u/OkDirt926

I’m a freshly graduate, major in HR. I’m doing an internship right now. The market is very bad so I joined the only company that gave me an offer. But now I don’t khow if I should looking for another opportunity.

Firstly I don’t have a direct middle manager so I report to CHO. She’s experienced but not in internal communication. Internal communication is a project that she started since April, as when she joined the company. And I just finished my first month being an intern.

The problem is I barely know how to edit video. I did a few fun projects with family vacation footage but never something serious. And she demanded AI because there’s no funding in camera equipment/ no employee wants to show their faces. She keeps mentioning about using more AI in vids when I don’t have access to paid AI subscription. The company does have that but they refuse to let me use one of the accounts, as I’m JUST an intern.

I also have to handle the voice over for those videos but she doesn’t READ any proposal or scripts beforehand. I can only sum up in 10 sentences for her to give me the green light or red. It’s also when the video is finished (edited with my voice over also) THEN she comments on how I use the words or little details like my pausing or she can still hear my inhaling before the sentences. I’m not a professional MC or podcaster/ tiktoker. I mean I literally do voice over for the first time on this job. It takes a disastrous amount of time going back and forth.

Frankly I learn a lot about HR working here but the IC task is beyond me. Also she never truly have a clear vision. She wants me and another intern to have a vision. But jumping from Uni to this battle field is miles apart. I only have one single modul in Marketing and that’s all. I’m totally a newbie so I’m begging for insights/ suggestions on how to do IC. And my intern allowance is way lower than all the things I have to do. It’s barely under $80 and fulltime (it’s under minimum wage here at $210/month). I used to tutor for $350/ month but quit to do this internship. (to clarify I am not in the US)

I have been apply for months before this but only got 3 invitations for interview. My grade is good. I speak 3 foreign languages. My social skills are not bad. 🫠 I’m just hopeless right now.

I’m a freshly graduate, major in HR. I’m doing an internship right now. The market is very bad so I joined the only company that gave me an offer. But now I don’t khow if I should looking for another opportunity.

Firstly I don’t have a direct middle manager so I report to CHO. She’s experienced but not in internal communication. Internal communication is a project that she started since April, as when she joined the company. And I just finished my first month being an intern.

The problem is I barely know how to edit video. I did a few fun projects with family vacation footage but never something serious. And she demanded AI because there’s no funding in camera equipment/ no employee wants to show their faces. She keeps mentioning about using more AI in vids when I don’t have access to paid AI subscription. The company does have that but they refuse to let me use one of the accounts, as I’m JUST an intern.

I also have to handle the voice over for those videos but she doesn’t READ any proposal or scripts beforehand. I can only sum up in 10 sentences for her to give me the green light or red. It’s also when the video is finish (edited with voice over) THEN she comments on how I use the words or little details like my pausing. I’m not a professional MC or podcaster/ tiktoker. I mean I literally do voice over for the first time on this job. It takes a disastrous amount of time going back and forth.

Frankly I learn a lot about HR working here but the IC task is beyond reasons to me. Also she never truly have a clear vision. She wants me and another intern to have a vision. But jumping from Uni to this battle field is miles apart. I only have one single modul in Marketing and that’s all. I’m totally a newbie so I’m begging for insights/ suggestions on how to do IC. And my intern allowance is way lower than all the things I have to do. It’s barely under $80 and fulltime (it’s under minimum wage here at $210/month). I used to tutor for $350/ month but quit to do this internship.

I have been apply for months before this but only got 3 invitations for interview. My grade is good. I speak 3 foreign languages. My social skills are not bad. 🫠 I’m just hopeless right now.

Chào mọi người, mình gần đây có đặt order bên ins, đặt áo may theo số đo. Mình đã gửi toàn bộ thông tin + số đo và cọc 25% giá áo. Bên bán hẹn có hàng sau 1 tuần, hôm nay mình tính hỏi xem đã xong chưa thì thấy hiện nút follow và lịch sử chat trắng tinh.

