u/OneQuietFox

(2016 Ram 1500 3.6L V6.)

Long story short, 2-3 weeks ago pulled into work, check engine light came on. Scanned it, got P0365 (camshaft sensor) conveniently enough, the passenger side one that’s annoying to get to. Cleared the code, figured I’d stop and get the sensor later. Truck ran fine later, part store had to get one in so I had to wait. Throughout the week was fine, came back on, limp mode, clear code, repeat a few times. Finally got sensor, replaced it, has been good ever since. For reference, it was a Standard one from Oreillys.

Today went fishing with wife 40 minutes away. 30 minutes into the drive it came on, limp mode, cleared code, continued on. On way home every 10-15 minutes I had to repeat that process. I’ve read that a lot of vehicles struggle with aftermarket sensors.

Before I order the OEM one for $100, does this actually make a difference or even make sense? I’m not mechanically inclined lol

3 weeks ago took my wife fishing, about 20 minutes into the drive my CEL came on, truck drove just fine the rest of the way. When we got to our destination I pulled my scanner out and it came up with P0369 code for camshaft position sensor. I cleared the code and we drove home just fine.

Went to work the next day, no issues at all until my return home the light popped back up and my truck went into limp mode, couldn’t accelerate well so I pulled over, checked the light again with scanner and attempted to delete the code just to make it back home, which worked fine.

Drove the next day to the parts store and bought a new sensor, went home with no issues at all. Didn’t have time to fix it during the week so I hoped it would be good to at least make my 20 minute commute to work and back. Light never came back on but I didn’t want more issues and had already bought the sensor, I switched it out (that was a fun process in this truck.) and it’s been fine ever since.

Today went to drop my son off at his mom’s house and as soon as I pulled off after dropping him off, light came back on, no limp mode though. It’s popping up with the same code.

Any ideas? 😅

A little over a year ago I started meditating every night before bed. I started with nothing elaborate and had no expectations of enlightenment as someone new to in depth meditation. I really just started because I wanted a few moments of quiet after years of feeling like my mind was always searching for something which brought me to the idea of logging every session I had for my own reflections.

When I started, most of my nights lasted five minutes then other nights stretched close to an hour. I wrote down how I felt before, what came up during meditation, and how I felt afterward. Looking back through those entries has been one of the most eye-opening things I’ve ever done for myself.

The biggest thing I noticed wasn’t some mystical experience that I was told could potentially happen but what I did notice was how often my nervous system was carrying stress that I had mistaken for my personality.

There were nights I thought I was anxious when I was really just overstimulated. There were also nights I thought I was unmotivated, and I realized I was just simply exhausted. I always thought I was lost, when I had never actually slowed down long enough to hear my own thoughts (something I’ve struggled with for a very long time.)

As I learned more about the vagus nerve and how slow breathing, longer exhales, and intentional relaxation help activate the parasympathetic nervous system, meditation started making a lot more sense to me. I wasn’t trying to escape my mind anymore and I was finally giving my body permission to stop believing it had to survive every moment whether it was present occurrences or situations regarding my past.

I began my counseling journey many years ago. Throughout it I realized many therapeutic approaches encourage reflection, noticing thoughts without immediately reacting to them, identifying emotional patterns, practicing acceptance, and creating space between a feeling and your response. Sitting quietly every night became a place where those things started happening naturally. I wasn’t trying to solve every problem during meditation, and I was becoming someone who responded to problems differently.

Over time throughout this journey I stopped asking myself why I felt the way I did and started asking what that feeling was trying to show me which made me realize that such a small shift changed a lot for me.

There was a time in my life when I was homeless which put me in a constant state of worse case scenario and constantly in fight or flight. There was a time I genuinely believed I would never build a stable future as I could never give myself time to just sit and reflect. Today I have a wife, children, a home, and a life I once thought belonged to someone else. Meditation wasn’t the only reason that happened, but it gave me something I had never really experienced before which is stillness.

The world teaches us to constantly consume information, chase goals, compare ourselves, and stay busy. Sitting in silence each night slowly taught me that clarity usually arrives after the noise finally settles.

