u/Otherwise_Ad5067

So here’s some background. I (23) have been head over heels for her (23) since we were eight. We’ve been a part of each other’s lives since then, and she’s seen me through a lot of the hardest things. But I’ve also known she was straight, and she often had a boyfriend when I was single, and I was dating when she was single. I valued our friendship over anything, I never expected anything from her. We never talked much about feelings so I could never pick up how she felt about me. It wasn’t until a few months ago when she told me she wasn’t straight. But she has been with her boyfriend for several years now, and sometimes talks about wanting to have kids with him. But strangers who see us together have assumed that we’re in love, and I cannot imagine a life without her.
Now I have a lot of good opportunities over a 6 hour drive away, but I have to move within a couple months. She is always busy with multiple jobs, and I cannot drive, so we only really see each other maybe once or twice a year lately at the distance we’re at now. I think any less would be too painful to me.
So what do you think? Do I confess to her before I go, take the chance instead of being too afraid and potentially miss out? While also risking hurting her because she’s both losing a friend and she’s in a relationship? Do I not say anything to preserve our friendship, and we both potentially miss out just because we were both raised to be too tough to say anything? What do I do?

Yes, it’s as bad as it sounds. My 9 year old golden retriever was not fixed because we have had her line in my family for generations, and none of them could tolerate being put under anesthesia. She was very healthy for her age, if you saw her you would think she’s 4 or 5. We brought her to the vet for an emergency that turned out to be closed pyometra. During the appointment the vet was pushing on her swollen belly so hard, drew blood 2 times because they messed it up the first time, and physically dragged her at one point because she was limping slowly. When we got the diagnosis I made the mistake of asking the vet instead of pulling out my phone. I said that if her limping was related to the infection that I want to do the operation, but if the limping is her age catching up to her I would rather euthanize. After telling me how expensive and difficult the surgery is for a bit, he said that the limping must be from her age and closed pyometra doesn’t cause any muscle issues. It was this lie that made me euthanize my baby girl way too young. Here’s the problem-after asking around, this guy is known for euthanizing early instead of doing basic surgeries. It’s because he doesn’t want to operate. I am not the first and will not be the last. And the bad part- I live in Pennsylvania, where the most I could do to get justice is sue for cremation costs. I already reported him to the state, what are some legal avenues/news/organizations I can go to to make sure he can’t kill any more?
Tldr: lazy vet euthanizes instead of operating. How can he be stopped?