u/OddAd2238

Me (24F) have been talking to this guy in the military (25M) since March. Our issue that not only are we LDR I’m in Canada and he’s in the states but also the fact that according to him I don’t ask deep questions to get to know who he is.
Typically for me I do that in person and by spending time with whoever it is I am with.
According to my friends I am their safe space and they come up to me whenever they need something.
Although yes it is true that I did not ask questions about him until he brought it up, he keeps circling back to saying I am not interested in him but only for his looks and his body…. (He does not know this but he is not my ideal type, so no I am not with him bc of the reasons he provided).
I don’t even want to do LDR but since he came along I have been trying to get closer to him.
\- He is catholic - I am not religious but I started to learn and added Bible verse widget on my phone to read Bible verses every day.
\- We have a two hour difference with him being two hours ahead - I have been going home at 9-10 pm just to call with him (I do not like calls, he does much better on call than text)
\- I tried mentioning to him multiple times that although I want to go see him, my manager and I have been getting into fights because I request days off that others have requested. Another issue is that he keeps getting his deployment extended which makes it harder for me to book a flight considering I don’t wanna go somewhere and end up with him not being where he told me to fly to (he has come seen me once)

He thinks that I do not take him seriously because I do not know much about him and every time I try to explain he keeps saying otherwise and tbh I’m not sure what to do. Now he asked for space and idk how much or how long that space needs to be.

He thinks he is carrying whatever this is, I think that I am carrying the whole emotional baggage of whatever this is.
PS: I have never been in a proper relationship and he knows, let alone ldr

Edit: the amount of times I have asked this man about clarity and where I stand and yet he keeps deflecting, like yes I know it might not work out but I don’t understand why u keep talking to me and saying u want me in ur life but then say I don’t like u for who u r and that I don’t bother to get to know you

Update: we ended it

Me (24F) have been talking to this guy in the military (25M) since March. Our issue that not only are we LDR I’m in Canada and he’s in the states but also the fact that according to him I don’t ask deep questions to get to know who he is.
Typically for me I do that in person and by spending time with whoever it is I am with.
According to my friends I am their safe space and they come up to me whenever they need something.
Although yes it is true that I did not ask questions about him until he brought it up, he keeps circling back to saying I am not interested in him but only for his looks and his body…. (He does not know this but he is not my ideal type, so no I am not with him bc of the reasons he provided).
I don’t even want to do LDR but since he came along I have been trying to get closer to him.
\- He is catholic - I am not religious but I started to learn and added Bible verse widget on my phone to read Bible verses every day.
\- We have a two hour difference with him being two hours ahead - I have been going home at 9-10 pm just to call with him (I do not like calls, he does much better on call than text)
\- I tried mentioning to him multiple times that although I want to go see him, my manager and I have been getting into fights because I request days off that others have requested. Another issue is that he keeps getting his deployment extended which makes it harder for me to book a flight considering I don’t wanna go somewhere and end up with him not being where he told me to fly to (he has come seen me once)

He thinks that I do not take him seriously because I do not know much about him and every time I try to explain he keeps saying otherwise and tbh I’m not sure what to do. Now he asked for space and idk how much or how long that space needs to be.

He thinks he is carrying whatever this is, I think that I am carrying the whole emotional baggage of whatever this is.
PS: I have never been in a proper relationship and he knows, let alone ldr

Edit: the amount of times I have asked this man about clarity and where I stand and yet he keeps deflecting, like yes I know it might not work out but I don’t understand why u keep talking to me and saying u want me in ur life but then say I don’t like u for who u r and that I don’t bother to get to know you

Me (24F) have been talking to this guy in the military (25M) since March. Our issue that not only are we LDR I’m in Canada and he’s in the states but also the fact that according to him I don’t ask deep questions to get to know who he is.
Typically for me I do that in person and by spending time with whoever it is I am with.
According to my friends I am their safe space and they come up to me whenever they need something.
Although yes it is true that I did not ask questions about him until he brought it up, he keeps circling back to saying I am not interested in him but only for his looks and his body…. (He does not know this but he is not my ideal type, so no I am not with him bc of the reasons he provided).
I don’t even want to do LDR but since he came along I have been trying to get closer to him.
\- He is catholic - I am not religious but I started to learn and added Bible verse widget on my phone to read Bible verses every day.
\- We have a two hour difference with him being two hours ahead - I have been going home at 9-10 pm just to call with him (I do not like calls, he does much better on call than text)
\- I tried mentioning to him multiple times that although I want to go see him, my manager and I have been getting into fights because I request days off that others have requested. Another issue is that he keeps getting his deployment extended which makes it harder for me to book a flight considering I don’t wanna go somewhere and end up with him not being where he told me to fly to (he has come seen me once)

He thinks that I do not take him seriously because I do not know much about him and every time I try to explain he keeps saying otherwise and tbh I’m not sure what to do. Now he asked for space and idk how much or how long that space needs to be.