Reading through a year’s worth of journal entries, I noticed that the answers I was desperately searching for at the beginning slowly disappeared from my writing. They were replaced with gratitude, patience, and curiosity. My circumstances changed, but more importantly, so did the way I related to myself.

If you’re thinking about starting a meditation practice, don’t worry about doing it perfectly. You don’t need an empty mind and you don’t need profound experiences every night, I’m sure this is basic and common knowledge to a lot of people in here, but from someone who always thought things had to be very deep and elaborate, some of it just came from short sessions and allowing myself to relax.

4 days on, 3 days off. I have a lot of fun at work and have a great group of guys I work with. I have an hour until I have to go in and I figured I’d just answer questions lol. Outside of work I just spend time with my family and dog. Pretty basic life. Feel free to ask anything about my job or outside life!

I'm looking for some advice with no judgement, please. I had an episode months and months ago over nearly losing a parent and ended up in some hard times and prior to that had a spending problem, no I am stuck.

Long story short, I destroyed my credit years ago, I lost my job, took out a major loan which I will mention here soon. Had credit cards when I was out of work with my dads stroke and tried finding happiness in other things during my leave from work. I managed to quit spending money, and digging myself into further debt until something I did today to maybe help a bit.

It was probably idiotic, but looking over my debt I know a portion of them have high interest, I can't find the rate for all of them but I know that the "consolidation/personal" loan I got from my credit union today is better than the others. I have $4,700 @ 9.1% with a payment of $116 a month for it. On top of that I have $1000 in a separate savings I planned on transferring that to for a total of $5,700 towards debt elimination to bring my monthly payments down, and to get rid of debt that I DO NOT plan on using irresponsibly again as I had already closed some accounts from over the years and I am a minimal person, just had a bad streak, I am beyond disciplined now despite this new loan to at least help bring in more cashflow to get rid of multiple payments and have more leftover with lower interest rates.

Here are my debts:

Mariner Finance - $8,204 pay off - $333.20 minimum payment. - $11,000 total payoff with minimum payments.

Credit One - $1,334.17 - $57 minimum payment.

Value City - $548 - $30 minimum payment.

CareCredit - $788.03 - $30 minimum payment.

DSG Mastercard - $1,419.69 - $30 minimum payment before balance increase, could be around $50-$60 now.

Affirm -$1,600.69 - $59 minimum payment, super high interest where minimum payment payoff would be $2,500 total.

Upstart - $2,335.01 - $146.06 minimum payment.

Capital One Savor - $222.53 - $25 minimum payment.

Discover - $399.77 - $35 minimum payment.

Credit Union Credit Card - $560.47 - $25 minimum payment.

NOW my Credit Union Loan for consolidating debt - $4,700 - $116 minimum payment.

I make good money now that I am back to my job full time, my pay is a bit shifty as we get a bonus monthly based on production that is multiplied by the hours we worked the previous month and it's usually an extra $500-$800 on top of our normal pay which leaves me monthly before the bonus of around $600-$700 after mortgage, bills ,etc. With the matrix pay, I usually have anywhere from $1,100-$1,500 extra to spend. I did put $1,000 in an emergency fund since all of the craziness happened in my life unexpectedly.

My thought process was this; that Mariner Loan I have had for a long time, with the 7/17 + my additional side savings (not emergency fund) I have about $5700 towards debt at this moment. I planned on keeping that in the savings just for a few months to rack up extra money and just pay Mariner Off entirely and use that $333 extra with what I have left to put towards the next plan but I am not sure if that is the smartest move. All of my cards I have frozen, and I locked them in a safe and tore up the ones I plan on closing (I really only want to keep the savor card and my credit union card for building my credit back up now that life is somewhat normal and I'm not on leave anymore so I can actually stay afloat and not have to worry about emergencies. I don't do any leisure activities that cost money, I meal prep for work and home, and have been doing good with all of that.

I really just want to clear up the things I've had for years, and the things I acquired from my dads accident and being out of work that put me in a fog / depression.

What would you do?

