميول المثلية اختيار وحرفيا حياتي صعبه بسبب شيء انا مااخترته انا متقبل نفسي بس مقدر اعيش مع ناس تتمنى موتي ومااعرف اذا اقدر اهاجر ولا لا واحس عمري ضاع وانا عايش بين ناس لو عرفو حقيقتي بيتمنون موتي

احتاج طبيب نفسي ملحد ممتاز ومستعد يتقبلني مثل انا كمثلي ولا ديني الصراحه تعبت من المسلمين

I live in a Muslim country, and I’ve always thought that Western countries—especially those in Western Europe—were a safe haven for everyone in the LGBTQ community. However, I found out that I was completely wrong. The amount of hate directed at trans people is massive. Sometimes, it seems as though the majority of people are against them and treat them like criminals or even devils. How do trans people cope with this amount of hate?

انا تعبت نفسيا ومقدر اروح لمعالج مسلم ابي شخص يتقبلني مثل ما انا بميولي المثلية اللي انا ما اخترتها و باعتقاداتي الشخصيه وهي اللادينية مستحيل معالج مسلم راح يفيدني

مااعرف ليش في عيادات نفسيه وبالاخير ينصحونك بما يتوافق مع الدين والمجتمع ، مثلا فيه مثليين ما اختارو ميولهم والطب النفسي اثبت ان المثلية مو مرض ولا اختيار ولا فيه طريق يمكن تغيير الميول نفسه ومع مستحيل تلاقي الاطباء او المعالجين يعلمون المثليين هنا كيف يتقبلون انفسهم واحيانا بشكل عام لاي حالة ينصحونك بالدين والصلاة عن تجربة شخصية

I’m 27 years gay guy living in a Muslim country I’m unemployed and having no friends and I have social anxiety and very low self esteem , I feel like i’m the biggest failure ever and i dream of being independent and living in a gay friendly country where I can be myself without fear but I feel like even if start planning for this right now I would have lost most of my youth considering that the 20s is supposed to be the best phase of life i almost lost to isolation and failing, even if achieved what I wanted I would be in the 30s and where I wasted all these years before and being closer to 40s where i will start to lose my youth, any advices can help me get me through this ?

I’m 27 years gay guy living in a Muslim country I’m unemployed and having no friends and I have social anxiety and very low self esteem , I feel like i’m the biggest failure ever and i dream of being independent and living in a gay friendly country where I can be myself without fear but I feel like even if start planning for this right now I would have lost most of my youth considering that the 20s is supposed to be the best phase of life i almost lost to isolation and failing, even if achieved what I wanted I would be in the 30s and where I wasted all these years before and being closer to 40s where i will start to lose my youth, any advices can help me get me through this ?

I’m 27 years gay guy living in a Muslim country I’m unemployed and having no friends and I have social anxiety and very low self esteem , I feel like i’m the biggest failure ever and i dream of being independent and living in a gay friendly country where I can be myself without fear but I feel like even if start planning for this right now I would have lost most of my youth considering that the 20s is supposed to be the best phase of life i almost lost to isolation and failing, even if achieved what I wanted I would be in the 30s and where I wasted all these years before and being closer to 40s where i will start to lose my youth, any advices can help me get me through this ?

I saw some gay couples in Paris, but I didn’t see them holding hands. ,Straight people there hold hands and kiss all the time
What does that mean? Isn’t Paris open and liberal ?

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I’m a 27-year-old gay guy, and I’ve never been in a relationship. First of all, I’m afraid to, for many reasons. I also messed up badly in college, and I don’t have any friends, even though I don’t see myself as mean or someone who treats others badly.
I don’t have a job because I don’t think I’m good at anything. I feel like I’m really stupid, useless, and ugly. On top of that, I’m living in one of the most homophobic countries in the world.
I feel like I fail at literally everything.

I’m a 27-year-old gay guy, and I’ve never been in a relationship. First of all, I’m afraid to, for many reasons. I also messed up badly in college, and I don’t have any friends, even though I don’t see myself as mean or someone who treats others badly.
I don’t have a job because I don’t think I’m good at anything. I feel like I’m really stupid, useless, and ugly. On top of that, I’m living in one of the most homophobic countries in the world.

I don’t know how much more of this I can take.