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I cut my addict parents off about 6 months ago. I got married in July. For a few months she has been drunk calling and texting family members telling them she is hiring a private investigator on my husband.

For context they ALL know my parents are alcohol and drug addicts. Also My dad and brother are major gambling addicts.

My mom obviously can’t fathom that it’s not because of her actions that I’ve cut them off, she has to put the blame on to someone. my husband.

A week after the wedding my husband’s first day back to work. He gets a call from the front desk asking for him. He goes gets the phone and they say something to the lines of “hey this is doctor Steven’s, I’m a regular I come often don’t you remember me?- my bookie just got out of the gambling business and I’m looking for a new guy do you have one?- we’ll do you know anyone at all?” My husband says he doesn’t gamble and that no one uses bookies around here, that gambling is legal. click they hang up

He says that in the beginning it sounded like a voice changer app malfunction where the voice went really high for a second then went back to a mans voice.

This was either a private investigator she hired (which she’s already been telling people weeks prior she hired one on him and is going to get to the bottom of this) or it was her using a voice changer.

I am sick to my stomach because of this. How many times did she call when he wasn’t at work. Given that he was off of work for 2 weeks because of our wedding. And he gets that call coincidentally the first day he got back?

Same day there was also a post it note on our car after he got off work. With a phone number that says call me. He claims the number he looked it up and it’s a hail storm service wanting to fix the car. But I don’t know if he’s just telling me that to feel better.

Has this ever happened?? What would you do?
Any advice is welcome and appreciated.

I cut my addict parents off about 6 months ago. I got married in July. For a few months she has been drunk calling and texting family members telling them she is hiring a private investigator on my husband.

For context they ALL know my parents are alcohol and drug addicts. Also My dad and brother are major gambling addicts.

My mom obviously can’t fathom that it’s not because of her actions that I’ve cut them off, she has to put the blame on to someone. my husband.

A week after the wedding my husband’s first day back to work. He gets a call from the front desk asking for him. He goes gets the phone and they say something to the lines of “hey this is doctor Steven’s, I’m a regular I come often don’t you remember me?- my bookie just got out of the gambling business and I’m looking for a new guy do you have one?- we’ll do you know anyone at all?” My husband says he doesn’t gamble and that no one uses bookies around here, that gambling is legal. click they hang up

He says that in the beginning it sounded like a voice changer app malfunction where the voice went really high for a second then went back to a mans voice.

This was either a private investigator she hired (which she’s already been telling people weeks prior she hired one on him and is going to get to the bottom of this) or it was her using a voice changer.

I am sick to my stomach because of this. How many times did she call when he wasn’t at work. Given that he was off of work for 2 weeks because of our wedding. And he gets that call coincidentally the first day he got back?

Same day there was also a post it note on our car after he got off work. With a phone number that says call me. He claims the number he looked it up and it’s a hail storm service wanting to fix the car. But I don’t know if he’s just telling me that to feel better.

Has this ever happened?? What would you do?
Any advice is welcome and appreciated.

This should be a happy time. But right now I feel heartbroken and alone. My gambling addict brother who I am not estranged from but we never had a real close relationship. Didn’t text me after he viewed my story that I got married.

Recently estranged from my drug/ alcohol/ gambling addict parents after years of abuse. Aunt’s are telling me mom found out I got married and was throwing up because she can’t take it. My brother is 29 still living at home no job, and radio silence. I really thought he would text and congratulate me, anything. But no as always I’m the scapegoat.

My mom loves to tell people how everyone is on her side “even (dad) said” “even (brother) said”
Mostly everyone knows she is crazy, and severely into her addiction. I’m not religious but I really pray my brother gets out of this hell house.
She tells family that my brother thinks I’m crazy too and “next (my name) is gonna accuse us all of sexual assault”

I moved out at 18 across the country, they paid for my college and I was grateful. Didn’t stop them from threatening to leave me stranded and not pay for my college every single semester. It was a fight tooth and nail during every finals week, had to cram in 22 credits at a time most semesters because she would cause a fight during the payment deadline and I would have to beg the college to please let me pay… and the classes would be all full by that time.
They also refused to sign the estrangement paperwork my college needed so I was unable to apply for any grants to pay for my own college ( which I begged for them to do… willing to be in debt to just get away.) Got my bachelors last may, and my fiance who I met in college

I know somewhere deep down my brother knows they are addicts and mentally ill. I think he has some kind of Stockholm syndrome, or he is trying to be on their good side so he can stay there rent free.

My entire life I was dreading my wedding, I knew my mom would probably cause a scene, make it about her, say mean things and ruin it. I didn’t let her. And for that I’m proud of myself.

This should be a happy time. But right now I feel heartbroken and alone. My gambling addict brother who I am not estranged from but we never had a real close relationship. Didn’t text me after he viewed my story that I got married.

Recently estranged from my drug/ alcohol/ gambling addict parents after years of abuse. Aunt’s are telling me mom found out I got married and was throwing up because she can’t take it. My brother is 29 still living at home no job, and radio silence. I really thought he would text and congratulate me, anything. But no as always I’m the scapegoat.

