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Recently, I got pregnant after over a year of trying. We had undergone fertility testing and found out I have low AHM (36yo), and my husband had low concentration but high volume and good motility. On our third cycle with Letrazole I got pregnant and we were over the moon. This would be our third child, and our last. I know that I am beyond lucky to already have the 2 we have, but I also feel like I am meant to have one more. I can’t explain it.

The first 8 weeks were actually great. I had hypermesis with my daughter, and tons of morning sickness with my son. I had been a little nauseous but actually felt really good and was so excited and so positive. We also found out we would have conceived about 3 days after my husbands father died unexpectedly and traumatically. It felt like he sent us this baby.

At our ultrasound, i had a blighted ovum. empty sack. sack was the right size and my HCG was over 30,000 but there was no baby and no heartbeat. This broke my heart. I ended up taking the medication to miscarry a couple days later as my daughter’s birthday was coming and didn’t want to ruin her day because I was in pain and bleeding. 2 weeks later, I started to bleed heavily and it didn’t stop. I got another ultrasound and it looked like a period per my OB. I ended up in the hospital a week later when the heavy bleeding wouldn't stop. They gave me IV TXA to stop bleeding, and I took pill TXA for a week after and a few days after that week I finally stopped bleeding.

I never got a negative test. a few days ago it got lighter and then darker again. If the bleeding was a cycle like my OB thinks, and I ovulated based on a normal 28 day cycle, I’m 16 DPO today. they did a HCG test yesterday and it’s at 115. Could I be pregnant again? I feel like this is high enough that I could. I’m waiting for the OB to call me back about going in again tomorrow for another test to see if that number goes up instead of down.

I want so badly for this to be a new pregnancy, but I am also terrified. Scared that it won’t be, scared that my body won’t be able to get pregnant again, and scared that if I am pregnant again the baby won’t be viable again. So, reddit could I be pregnant again 6 weeks post miscarriage??

I’d like to make all parents aware of what recently happened with Curious Minds Discovery Cluband IQnite • Movement Based Learning. I had left honest reviews on both pages and once I attached disgusting screen shots of the things Mrs. Erica (Ramirez) said, they changed both pages so you can no longer review their businesses.

My daughter (3 at the time) began at curious minds about a year ago when it was a tiny in home daycare. She only attended twice a week for 3.5 hours each day. At the time we loved it, and our son would even do dropins sometimes. Recently, she expanded, renting a home and hiring her daughter in law and son. This is when things changed.

Molly has no experience with children less than kindergarten age. Mrs. Erica confirmed this for me. She’s never worked in a daycare and only has experience in school systems. My daughter admittedly has big emotions and is a big fan of screaming before using rational thinking. We are working on it, but it happens with 3-year-olds. In late March, there was an incident in which my daughter threw a toy and it hit a sweet boy in the head and gave him a cut. Absolutely not okay, we talked about it and have not had any kind of incident like that since. This is the only incident report I’ve ever signed for them, and I asked Molly for a copy and was not given one.

However on April 7th, my daughter had a meltdown in which she screamed and according to Mrs Erica “kicked around but didn’t kick or touch anyone”. Mrs. Erica stated that Amelia was welcome to stay with her in the infant room moving forward but that Molly “couldn’t handle her”. This is when I asked about her experience. I said Amelia wouldn’t be happy in the Infant room so that didn’t work. She said that Amelia wasn’t welcome back because Molly felt unsupported in her last job she had to remove Amelia from her to make Molly feel supported.

That’s fine- I don’t want my daughter with someone who clearly didn’t want her around. (Let me preface this financial information with the fact that this is only to give you the idea of the small thing that set her off- I couldn't care less about this money, but it is important information) I asked for a refund of the month. She had attended one day and we prepaid for the whole month. She called me, and said she could refund $80 but not 2 weeks due to her terminal policy, but my son could take those days and use them later as credits so I didn’t lose the money. I said that’s fine and reasonable. That was 2 weeks ago, and I never received the $80, so I texted her this morning asking for the money. She said I’ll send it but then you don’t get credits, it’s one or the other. To which I said- that’s not what you told me, you said I’d be credited for the days you couldn’t refund due to your policy. She said she was refunding me $80 plus the $34 for my son next week (which should have been $36..) and that he can’t come back either. That’s fine, but then I asked for the remaining balance owed past the two weeks. There is a small remaining balance. She lost her ever-loving mind.

She called me 3x the called my husband. I told her I only wanted to speak to her via text from now on since she had lied to me once before. She called me selfish and greedy, saying I’m a liar, insulting my children, saying all kids of awful things. She went as far as to say she had stacks and stacks of incident reports (which don’t exist… there’s one..), and making other financial claims (like I didn’t have a credit when I have texts, etc.)

When I said I’d take her to small claims court if she did not return the money, she again insulted my children and me, and then went as far as to say that god made me have a miscarriage 4 days ago because he thinks I shouldn’t have more children.

Yep, this Infant and preschool provider is so disgusting that she’d make fun of and assume to know that “god said” simply because I won’t let her steal from me. Who knows what else she is saying or doing around our children when we aren’t around.

So to summarize: Molly has never worked with preschool children but is alone with preschool children, and she can’t handle “big emotions”. Erica chose to wait until the first week of the month to remove my child but said she could stay in the infant room (she will claim she’s “dangerous” but if that’s true why can she be with the infants….), and when I told her I’d take her to court for my owed money she decided to insult me, and my children, and tell me god made me have a miscarriage. Which occurred just a few days ago by the way. I’ve never been spoken to in such a disgusting way by any business owner, much less someone who is taking care of infants and children.

I’ve filed a complaint with the state, and the BBB, as well as the HOA. She can delete her reviews all she wants. I also left a review on Google, which she cannot delete. I have the texts to share if anyone wants them. I would not trust them with your children. If you’ve had nothing but wonderful experiences, I hope that stays that way. I hope no one is ever subjected to seeing the side of her that I have. I am truly shocked by how I felt about her and her daycare previously. Which is why I feel parents should be aware of what happens once she decides she doesn’t want to give you money back and doesn’t like your kids anymore.

Since posting on my personal experience on facebook, multiple parents have reached out sharing their vile and outragous stories with me with this daycare. Instances where children were put in direct danger including being given peanut butter despite a known allergy, and other dangerous instances. I would share more but these are not my stories to tell and I do not have the proof of any of them, nor are they my personal experience, therefore it is up to those parents if they choose to share.

Additionally, immediately following this incident, I recalled that my child has made 3 specific outcries that I dismissed. First, she told me that Mrs. Erica had thrown her in the bounce house and it hurt. I asked about this and was told- no no that never happened, she had a wonderful day. About a month later she told me Mrs. Erica hit her in the morning. She had no mark, and I asked and again was told no no no never happened. Last she told me that Mrs. Erica hit food out of her mouth (which honestly sounded absurd) so again once I asked and was told no way no how, I told her again, that we cannot make up mean stories about people and that it wasn't okay. I will never know if these are true- there are no cameras and no way to ever prove them. But I should have listened and that is on me. What I do know is that we asked my child when this happened "has mrs. erica ever been mean to you? " To which she replied "Yes, she has hurt me" and when asked how, she said mrs. erica threw her in the bounce house because she wanted to go in the house to get her water and she told her no and it really hurt. Would a three year old remember a made up story 8 months later in detail? I think not. This was my mistake and I will never let it happen again. Don't let it happen to your kids. Believe them the first time.

Oh, and yes, my daughter does have meltdowns. She can be challenging. I fully admit this. We are getting her into play therapy to help, and are even having her evaluated just to see if anything else is going on. But that excuses none of this.