Took a step back and calculated my net worth today. Money tied up in retirement accounts and stuff never felt real and neither do RSUs
I’m just shy about $210k- the majority of which is in my Roth IRA, brokerage, and vested/unvested RSUs (more RSUs coming soon).
Rest of money is in my car, HSA, 401k, and checkings account.
Anyone older with more experience have any suggestions on how to protect this and grow it fairly aggressively?
Throwaway because if he sees this he’ll know it’s me (hey bb)!
I’m 30F and he’s 27M and such a man. He is the most caring and thoughtful person I know. Today we’d planned to go to the gym then I’d spend the rest of the weekend with him at his place. Well I started feeling light headed, queasy, nauseous and simply not in any place to go to the gym, pretty sure I’d pass out. While he was on his way to pick me up I texted that I don’t feel well and can we skip the gym. He showed up, checked to see if I had a fever with his hand and looked so worried. He took me to the store where he held me up throughout, and we grabbed two quick nutritious meals and some pedialyte which he paid for (pictured). He kept looking at me with this sad worried face and when I apologized about the gym (we’ve been focused on getting sexy for summer) he reminded me that the gym is always there and I’m more important.
Once we got back to his he pulled out a thermostat and even had thermostat covers (never seen these). To confirm it wasn’t a fever and so cutely deduced that it’s likely low blood sugar because I didn’t eat enough earlier or drank enough water and it’s quite hot. I was pretty overheated and he engineered his two large fans to blow on me while I lay in his bed. He’s grabbed couch pillows for me to prop myself up better, put a cold towel on my forehead, and gave me some kisses.
We sat to watch a new anime he found called MarriageToxin. Now he’s up preparing Mac and cheese from scratch, a veggie medley (pictured), and baked chicken for dinner 😭 Yall my mother’s prayers might have worked. A man who enjoys animes about a guy who’s looking for a happy marriage while being a poison master? Like damn how’d I get so lucky.
He always has the most efficient and prepared stuff, the man literally has a deep carpet cleaner machine, matcha whisk, towel warmer (gift from his mom), satin sheets, buys my body wash and tampons for his place, etc. He acts so grown at an age where so many men still act like children. He deep cleans, knows a lot about cars and home maintenance from his dad and friends, cooks really well, is fit, full head of hair, great jawline, 5’9 which is tall enough for me esp in shoes, communicates and shares his emotions, has an adorable cat and has all these random cute hobbies like putting together ROKR puzzles, listening to Warhammer 40k audio books, and Legos. All while holding down a tech job for 5yrs. We talk throughout the day, intimacy is good, and spend most weekends together. He’s open about his IG, YouTube, and TikTok (I made him get it) likes. Often he’ll scroll through the likes to show me funny stuff he’s seen while we were apart. Our algorithms also merge so I’m sure if he was looking at stuff I’d see something off. He abhors cheating and thinks it doesn’t make sense, and I really do trust that he’s faithful. Our values and faith align.
He always wants to pay for things (I’m unemployed right now and he paid for my groceries last week even though I didn’t want him to), asks if I need something, and wastes no time when it comes to me, it warms my heart. Honestly I have PCOS and on Metformin and Spironolactone which I think can also lower blood sugar. He’s always considerate of my PCOS (what’s the new name?) when he cooks, more than me apparently because I need to do better about it and my meds. I just feel so blessed and relaxed around him. The crazy part is he is always like this, even when he’s had a long day himself he at least wants to make sure I have everything I need.
Just wanted to share some happiness and hope about men because I know this sub gets so much shitty men content. Don’t give up if you want real love!!!! Just keep those boundaries tight and be open to the unassuming consistent nerds.
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I'm just gobsmacked I found this man. Not only do we have the chemistry, the friendship, the life goals in common...all of that is important, but sometimes you can have those things, and still be disappointed because you aren't dating someone who is an actual adult, or it's someone who's ultimately dating you, the woman, for your services not for who you are.
I decided to start doing nothing for men. No auditioning to be a wife by offering to their laundry, no cooking specifically for them, no following up on making sure they booked that doctor appointment. I offer me and my charms, I offer profuse thanks for things that are done for me, and that's it.
This man:
-He opens the car door and all doors for me. One time we were running a little late to a place and I had a brain fart and walked ahead and opened the door to this place and he looked at me, laughed and said, "That was weird." And I said, "Don't worry, I wont let it happen again."
-We have had some arguments in our 8 months together. He has never disrespected me during our disagreements. He has been visibly frustrated, and yet has taken the time to breathe and try to understand my side. One time I was pretty upset, and honestly it was me being unreasonable. He took the time to pull over and ask me if Id like to take some time to talk it through before we got any further. (I should note, these disagreements are not over anything huge---in fact a lot are me being hypersensitive and needy and insecure because of how abusive my last relationship was)
-he cleans up at my house. Just tonight, I had to leave for an event right after dinner (which we made together). He has keys so I knew he would lock up, and when I came bacl he had put away the food and hand washed the pots and pans.