Mình nghĩ là mình có KN bị lừa rồi nhưng vẫn nhắn lại để hỏi, thì bạn chủ ngay lập tức xác nhận có nhận được cọc của mình, nhưng shop cx kh lưu lại thông tin cũ nên muốn mình xác nhận lại mẫu + số đo. Mình thấy bị trắc trở quá nên xin rf 50% cọc, nhưng shop chủ động hoàn full cọc cho mình.

Nhưng mà mình thấy hãi kiểu ma làm í, vì sao tự dưng lịch sử chat tự bay màu và mình bị kick follow được. Mình thì ít dùng ins lắm, chỉ để nhắn tin với bạn bè + mua hàng thôi, và mình không bao giờ ngồi xoá chat cả

I'm not an oversprayer. If anything I only spray maximum 3 pumps when using fresh summer scents.

One time I sprayed Libre once on my clothes at 7pm and at 9pm wore a jacket out to the cinema. The guy sitting next to me stand up before the show started and said out loud: "Honey the girl (he used a more unpolite pronoun that I can not think of translation right now) reeks of perfume. I can't stand it, pls switch". OMG I was embarassed so bad. And I did not even take my jacket off. Yep from that time on I always feel uneasy to spray perfume if I need to go to a public space later.

I mostly use perfume in my room before sleeping. Today I feel like having some before work. I spray Light Blue intense 3 times before leaving. And just now 2 of my colleges complaint about something weird smelling. I'm so self conscious that I want to head home to change my shirt right now. One of them said the elevator reeks of perfume. Could it be me? I don't know for sure but I think I'm having another perfume scare right now...

Phasmophobia means an intense, persistent fear of ghosts and the supernatural.

My aunt U60,F is terrified of ghost and it affects every single aspects of her life.

I don’t know this before. I heard stories about her being easily frightened but don’t quite get the severity of her situation.

A family member passed away recently that’s why she came back from the US and would be here (a country in SEAsia) for 2 more weeks. She literally can not be alone or be in the dark for more than 5 seconds before she’s in panic mode. Her husband doesn’t come back here with her so she lives with our family.

She would constantly have to be with someone. We don’t have to talk all the time but we have to be physically there. She doesn’t shut light off during the night and leaves not only a bedside lamp but also the bedroom door opened so that the hallway light shines in the room. Basically I have been sleeping in total daylight for 2 weeks now.

Everyone in our family snores so yes I’m not bothered by snore sounds. My sister said that she snores way louder than I do but I can sleep easily hearing her snoring but my aunt would stay awake the whole night if she sleeps after me/ hears my snoring. That’s why I have to stay up way beyond my sleeping schedule so that she can sleep (because she sleeps a bit later than I usually do).

She would poke me or try to wake me up at the middle of the night several times when she needs to go to the bathroom. I can get back to sleep but my goodness the light in the hallway is always on plus toilet room light. And she still expects me to stand up to be in front of the bedroom door…

She needs me to sit close to the bathroom whenever she takes a shower. I basically can’t do anything and I feel like a babysitter of an able body person with a really strong will.

I was recently laid off so I’m basically free of schedule but you know I need a job too and this situation would last another 2 weeks. I might have to suck it up since I’m pretty calm and resilient in my family.

All in all I do feel really pitiful for her because she’s genuinely scared and she told me she would change half of her asset for a brave (don’t easily be scared and anxious) life.

She now mostly lives in the US but don’t speak much English so I don’t know if there’s any suitable treatment for her condition? Therapy is not regulated by professional doctors here and the duration of her stay is short so I think therapy in the US would be more suitable.

Thank in advance for your help.

Phasmophobia means an intense, persistent fear of ghosts and the supernatural.

My aunt U60,F is terrified of ghost and it affects every single aspects of her life.

I don’t know this before. I heard stories about her being easily frightened but don’t quite get the severity of her situation.

A family member passed away recently that’s why she came back from the US and would be here (a country in SEAsia) for 2 more weeks. She literally can not be alone or be in the dark for more than 5 seconds before she’s in panic mode. Her husband doesn’t come back here with her so she lives with our family.