29M on midnights this week, shift started just fine and started having some anxiety. Went into my supervisors office to sit down and he told me to go down to the nurses office due to my face being red and not seeming normal (we have an onsite nurse & paramedics 24/7.) They took my blood pressure and it was high, so I’m now sitting at the hospital, angry they wouldn’t let me just drive myself and now missing out on work. I’ll be here for hours, so keep me busy! 🙂‍↔️😭

Honestly I’m on my one hour break with nothing to do as we’re on a shutdown right now so I figured I’d come on here and pass some time answering questions about whatever you may want to know… it can be anything!

Sitting here at work on break grateful to be here, today is my 8th year being free and sober from heroin and fentanyl after a 10 year battle.

June of 2018 I intentionally overdosed to finally put an end to my mental suffering and ended up on life support. Fortunately, I made it out alive and realized how lucky I truly was. After rehab, extensive therapy, sober living, and so much more, I got to finally see who I really am.

In the last 8 years I’ve managed to get married, go to college, got an amazing career, and bought my first home last year… something I never thought I’d be able to do after being homeless and broke a majority of my life.

I can’t believe it’s almost been a decade since I made the decision to finally free myself.

August this year I’ll be 8 years off of IV substance use. I got sober at 21 years old. In these 7 years I have become a homeowner, father, stepfather, and happily married. My life is full of so much outside of my great career and we’re always doing something!

I’m cleaning up today for my Sunday reset, figured I’d answer questions in between. If I don’t reply right away, that’s why! :) all questions (appropriate) welcomed and answered.

Long story short, I (28M) accrued more debt from a major family emergency. I had little debt prior but due to being out of work and FMLA I got loans, and credit cards I shouldn’t have for emergency / urgent matters (some are not, as they were prior.)

I get paid biweekly, but my second paycheck of the month is always different due to matrix pay (basically based on department production in the mill.) my first paycheck is always $2,105.48 if I work my full 48 hours. My second pay where matrix goes is always more, the median every month has always been $2,800-$2,900 rarely less or more. Usually $5,000 a month give or take.

My fixed bills;

Mortgage - $1,424 / $165,129 left on it.
Our phone bill - $104
Truck payment $513 / $14,974 left on it.
Child support - $306
Internet - $40

My “other” debt I accrued.

Credit One - $1,129.29 / $57 month.
Discover - $425 / $33 month.
Capital One (Quicksilver) - $105 / $25 month.
Capital One (Savor) - $51 / $25 month.
Bass Pro - $100 - $27 month
US Bank - $100 / $25 month
Mariner - $7,800 / $333 month
Netcredit - $1500 / $200 month
Value City - $608 / $30 month
Care Credit - $838 / $30 month
7/17 - $367 - $30 / month.
Affirm - $1,614 / $59 month

Before I get dragged, I was a minimalist for the most part before this. I don’t spend on myself, ever. Affirm was for a laptop for school and my photography since my last one crapped out on me. Bass Pro was a card I had for awhile and went on a trip with my dad before his accident and value city was a furniture set for my grandma when she lost her house after my grandpa died. Not to explain myself, but all of my cards ARE ripped up. I hate credit cards and the Savor one was only for events we had that I’d pay off immediately but liked the cash back. The truck payment sucks and I did way more payments when I was stable before the accident and the interest rate is decent because of my credit union, that was the first “nice” vehicle I ever got for myself. Outside of that, everything was so sudden because of the situation with my dad’s accident and the trauma it caused for me going on FMLA.

I’m back to work and matrix pay definitely saves me. My wife pays utilities and we meal prep (she refuses to let me pay utilities since I took over the mortgage, it was agreed on before anyone says anything.)

I have 10% going into my 401K and about $2,000 in emergency savings. We have a mutual HYSA that has $12,700 in it for HOUSE emergencies if something were to happen.

I literally just want this debt gone, and to never think about it again. I was so close to paying my truck off with extra payments to free that up since it started at $24,000 in December. I know I’m an idiot.

So much is broken here and there’s so many repairs that need done I’m trying to get my mind off of it while on my lunch break, feel free to ask me anything at all as I have some time to answer questions. Can be work related or whatever, I don’t care lmao.