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how are we as undateable as minors?? i just think cognitive functions are neat :(

how are we as undateable as minors?? i just think cognitive functions are neat :(
She’s been having a rough go at it and her symptoms are really kicking her ass, but I figured I’d try to spin this positively (especially since we got the news yesterday that her tumor markers are going down for the first time, so we’re in a celebratory mood). So ever since my mom started chemo I went from barely being able to be in the same house as her while she retched and threw up to being in the same room while looking away and covering my ears! And I can touch and comfort her afterwards too, whereas before I had a rule that I wouldn’t even use the toilet someone threw up in for a solid month lol. I know it isn’t a complete recovery but it’s more progress than I thought possible! I’m glad I can take better care of my mom this way, I already feel guilty enough making her instances of throwing up about me :’)
Now they were saying OOOP might attract stalkers by saying men shouldn’t give up pursuing women when women say they’re not interested—that I understand. Respecting boundaries is good, but she didn’t tell him to stop sending flowers, only that she didn’t want to be with him. So I agree with her last statement.. why can’t we send friends flowers? Why is putting in thoughtful effort for someone only reserved for people who are willing to give you what you want? I have a feeling the answer is amatonormativity but I wanted to run this by you all in case I was missing something major…