He thinks he is carrying whatever this is, I think that I am carrying the whole emotional baggage of whatever this is.
PS: I have never been in a proper relationship and he knows, let alone ldr

Edit: the amount of times I have asked this man about clarity and where I stand and yet he keeps deflecting, like yes I know it might not work out but I don’t understand why u keep talking to me and saying u want me in ur life but then say I don’t like u for who u r and that I don’t bother to get to know you

Me (24F) have been talking to this guy in the military (25M) since March. Our issue that not only are we LDR I’m in Canada and he’s in the states but also the fact that according to him I don’t ask deep questions to get to know who he is.
Typically for me I do that in person and by spending time with whoever it is I am with.
According to my friends I am their safe space and they come up to me whenever they need something.
Although yes it is true that I did not ask questions about him until he brought it up, he keeps circling back to saying I am not interested in him but only for his looks and his body…. (He does not know this but he is not my ideal type, so no I am not with him bc of the reasons he provided).
I don’t even want to do LDR but since he came along I have been trying to get closer to him.
- He is catholic - I am not religious but I started to learn and added Bible verse widget on my phone to read Bible verses every day.
- We have a two hour difference with him being two hours ahead - I have been going home at 9-10 pm just to call with him (I do not like calls, he does much better on call than text)
- I tried mentioning to him multiple times that although I want to go see him, my manager and I have been getting into fights because I request days off that others have requested. Another issue is that he keeps getting his deployment extended which makes it harder for me to book a flight considering I don’t wanna go somewhere and end up with him not being where he told me to fly to (he has come seen me once)

He thinks that I do not take him seriously because I do not know much about him and every time I try to explain he keeps saying otherwise and tbh I’m not sure what to do. Now he asked for space and idk how much or how long that space needs to be.

He thinks he is carrying whatever this is, I think that I am carrying the whole emotional baggage of whatever this is.
PS: I have never been in a proper relationship and he knows, let alone ldr

Edit: the amount of times I have asked this man about clarity and where I stand and yet he keeps deflecting, like yes I know it might not work out but I don’t understand why u keep talking to me and saying u want me in ur life but then say I don’t like u for who u r and that I don’t bother to get to know you

Me (24F) have been talking to this guy in the military (25M) since March. Our issue that not only are we LDR I’m in Canada and he’s in the states but also the fact that according to him I don’t ask deep questions to get to know who he is.
Typically for me I do that in person and by spending time with whoever it is I am with.
According to my friends I am their safe space and they come up to me whenever they need something.
Although yes it is true that I did not ask questions about him until he brought it up, he keeps circling back to saying I am not interested in him but only for his looks and his body…. (He does not know this but he is not my ideal type, so no I am not with him bc of the reasons he provided).
I don’t even want to do LDR but since he came along I have been trying to get closer to him.
- He is catholic - I am not religious but I started to learn and added Bible verse widget on my phone to read Bible verses every day.
- We have a two hour difference with him being two hours ahead - I have been going home at 9-10 pm just to call with him (I do not like calls, he does much better on call than text)
- I tried mentioning to him multiple times that although I want to go see him, my manager and I have been getting into fights because I request days off that others have requested. Another issue is that he keeps getting his deployment extended which makes it harder for me to book a flight considering I don’t wanna go somewhere and end up with him not being where he told me to fly to (he has come seen me once)

He thinks that I do not take him seriously because I do not know much about him and every time I try to explain he keeps saying otherwise and tbh I’m not sure what to do. Now he asked for space and idk how much or how long that space needs to be.

He thinks he is carrying whatever this is, I think that I am carrying the whole emotional baggage of whatever this is.
PS: I have never been in a proper relationship and he knows, let alone ldr

Edit: the amount of times I have asked this man about clarity and where I stand and yet he keeps deflecting, like yes I know it might not work out but I don’t understand why u keep talking to me and saying u want me in ur life but then say I don’t like u for who u r and that I don’t bother to get to know you

Me (24F) have been talking to this guy in the military (25M) since March. Our issue that not only are we LDR I’m in Canada and he’s in the states but also the fact that according to him I don’t ask deep questions to get to know who he is.
Typically for me I do that in person and by spending time with whoever it is I am with.
According to my friends I am their safe space and they come up to me whenever they need something.
Although yes it is true that I did not ask questions about him until he brought it up, he keeps circling back to saying I am not interested in him but only for his looks and his body…. (He does not know this but he is not my ideal type, so no I am not with him bc of the reasons he provided).
I don’t even want to do LDR but since he came along I have been trying to get closer to him.
- He is catholic - I am not religious but I started to learn and added Bible verse widget on my phone to read Bible verses every day.
- We have a two hour difference with him being two hours ahead - I have been going home at 9-10 pm just to call with him (I do not like calls, he does much better on call than text)
- I tried mentioning to him multiple times that although I want to go see him, my manager and I have been getting into fights because I request days off that others have requested. Another issue is that he keeps getting his deployment extended which makes it harder for me to book a flight considering I don’t wanna go somewhere and end up with him not being where he told me to fly to (he has come seen me once)