She would constantly have to be with someone. We don’t have to talk all the time but we have to be physically there. She doesn’t shut light off during the night and leaves not only a bedside lamp but also the bedroom door opened so that the hallway light shines in the room. Basically I have been sleeping in total daylight for 2 weeks now.

Everyone in our family snores so yes I’m not bothered by snore sounds. My sister said that she snores way louder than I do but I can sleep easily hearing her snoring but my aunt would stay awake the whole night if she sleeps after me/ hears my snoring. That’s why I have to stay up way beyond my sleeping schedule so that she can sleep (because she sleeps a bit later than I usually do).

She would poke me or try to wake me up at the middle of the night several times when she needs to go to the bathroom. I can get back to sleep but my goodness the light in the hallway is always on plus toilet room light. And she still expects me to stand up to be in front of the bedroom door…

She needs me to sit close to the bathroom whenever she takes a shower. I basically can’t do anything and I feel like a babysitter of an able body person with a really strong will.

I was recently laid off so I’m basically free of schedule but you know I need a job too and this situation would last another 2 weeks. I might have to suck it up since I’m pretty calm and resilient in my family.

All in all I do feel really pitiful for her because she’s genuinely scared and she told me she would change half of her asset for a brave (don’t easily be scared and anxious) life.

She’s now in the US but don’t speak much English so I don’t know if there’s any suitable treatment for her condition? Therapy is not regulated by professional doctors here and the duration of her stay is short so I think therapy in the US would be more suitable.

Thank in advance for your help.

Link to my first post in the sub: https://www.reddit.com/r/AgingParents/s/t5MOm5tsjY

My grandma’s funeral took place earlier today. I (26F) want to thank you all from the bottom of my hearts for valuable information and suggestions. Nobody was prepared enough to be a caregiver. I certainly was blank when my grandma (86F) suddenly became so ill.

After I went on reddit a lot of you guys suggest stages of death and YT hospice nurse Julie (i’m not sure if mentioning is forbidden) and realized what they were doing is prolonging my grandma’s suffer and going against her wishes. Because she said herself that her time’s up and begged to die and they couldn’t accept that. I had to speak up. I told them that their conscience means little to nothing compared to her wish. (if strangers out there call us unfilial, or cruel so be it). Let her body turn off and don’t make her live in hell every day like right now. She screamed because of the pain and that’s not living but merely existing. She was no longer the free spirited 86 yo. grandma who was unstoppable.

After the stop of IV fluids her passing came naturally 4 days later. It was pretty traumatic and stressful. She went through death rattle, and also had fever during her last day. But I think she was in her sleep since day 2 of the process with the help of morphine so I hope she did not feel it at all.

We were not allowed to mourn for the first 8 hours of our passing. Because it’s believed that the deceased's soul would not be able to move on (to the after life) if family members expressed their sorrow. Their soul would lingers, stays here as lost souls. So we were pretty much in shock and stay silence after her passing.

Then today I finally had time to cry it out and process her passing. I lost my number one fan forever. She blindly supported anything I like (dancing or singing) like I’m the most gifted ever. I just can’t believe her room is empty now. Why don’t I hear loud music or loud movies from her room anymore. (her hearing was bad) I’m still easily teared right now but I promised her to be strong and I will keep her memory forever in my heart.

Mình nữ, 26 tuổi, bà nội mình 86 tuổi. Sức khỏe của bà xuống dốc rất nhanh trong khoảng 2 tháng trở lại đây. Nhà mình phát hiện bà bị ung thư vào đầu năm 2025. Bà đã điều trị và lúc đầu mọi thứ có vẻ khá khả quan. Bác sĩ nói bà có thể còn khoảng 3 năm nữa. Nhưng từ tháng 4, tình trạng của bà xấu đi rất nhiều, đến mức gần như không ăn uống được gì.

Bà phải nhập viện trong 3 tuần. Sau đó các chỉ số có vẻ ổn định trở lại. Vì bà cực kỳ ghét ở bệnh viện (mắng cả bác sĩ y tá) nên bác sĩ cho bà về nhà.