-he does my yard work. I literally never asked for this. He just offered and does it all the time.
-he is clear about his feelings. No ambiguity. But he's never love bombed, something Ive had sad experience with in the past. He's just forthright and honest. He will discuss any relationship topic with me. Cheating, birth control, whatever. He's there for it.
-He is happy to introduce me to his family and friends. He doesn't hide our relationship as if I'm just some hookup.
-he talks about the future for us
-He notices me, cares about my mood.
-We spend so much time together and yet when we are apart he sends me at least three funny memes or links a day, because he's thinking of me when he comes across them.
-he thinks he's bad at gift giving because he's always giving me practical gifts. He bought and installed a bidet for me in my house.
-he cares about my pleasure first in the bedroom. Nuff said.
I talk shit about men in general (sorry, I have been through the ringer and I know so many women who put up with bullshit), and he's just like, "yeah, thats fair." He isnt defensive because he knows he is a good one.
-oh, I almost forgot. He lives close so he comes over basically every morning to make me coffee. He doesn't even drink coffee so its just for me.
-editing as I think of things, so here's a funny story. A week ago he accidentally locked me out of my house. He has come over and brought me lunch, so we ate together then I left to walk the dog and he had to go, but he left after me. I didnt take keys with, so came back to locked doors. It was fine because I had left a windows open, just lifted the screen and got in at the back of the house. But I teased him via text about it and he was so apologetic and was like, "Oh my God, I did wonder if you had your keys, but I hate to leave your house unlocked when you're coming back alone."
-can't believe I'm adding to this AGAIN. Even though he's got a likely sinus infection and is feeling, as he put it, "kind of swimmy", he had come over for dinner, then I had an event, so he made a joke about how he can't believe he's going to bed at 7pm, but anyway I wished him well and loved on him and sent him on his way. 10:40 at night, I'm getting a call from him, he's like, "welp, I just passed out for 3 hours, but I'm awake now, just wanted to see how <event> went."
The chart on this brokerage account only goes back 3 years but the receipts go back further. I ignored the "just VOO and chill" crowd for years and chose instead that while youth was on my side to take chances and be bold. It was intentional but I hadn't planned on being this successful and know all good things come to an end. I have a strategy going forward to ensure wealth preservation and am about to enter a different phase of my plan. It's been a wild ride so far though and I just wanted to brag a bit as I'm still in disbelief myself of what I've managed to pull off
Me and my husband have a den room, A nice TV set up, plus xbox and PS, I usually play on the console’s but my husband plays on his computer.
My son loves watching my husband and me, If we start up the gaming systems, He’s there and ready to see what we’re playing, Whenever I see his eyes light up, I’m quick to get on my phone to check steam.
He’s getting a computer for his birthday soon, and I’m wanting to get him started with his own gaming, He’s gonna get to start his own Minecraft world, His own terraria world, He loves the sock boy game we have, and I even got him some Lego games for him to try out.
My husband knows about this, He’s even put some money into it, We’re both excited, He doesn’t have a clue. ☺️☺️
Edit:: oh my god! Being bashed because a 10 year old wants to play video games is crazy!!
To clear things up: He gets to play on the Xbox/PS with me anytime I play, If I’m playing a one player game, I get to a stopping point, save, and get another game so he can play with me.
We don’t have game night EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, Either once or twice a month, We are a family who would rather be in person with one another, He didn’t get the luxury of starting his gaming Career out the womb like everyone else! He was to busy being abused and hurt.
When he gets this computer, He’s gonna have limited screen time on it, We know about addictions in this house, and we don’t want him starting that with video games, but he’s a 10 year old, He’s a kid who wants to play games, and you guys are acting high and mighty like you didn’t want to play games at 10 years old.
Remember, You guys are bashing dads for wanting to make their son happy, and that’s really not cool. 👎
SECOND EDIT:: We homeschool because he was beaten, abused, and hurt in the foster system by other adults and kids, I’m adding this because people seem to think homeschool is a prison for kids. It’s not. He’s slower then most kids, We are getting him to a proper learning level, getting him used to other kids who won’t hurt him/other adults (my husbands side of the family.) before deciding if we should do public schooling.
And also, Telling me to ‘Send him back’/‘Put him back’ is actually the craziest thing I’ve ever heard, Telling me to put a 10 year old back into a system of abuse and pain, a system that could unalive him because the foster systems suck, is insane. Just because we’re a gay couple.
This took forever but hard work pays off!
28k - car
20k - cash
13k - taxable brokerage account
20k - roth ira
67k - cash balance pension
308k - 401k
105k - Paid off house. probably worth more like 140k now but i only track the amount i bought it for.
been working and earning around $2,000 a month and investing all of it, going all in, shouldn’t be too much longer I’m hoping!
going to university in the fall but going to make steady payments against my income
