u/OkFix126

I have to tell someone because I am losing my mind over this.

So there are these two guys who live on my street, we're basically neighbors. One is in his early 40s, let's call him John. The other is in his late 30s, we'll call him Adam.

John never married. He still lives with his parents, while all his siblings have moved abroad. Adam got divorced a few years ago, and from what I've heard from my mother, he was never really into the marriage in the first place. He's the youngest in a big joint family.

Now, let me preface this by saying they're both ridiculously, shmockingly hot. John has this whole salt and pepper look going on, and Adam is just so cutie pie and I've had a crush on both of them for years. They're very close friends. Both work, but by the end of the day they're almost always together. Adam is constantly at John's house, and I've seen them out driving together countless times. I never really suspected anything, but I definitely wondered. I mean there are close friends in Pakistan, extremely close ones, so I never really dug deeper.

But about a week ago, I was coming back from a run around 10 or 11 at night. As I walked past their parked car, I saw them touching each other in a way that definitely didn't look platonic. I looked away almost immediately because I didn't want to be a peeping Tom of my neighborhood. Guys, I was internally screaming. I genuinely think they're together.

I'm weirdly happy for them. Also a little jealous because I've been lusting after both of them for years, and meanwhile they've apparently this whole relationship going on. I have this urge to ask them a million questions and somehow become friends with them, even though I know that's never going to happen, Alas!

The only thing that worries me is that they're lucky it was me who happened to notice them and not one of those self righteous, overly religious uncles, especially the corner house one, who would make their lives miserable. If they really are together, I just hope they're careful. I almost wish I could somehow warn them to be safe, but that would probably terrify them more than help.

Also, is it weird that I am monitoring them a lot these days, I am full on fangirling over them, istg. Life has never been this exciting.. but I should probably stop obsessing over them and pray to gay gods that they spend a healthy long life with each other... Or maybe they're just friends and I am overthinking about it.

Assalamualaikum everyone.

I've been a windows user for as long as I can remember. My current machine is still perfectly capable, but the experience has become increasingly exasperating. Every solution invites a new problem, and with Windows 10 nearing the end of its support, I'm not enthusiastic about investing in another windows machine. Maybe It's simply my luck, but I've grown tired. The past few months have involved more trips to repair shops than I can remember, and I'm at a stage where I'd much rather own something dependable. I simply want a machine that does what its supposed to do without acting like a snowflake.

My budget is around 150k–180k. My workflow involves figma, illustrator and photoshop. I did look at Macs, but the pricing left me scratching my head. A six year old macBook air m1 with 8GB ram still going for around 200k which seems difficult to justify. As to why I am gravitating towards macs? I've heard positive things about battery life and the performance under battery. And I'd like to see the world outside while working.

My only real requirement is 16gb of ram. Storage isn't much of a concern since figma is web based and I already use external ssds.

I'd really appreciate the recommendations. Thanks in advance.

Edit: I'd appreciate it if you guys can direct me to someone who isn't charging a significant markup on these devices.

I started losing weight at the beginning of 2025. Back then I weighed 122 kg (269 lbs). Today I'm 82 kg (180 lbs).

Ever since I dropped below 85 kg, people's attitudes toward me have changed in ways I can't ignore. Strangers look at me differently now. They don't make nasty remarks anymore. Some of them even smile and make small talk. My friends changed too. These days they invite me out. Before, they'd go places without me and I'd only find out through Instagram stories,if I found out at all. Sometimes they hid those stories from me. I've cut most of them off now, and apparently that makes me the rude, egotistical friend lol

What hurts the most is my family. Suddenly they take me seriously. Suddenly my opinions seem to matter. It's like I have transferred my former weight into my words

I was obese for most of my life and I didn't even develop much of a personality and always struggled socially, so I convinced myself that was the reason I couldn't make real friends. The weird thing is that I'm still the same shy, introverted guy I've always been, yet people seem to want to talk to me now. Even at the gym, people who barely acknowledged my existence when I first joined suddenly say hello and no it's not just confidence and not because I dress better or I've become more charismatic, I am still the same old me

What bothers me is that every interaction comes with the same question Would this person have treated the old me the same way? That's what makes me angry. Instead of enjoying these interactions they make me resentful. I find myself pulling away from them. I've become even more housebound because I don't want to deal with the constant reminder that the world seems to treat people differently based on how they look. I know the bitterness is probably irrational but it's so overwhelming that they suddenly treat me like a human.