He thinks that I do not take him seriously because I do not know much about him and every time I try to explain he keeps saying otherwise and tbh I’m not sure what to do. Now he asked for space and idk how much or how long that space needs to be.

He thinks he is carrying whatever this is, I think that I am carrying the whole emotional baggage of whatever this is.
PS: I have never been in a proper relationship and he knows, let alone ldr

Edit: the amount of times I have asked this man about clarity and where I stand and yet he keeps deflecting, like yes I know it might not work out but I don’t understand why u keep talking to me and saying u want me in ur life but then say I don’t like u for who u r and that I don’t bother to get to know you

TL;DR, he asked for space and said I don’t like him…?

Me (24F) have been talking to this guy in the military (25M) since March. Our issue that not only are we LDR I’m in Canada and he’s in the states but also the fact that according to him I don’t ask deep questions to get to know who he is.
Typically for me I do that in person and by spending time with whoever it is I am with.
According to my friends I am their safe space and they come up to me whenever they need something.
Although yes it is true that I did not ask questions about him until he brought it up, he keeps circling back to saying I am not interested in him but only for his looks and his body…. (He does not know this but he is not my ideal type, so no I am not with him bc of the reasons he provided).
I don’t even want to do LDR but since he came along I have been trying to get closer to him.
- He is catholic - I am not religious but I started to learn and added Bible verse widget on my phone to read Bible verses every day.
- We have a two hour difference with him being two hours ahead - I have been going home at 9-10 pm just to call with him (I do not like calls, he does much better on call than text)
- I tried mentioning to him multiple times that although I want to go see him, my manager and I have been getting into fights because I request days off that others have requested. Another issue is that he keeps getting his deployment extended which makes it harder for me to book a flight considering I don’t wanna go somewhere and end up with him not being where he told me to fly to (he has come seen me once)

He thinks that I do not take him seriously because I do not know much about him and every time I try to explain he keeps saying otherwise and tbh I’m not sure what to do. Now he asked for space and idk how much or how long that space needs to be.

He thinks he is carrying whatever this is, I think that I am carrying the whole emotional baggage of whatever this is.
PS: I have never been in a proper relationship and he knows, let alone ldr

Edit: the amount of times I have asked this man about clarity and where I stand and yet he keeps deflecting, like yes I know it might not work out but I don’t understand why u keep talking to me and saying u want me in ur life but then say I don’t like u for who u r and that I don’t bother to get to know you

Me (24F) have been talking to this guy in the military (25M) since March. Our issue that not only are we LDR I’m in Canada and he’s in the states but also the fact that according to him I don’t ask deep questions to get to know who he is.
Typically for me I do that in person and by spending time with whoever it is I am with.
According to my friends I am their safe space and they come up to me whenever they need something.
Although yes it is true that I did not ask questions about him until he brought it up, he keeps circling back to saying I am not interested in him but only for his looks and his body…. (He does not know this but he is not my ideal type, so no I am not with him bc of the reasons he provided).
I don’t even want to do LDR but since he came along I have been trying to get closer to him.
- He is catholic - I am not religious but I started to learn and added Bible verse widget on my phone to read Bible verses every day.
- We have a two hour difference with him being two hours ahead - I have been going home at 9-10 pm just to call with him (I do not like calls, he does much better on call than text)
- I tried mentioning to him multiple times that although I want to go see him, my manager and I have been getting into fights because I request days off that others have requested. Another issue is that he keeps getting his deployment extended which makes it harder for me to book a flight considering I don’t wanna go somewhere and end up with him not being where he told me to fly to (he has come seen me once)

He thinks that I do not take him seriously because I do not know much about him and every time I try to explain he keeps saying otherwise and tbh I’m not sure what to do. Now he asked for space and idk how much or how long that space needs to be.

He thinks he is carrying whatever this is, I think that I am carrying the whole emotional baggage of whatever this is.
PS: I have never been in a proper relationship and he knows, let alone ldr

Edit: the amount of times I have asked this man about clarity and where I stand and yet he keeps deflecting, like yes I know it might not work out but I don’t understand why u keep talking to me and saying u want me in ur life but then say I don’t like u for who u r and that I don’t bother to get to know you