u/Old_Maintenance2225

Hi, guys! 26M here. I’ve been bouldering on and off for my whole life.

A couple of stats for you:
For tennis shoes, I wear size 9 1/2.
For Redwing Iron Rangers, I wear size 9.

Growing up, I would rent climbing shoes. The conversation would go the same way every time.
I would ask for a size 11, the person working at the climbing gym would go, “Oh, man. Are you sure? Most people size down. You want them to be tight!” And I would go, “Yep, I’m sure. Anything smaller is painful!”
Anyways, when I bought my first pair of climbing shoes, I got size 10 Scarpas. I was told that most people size down, and that I want them to be very tight. Again, I usually wear size 9 1/2.

Every time I’ve been bouldering in them, my toes have been in pain. Because everyone keeps telling me they’re supposed to be tight, I would just suck it up. The following day or two, I would have bruises around my toe nails. I should also note that I regularly trim my toe nails, lol. So that’s not the problem.

Anyways, today I tried on a size 12 in Butora Endeavors, and though they were snug and I wouldn’t want to wear them all day, they were not painful.

How tf is sizing supposed to work, or wtf is wrong with my feet?

The only possible thing I can come up with for why this is happening is that every single person I’ve ever talked to about climbing shoes are all in on a joke of hazing me.

TIA

Hello, all.

Looking for input and space to vent. I’m 26M.

In October of 2023, my wife and I moved into/began renting our home.

In the first couple of months, our across the street neighbor asked us to not park opposite of her driveway, and for the next several months, we were happy and respectful of her wishes. Whenever we have had guests over, we have had them pull up so that they are not opposite of the driveway. I would respond politely… “Yes, ma’am/no, ma’am/please/thank you, etc.” It was kind of a pain, but I didn’t want to piss anybody off.

I’d like to add that our road is wide enough to be a two-lane road, and that large trucks and vans have never had any issues navigating/turning/etc. Additionally, though the guests in question were opposite of my across-the-street neighbor’s driveway, they were not parked in the road. All four tires were fully in the grass of my yard.

On April 6, 2024, my wife and I had a friend over to borrow a carpet vacuum cleaner, and parked fully in our grass, across the street from the neighbor’s driveway for a few minutes. The neighbor’s dog got out and was in our yard.  When the neighbor came to get their dog, they yelled and screamed, cussed, and yelled at us about our friend having parked opposite of the driveway.  She threatened and lied about calling the police on us, which I politely encouraged. Cops never showed up.

She was screaming at us, yelling that this was a health violation and blocking their driveway. She would go on about how her husband is disabled and how she is a nurse. Though I could sympathize with some of the challenges she faces in life, I could not, for the life of me, understand how a car parked in my grass for a few minutes could warrant all of this. She also kept reiterating that this section of my yard that my guests would park in was an easement, so I can’t have guests park there. I don’t think she understands easements. She likes to pull up to our yard to back up into her driveway.

The next day, I knocked on my neighbor’s door, thinking that maybe they were just having a bad day the day before, to search for a resolution that would work for both of us. Again, I got screamed, cussed, and yelled at. Eventually, her husband came to the door, and we exchanged numbers. I asked him to text me if there’s an issue in the future instead of coming over to yell.

So since April, 2024, I’ve tried to be intentional about not having anybody parked across from their driveway. They would give us dirty looks anytime we would see them, like in our yards or at the grocery store, but I didn’t want to shake up the hornets nest, so I continued to respect their wishes.

In September 2024, we bought our house that we were renting.

On December 21, 2024, my wife and I were out of town and we had dog-sitters at our house. My across the street neighbor’s son’s friends yelled “asshole!” at my dog-sitters.

On November 21, 2025, my wife and I were hosting an “I quit my job” party. I asked my neighbor’s husband if he could chat. I told him about the plans for the party, that we were expecting a lot of guests that would park on the street, but that we would not block any driveways. Tried to give him a respectful heads up. Didn’t seem to be an issue.

Two nights ago, I told my neighbor’s husband that we were going to host a baby-shower for a dear friend of ours the following morning, and that we would expect a lot of guests that would park on the street, but that we would not block any driveways. Again, just trying to give a thoughtful heads-up.

I successfully managed to keep any of the 21 cars of our guests from blocking a single driveway.

However, one of our guests did park off of the road on the across-the-street neighbor’s easement, where her son usually parks. They texted me to ask me to move the car, or they would have it towed. I did not know about this, as my phone was playing music for the baby shower.

When I finally saw the text (just 15 minutes late), they had already called the police. I responded to the text telling them that it would have to wait until we’re finished opening gifts at the baby shower. After the gift-opening was finished, I had the owner of the car move it off of their side of the road. The baby shower was the one and only time any of my guests have ever parked there.

The police arrived, and I heard her tell the police that I am entitled, disrespectful, and inconsiderate. My next-door neighbor offered to come out and vouch for me to the police. I heard the police tell her, “I understand that you don’t like it, ma’am, but this is a civil issue and they are not parked illegally.”The police told me that they don’t see a problem with how my guests were parked, to try and avoid parking on my neighbor’s easement at all costs, and that my yard across from their driveway was perfectly fine. The police advised me to stop giving my neighbors a heads up, stop trying to appease, stop trying to be a bigger-person, but to park where I want to on my property, and to film and report my neighbors if they come over to yell about it again.

Today, my car is currently sitting across from their driveway, and fully in my yard. I feel guilty for rage-baiting, but I think that calling the cops on the baby shower was a low move, especially considering I kept trying everything I could to appease them.

Anyways, if this is considered a “wall of text,” I apologize, and please feel free to remove my post.

I wanted to keep as much context as I could, as these neighbors have been chipping away at me for years. I wish I could just move on and stop letting it bother me.