Từ lúc đó đến nay, mình gần như trở thành một trong ba người chăm sóc chính cho bà, cùng với mẹ mình (con dâu) và bác cả (con gái đầu của bà). Nhưng cả ba người đều không phải người chăm sóc chuyên nghiệp. Gia đình cũng đang tìm người có kinh nghiệm chăm sóc người già nhưng vẫn chưa tìm được ai phù hợp.

Bản thân bà cũng ghét người lạ và chỉ muốn người thân ở bên cạnh mọi lúc. Mình vừa bị mất việc nên đúng là có thời gian ở nhà phụ chăm sóc bà. Nhưng thật sự sức khỏe thể chất lẫn tinh thần của mình đang tới giới hạn.
Bà la hét gần như cả ngày, than vãn liên tục, từ chối ăn uống và uống thuốc. Hiện giờ gia đình phải thuê bác sĩ tới truyền dịch tại nhà (glucose, đạm và các loại vitamin khác mà bác sĩ thấy cần thiết) để duy trì sức khỏe cho bà.

Vấn đề lớn nhất là bà nhất quyết không chịu đi wc vào bỉm. Mình và bác là người phải bế bà vào nhà vệ sinh nhiều nhất, có khi tới 5 lần trong một tiếng. Nhiều lúc đưa vào rồi chẳng đi được gì cả, nhưng nếu không làm theo thì bà sẽ đánh bọn mình hoặc cố lăn xuống khỏi giường.

Bà cao khoảng 1m60 và vẫn nặng khoảng 55kg nên việc bế bà hoàn toàn không dễ chút nào. Người mình lúc nào cũng đau nhức, lưng đau tới mức ngồi thẳng cũng khó. Mẹ mình bị thoát vị đĩa đệm từ 10 năm trước nên mình không thể để mẹ làm việc này được. Mình từng bảo bố nên phụ trách phần bế bà nhưng mẹ nói đầu gối bố cũng rất yếu.

Cô và chú mình (là con ruột của bà) khá mê tín nên đã đi hỏi rất nhiều thầy bói về tình trạng của bà. Tất cả đều nói bà sắp mất. Vì vậy bố mẹ mình bảo mình cố gắng chịu đựng thêm, cứ tiếp tục bế bà vào nhà vệ sinh bất cứ khi nào bà muốn — tức là ngày nào cũng phải khiêng bà như khiêng bao gạo 55kg đi tới đi lui hàng chục lần.

Lưng mình thực sự sắp không chịu nổi nữa. Nhiều lúc mình chỉ muốn gào lên hoặc khóc thật to, nhưng cũng không dám vì sợ làm phiền mọi người trong nhà.

Final update:

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SUPPORT. I gather my strength, anger and tiredness to put out a speech about these hard topics.

• ⁠We put her in the diaper pant. (Yep: no more bathroom trip because my back is on rest)
• ⁠We lay her down in a different direction to stop her from rolling down.
• ⁠I firmly told them to respect my grandma’s wish. Let her go naturally. Don’t make her suffer more for your conscience!!! (Which doesn’t make sense since we all know she’s pain)
• ⁠We would continue to taking part in taking care/ helping the pro care giver. So hopefully things would be easier.
• ⁠On Wednesday a monk will perform a ritual to guide her soul (this is because my grandma believes in Buddhism and my aunt and uncles are superstitious) Of course under my watch she would not be forced to drink/ eat anything. I’m still atheist at the end of the day. This is just some entrust to religion to ease their mind and prepare them mentally for my grandma passing.

And I assure you guys that’s I’m not enslaved/ exploited/ taken for granted. I still have nourish meals that being cooked by moms. I still keep learning and watching suitable recruitment posts. (But thinking of switching to remote if possible) I still find time to go to the gym/ or swimming daily. I know I have to keep myself healthy to be there for my grandma. So basically I’m on 8hr shift, as well as other people. But my mom would need my help since she can not carry alone like me. But anyway we are temporarily put “endless bathroom trips” on hold with solutions listed above. I appreciate your good intentions but maybe things look much different from different cutural perspective and norms.
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I’m 26F and my grandmother (86F)’s health has been worsening by days for the last 2 months. We found out she had cancer in Jan.25. She went under treatment and thing looked positive. Doctors said she could have about 3 years left. But since April 26 she has been feeling much worse to the point of barely eating.

