u/Numerous_Actuator547

I already have the quiet ones and don’t want to spend money. Are the quiet ones ok?

Being told you can’t handle when things don’t go your way is hard. I’m made out to be some sort of childish brat when I never make huge demands

Being diagnosed feels the same as not being diagnosed. I see no acknowledgment for my disabilities nor any accommodations being made. I’m not allowed be myself in the one place I should be allowed to. I have to live up to the neurotypical standard there asw. As the only one with autism, I’m constantly being told that I’m always complaining, I can’t do anything and I make life difficult for everyone because of them having to adjust. Before diagnosis it was like there’s only one of me who’s making this request so I should change. I have ADHD asw but my autistic traits are more noticeable. I didn’t ask to have autism though and just because I found out recently after burnout doesn’t mean I’m ok because I’ve been ok my entire life. I don’t know what to do to make people see that I actually struggle and my struggles are valid.

Does anybody else find social events awful? I struggle to fit in with women anyway bc I don’t have stereotypical female interests. If it’s a special event there are so many pictures. Women love taking pictures. I find the entire process exhausting and I try to make myself understand that everyone else likes it. My smile js doesn’t look real. I started practicing my smile and my friend was like we should js tape your face to make you smile. Ik nobody says it but when we look at pictures after and they see my face, ik they’re wondering why I look like that. I have that autistic stare and can’t fake a smile in a picture.

I have ADHD and have been thinking that I might have PMDD. However my symptoms don’t completely ease up when my period starts, for example my emotional dysregulation tends to be pretty bad. Does anyone else experience this or is it js smth else?

Basically what the question says. I’m starting to suspect I have pmdd but am unsure, particularly abt the physical symptoms part. I feel like I turn into somebody I don’t recognise and it’s the worst thing. Wondering how other people’s experiences are. I have autism/ADHD asw if that influences anything and if anyone else has them asw.

Edit: my emotional dysregulation gets worse during my period bc of my ADHD and bc I’m in sm pain. I doubted pmdd bc people’s symptoms go when they start their period and I don’t find that to be the case

Someone’s somehow made their TikTok followers private?? Does anyone know how to do that?

I was looking at someone’s TikTok followers and they’ve somehow made them private?? Does anyone know how to do that?

I was completing a form for Berkeley psychiatrists and I was wondering if the DK option means don’t know?

I don’t understand why people value relationships so much, to the extent that if the person that they’re close to does something wrong they defend them. I don’t care what somebody’s relationship to me is, if they’re wrong they’re wrong and the people in my life know not to come to for that unconditional support. I also hate hearing the whole ‘I don’t want to get involved’ thing. If I’m very clearly not in the wrong but you feel the need to play both sides just because of your relationship to the other person or the stuff they’ve done for you in the past? Like I don’t understand and it annoys me so much. If I saw something wrong happen I would definitely stand up for what’s right no matter what anyone says so it baffles me that other people don’t think like that. That’s another thing that I struggle with - expecting everyone to act like I do and then getting confused when they don’t, especially when it’s something that they clearly should do. Does anyone else feel this way?

My mother just completely dismissed my diagnosis. I’m really upset about it. My brother got assessed for ADHD and has basically been diagnosed. She said that he ‘didn’t have ADHD yesterday’ and basically said that if she’d been stricter he wouldn’t be like this and he’s just misbehaving. First, why get the assessment done if you don’t believe in it? Then she said that he shouldn’t act like me now and how I don’t let her do anything. Basically talking about how I ask for adjustments such as the volume lower or the lights dimmer because of my autism. I didn’t want to have autism? She then said nobody would put up with me and it’s only her who has. She’s all about trying to control your traits and be less autistic and more normal. She also said that I’m not normal which obviously I’m not and called me disabled which was lovely. Any advice and support would be appreciated.

Edit: I do appreciate everyone’s advice but could there not be any name calling. I’m ok with calling out her actions and I’m aware that they aren’t the nicest and we have a complicated relationship but she’s still my mother if that makes sense

I’m struggling a lot with university. There isn’t a set structure and it’s so unpredictable. My organisation and time planning skills are awful and so is my executive dysfunction. I’m constantly missing the train and the whole journey drains me leading to me needing a lot of time to recover. It’s not fun at all. Does anybody have any tips on how to deal with autism/ADHD struggles related to university?