My mom loves to tell people how everyone is on her side “even (dad) said” “even (brother) said”
Mostly everyone knows she is crazy, and severely into her addiction. I’m not religious but I really pray my brother gets out of this hell house.
She tells family that my brother thinks I’m crazy too and “next (my name) is gonna accuse us all of sexual assault”

I moved out at 18 across the country, they paid for my college and I was grateful. Didn’t stop them from threatening to leave me stranded and not pay for my college every single semester. It was a fight tooth and nail during every finals week, had to cram in 22 credits at a time most semesters because she would cause a fight during the payment deadline and I would have to beg the college to please let me pay… and the classes would be all full by that time.
They also refused to sign the estrangement paperwork my college needed so I was unable to apply for any grants to pay for my own college ( which I begged for them to do… willing to be in debt to just get away.) Got my bachelors last may, and my fiance who I met in college

I know somewhere deep down my brother knows they are addicts and mentally ill. I think he has some kind of Stockholm syndrome, or he is trying to be on their good side so he can stay there rent free.

I was a little spontaneous yesterday, first red rocks, first zeds dead, and first real EDM show. Oh and solo.
Was truly an experience, I met so many amazing people. I sat an hour after doors opened and was able to get close to the front middle of GA since I was alone.

That song with the colors?? Fucking sick, idk what my favorite part was.
That opener Mary Droppinz fucking KILLED IT too. Maybe it was the shrooms but her smile was giving the girl form obsession/ smile. I will def be going every year no doubt. Thank you all for being so kind!

I’m going solo will be my first time at red! Wondering if anyone else going wanting to hang! Lmk if your also going :)

My husband gets out of work sometimes 10:30-11pm. We Like to go out to dinner like once a week but sick of late night Applebees /bdubs because that’s the only thing open till 1am-2am.

Any suggestions for late night dinners in Denver or surrounding area?

(We don’t like to go to places last minute like a hour or less before closing, always feel bad/ don’t want to be rushed out)

White pitbull in cap hill who is constantly off leash, zips around the corner and runs to my dog. I just adopted my dog in January and I’m still unsure how she is around certain dogs. The owner not in site later comes around the corner telling me to relax it’s friendly and she has a Shock collar.
For such a dog friendly city there sure is plenty of entitled dog owners.

I was almost kidnapped around 2-3y and my mom never reported it. Instead blamed me and never brought it up again.

We were visiting my elderly neighbor in a nursing home back in my childhood home in sheepshead bay Brooklyn.
My mom was distracted talking to someone in the hallway, I wondered to the right not to far. Maybe 30-50 feet.

As I’m wandering the elevator door opens, a man in a work uniform. Dark collared shirt and holding a tray of some sort. He puts his hand out and signaled with his fingers to come into the elevator.

I was obviously too young to know better and thought since he looked like he worked there he had authority. I walk in and he quickly grabs me pulls me to the side of the elevator and put his hand around my mouth while spamming the shut button (or some button)

Crazy enough at that exact time my mom comes says my name turns her head looks in the elevator and was about 5 inches or less from shutting she puts her hand out at the very last second. Like I’m telling u movie type shit with only the tips of her fingers hanging out from the elevator and door opens.

He let’s go I run out and we leave.
She sat in the car a little and was in shock. Yelled at me then never brought it up again.

I don’t talk to her anymore. But I really hope that guy didn’t do that to others. And can’t help but think of what I coulda prevented if she spoke up.

Hey! New-ish to Denver but been in co for 5 years now. I only work 3 days a week 12h shifts so I’m basically free 4 days a week in a row (pretty sick) wed-Saturday. Looking for someone to hang with I like Rockies, Elitch, 1 up on Colfax, sushi, and my dog!

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So I know I was physically abused by my mother. Who is a pill addict and alcoholic.
But this one instance I’m not sure if it was or just “parenting”

I was around 7-8 maybe younger. I was eating fruity pebbles cereal in my room. I dropped the cereal box on the ground spilling most if not all of the cereal.
She made me scoop up all the cereal off the semi dirty carpet back into the box. And made me eat it until it was finished throughout the weeks / months it took me to finish it. With hair, dust, crumbs in it.

My family has been texting me pretending to just catch up, but there secret motive in the convo is to just tell me to talk to my mom and send her a text on Mother’s Day/ her birthday. Aka she’s telling them to do this.

My mother is an alcoholic pill addict narcissist. Who is NEVER in the wrong. My whole life she ruined big events of mine, belittles me anyway she can, and was physically and emotionally abusive.

This all started Christmas when she got blacked out as usual and called me Christmas Eve saying she opened my gifts and hates them, checking receipts not liking how much I paid. (I had gift card so gift was much higher then what receipt said) she then goes on and on non stop saying the most vile things

My fiance who I’m about to marry, his mom died on Christmas Eve, and he had to work that day so he wasn’t in the best mood, we were moments about to leave to get drinks to celebrate/ grieve. And she calls starting a fight.

To sum it up she says negative things about his dead mother, says his mom would be disappointed in me and him. I call her insufferable and miserable and block her.

We don’t talk for a few months I unblock her for one week and go on somewhat good terms to hold the peace.

She wants to plan a wedding for me for my big family, then next day she says what if we just do a small dinner and I give you money? (So she can hold the money over my head) then turns into well you don’t have any friends to even have a wedding, who would you invite? No family is going to actually come. You think family is going to drive out and come for you?
She does the same textbook thing, leaves me a voice mail saying she’s abandoning me and is not my mother, and to have a good life.

I just am so sick of family acting like I’m the crazy one and just need to forget and forgive.