She was immediately hospitalized for 3 weeks. Her stats seemed stable again and she HATES hospital so they let my grandma home.

Ever since I’m basically one of three full time care takers for her (together with my mom (her DIL) and her first born daughter). But we are not professional. We look for helper, who has experience with taking care of elderly people, but so far haven’t found anyone. This concept is popular here in Vietnam.

A few years ago “nursing home” concept was frown upon a lot. People believed that not taking care of elder parents is a huge sin, those kids are unfilial. These parents would be in tremendous sadness by the cold and evil treatment (of their children, who put them in those retirement homes). I think that’s ridiculous. People who work there are skilled workers, were trained to taking care of elderly vulnerable people. And they have a lot of tools/ machines/ euiqments that normal households don’t have.

My father and mother however still want to take care of my grandma by ourselves. Actually my grandma also hates strangers and just really want us to be by her side all the time. I recently got laid off so yes, I have time for that. But my mental and physical health is at breaking point. She yells all the time, whines all day and night, refuses any food or medicines. We are keeping her alive by hiring a doctor to do IV drip at home (glucose, protein, and other vitamin that the doctor thinks she need…)

But she refuses to put on diaper. I (mostly) have to carry her up to 5 times per hour to the toilet. Sometimes nothing comes out but she would hit us or want to roll off the bed if we don’t comply. She’s 5ft2 and still weighs 120lbs so it’s not an easy task. My muscles are sore and i can barely sit up straight. My mom already got Herniated disc 10 years ago so I can not just let her do the task. I told mom dad should do the carrying part but mom said his knees are also very bad.

My aunt and uncle (grandma’s children) are superstitious and they ask many fortune tellers (also popular here) about grandma’s condition. They all say she’s dying. So my parents basically tell me to suck it up and just take grandma to toilet room (like literally carry a 120lbs potato sack) whenever she wants. But my back are giving out. I feel like screaming and crying but I can’t because I would disturb others.

I never had a full cabinet of makeup but I certainly had more than I need: 4 Eyeshadow palettes, 10 blushes, 4 lipsticks, 5 shimmery topper single shades, everything else was pretty much just one product per category. I don’t have time for daily makeup so I mostly wear makeup on the weekends. That’s why I barely panned most of my stuff despite having them for 6+ yrs.

I think that’s certainly overconsumption on my end. And I don’t want to let them just sit on my shelf most of the time. I asked around and my friends plus my sister took some off my hand. (I wash my brush after every single use and sanitize them once a month so they happily accept my already over opening period products 🥺)

So I have a really successful 1.5 yrs of no buy makeup and cut down 1/2 of my existing collection, which is a huge win for me yay. But now I see a really special offer on brushes and going absolutely crazy back and forth if I should get it.

I have about 60+ brushes now. I don’t care about the handle design but I love experience how different density or shape of the brushes would effect how they perform different make up products/ textures.

I will mention the specific product below and will hide them since I don’t know if it’s acceptable.
>!I always want to buy Sep pro brush 47 and 71 but the price is crazy!< >!🫠!< >!especially for someone living in a developing country like me. So I hold back. I bought a few pricey-to-me makeup brushes (Hourglass and Mario, Sigma) before and abosolutely loved them. So it still lingers in my head that the Sep 47 and 71 would be amazing also). Btw Sephora is not even in my country yet so I always have to buy from third party/ private reseller. I know a girl who is legit and has been in business for 10 yrs. She uploaded yesterday that she has about 10 Sephora pro brush set holiday edition 2023 in stock. But it’s been a long time so the box is damaged and her special offer is $40 a set. It includes brushes 47, 71, 59, 93, 98, 20, 27, 15. It seems like a absolutely score but I technically don’t need new brushes since I have plenty diverse shapes and wash them after each use.!< >!🥲!< >!The head and the heart are not speaking the same language right now. And tbh I know someone else might benefit from the set since it covers a wide range of purposes for each brush. This as a starter pack would benefit them much more than which they can add to my already big brush collection.!<

I truly need some opinion on this.

Hello everyone, for this particular issue I really don’t know who to talk to or ask for advice. I (25F) have even tried asking professionals, but I still haven’t been able to apply their advice in real life.

My grandmother (86) grew up in very harsh conditions. She had to leave home to work at the age of 12, taking care of her aunt’s child. Later she worked in factories, got married, and had her first child at 19. She has told many stories, and I can understand to some extent that who she is today is shaped by many difficult and not very warm experiences from her youth. The way she speaks can be quite harsh, people who love her can overlook it, but strangers meeting her for the first time are often shocked.

She was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer in February last year. Her treatment initially went relatively well, but she caused a lot of emotional distress for everyone around her, yelling at doctors, family members, accusing us of being unfilial for wanting her to get treatment. At one point, the head doctor even called my mom in to ask the family to talk to her, but it’s extremely difficult. She doesn’t listen to anyone’s advice. So after radiation therapy, she refused surgery and chemotherapy as prescribed, and instead chose to live with the disease.

After that, she started calling everyone she knows, close or not, even people she hadn’t seen in 20 years, to cry and say she’s about to die. Then she complained that we didn’t take her to another hospital saying maybe they would be more specialized than the current hospital. But the truth is she doesn’t cooperate at all, from taking medication to maintaining a proper routine. She keeps the TV on almost all day at maximum volume, watches dramas, calls people to cry, and whenever she sees family members, she says she just wants to die to be free of burden, even though all of us want her to stay positive and continue treatment, especially since doctors said her prognosis was good and she could live another five years. When I remind her to take medicine, she yells and tells me to give her more so she can die sooner and stop suffering.

Yesterday she went for a check-up and was instantly hospitalized since the cancer grew to other organs. I’m very sad, but I also expected it, stopping treatment midway makes things worsen much faster. She wants to stay in a private hospital room for comfort but still insists on having a family member with her 24/7. Right now, my mom wants me to take care of her, about 8 hours a day, since I just quit my job and have free time. On one hand, I understand and want to support my mom, but on the other hand, I’m applying for jobs and hope to start working again soon because my family is not well off.

Up to now, all my grandparents’ expenses have been covered by my parents, and they have lived with us. They don’t have savings, though luckily health insurance covers a large portion. Currently, both my parents are retired, with a combined pension of just over 10 million VND per month, roughly about 400 USD, while a private hospital room costs 1.6 million VND per day, around 65 USD per day. I’m really stressed about this. We may also need to hire a caregiver later, which would be another major expense. Previously, when my grandfather was ill before he passed away, we hired a caregiver who was very kind and skilled, but my grandmother constantly scolded and insulted her, making her want to quit repeatedly. My mom had to beg her to stay. I’m really anxious about what’s coming. My grandmother has four children, but our family will bear most of the responsibility because my father is the eldest son.

I’ve heard that many people become more difficult as they age. But honestly, my grandmother is not just difficult, her words have become increasingly harsh and hurtful. For example, my cousin (27M) has been busy working and preparing for his wife’s childbirth, so he hasn’t visited often, and my grandmother called many people to badmouth him, calling him unfilial, and even said he wouldn’t be allowed to carry her memorial photo, only my sister and I would. Her behavior is becoming more absurd, and I feel like she’s pushing everyone further away. At least that’s how I feel. Being around her feels extremely negative and emotionally draining. I once reheated porridge so hot that I could barely hold the bowl, but she threw it away, saying it was cold and inedible, then started crying. Every chance she gets, she calls me disrespectful and unfilial, saying we’re abandoning her. But what are we supposed to do, are we all meant to stop studying and working and just sit around breathing air together to survive?