u/Physical_Orchid3616

I was in junior high. a friend of mine who had moved about 60 miles away around two years before phoned me, inviting me to her birthday party, and also to spend the weekend with her. She hadn't seen me in that whole 2 years. I missed her. I was looking forward to seeing her. I thought we'd have a lot of fun and get to catch up.

As soon as she opened her door and saw me, her face dropped. She was awkward and avoided me. She had a ton of new friends buzzing around her. I didnt know any of them, obviously, and they were all having a great time together. They looked like they were in the popular crowd. I was entirely left out the entire evening. Nobody spoke to me, not even my friend.

During the night, as we slept in sleeping bags on her floor, a couple of the girls pranked me. They poured some water over my middle, so it would look like i wet the bed. i knew because i had woken up from the noise, and pretended to be asleep. Hilarious, right?

Then all her friends left, and it was just my "friend" and me. I thought maybe she'd be nicer with her friends gone. She wasn't. She treated me badly, and made fun of how i looked. It hurt.

Sunday afternoon came, and her mother drove me home. My "friend" didn't come. Her mom said nothing to me the whole way back.

I never heard from my "friend" again. Decades on, it still hurts when I think about it.

How many of you good looking people find this funny? Hope I've made you feel better about yourselves. That's why I'm here, after all.

I was staying at a hotel in Las Vegas. We were having fun in the pool, playing with a float. I felt happy for a change. I was laughing/smiling and feeling carefree. Just then, I noticed two men, both white, in their thirties, standing at the edge of the pool, both of them smirking at me with that awful look people like me have come to instantly recognise as that look that tells you you're too ugly to be enjoying yourself. My mood changed after that. I became upset, anxious and on guard. Ruined the day, and years later, I still remember it.

It is not the first time I've been out in public where I've felt targeted simply for looking like i'm enjoying myself, as if i dont have a right to because of how i look.

considering you also get targeted when you're not looking so happy or enjoying yourself, life kind of sucks

I was in a Sainsbury's the other day, and their 5 litre bottle of screen wash was marked at a whopping £6. Most screen washes are £2.99 in other shops.

Just wondering why Sainsbury's charges so much more for their screen wash.

Has someone ever shooed you away with their hands and arms, with a look of hostility or disgust on their face?

This would never happen to a beautiful person. But some ugly people have experienced being literally shooed away by someone as if they're an unwanted animal that has appeared on the scene.

As a society, a so called civilised one, we need to start admitting just how badly unattractive people get treated by others.

In typical fashion, because of the last two heatwaves, and the media, there has been a huge panicked rush to buy portable air conditioners. If you go online and try to find one now, most are completely sold out. The only ones that are available have been marked up by hundreds of pounds. I noticed a 9000 BTU portable air con unit that used to sell for around £200, has been marked up to £799.

Further to this, I made several phone calls to air conditioning companies to get quotes for a proper air con unit (not a portable one) and not ONE company was able to help me. They were either claiming to be out of stock, or they told me that they were prioritising commercial properties or residential customers who wanted their whole house done, rather than one bedroom.

Given this is the UK, it will take AGES for stock of portable air cons to be replenished, and even when that happens, customers will still be paying sky high prices for them. Those who can afford to, that is.

I have a small portable air conditioner in my bedroom, only it's around 4 years old and it doesn't work all that well. I don't think it will be enough to cope with 40c temps. In the last heatwave, my bedroom was 30c at night.

I never imagined, in the near 30 years I've lived in the UK, that I would be scrambling to try and buy air con because of extreme heat here.

So basically, I'm fucked. Thinking that I might go north for the next heatwave, where at least it's cooler, although you'll probably find that most hotels are already booked up for that week. Or they will also raise their prices.

How many lower income people will die in this next heatwave I wonder. An eight day heatwave is going to unalive a lot of people who weren't fortunate enough to get sufficient air con.

I think it's absolutely disgusting for people to come online and boast about how they have recently installed great air con, so they "don't care" about the next heatwave. I've seen several comments of this nature. Disgraceful.

I'm not saying that life is always perfect for the beautiful. But overall, they have much better lives than ugly people. Here are some things the less attractive of the world have to deal with.

- Bullying and mocking. having to live with being picked on for how you look, from the time you're a child, to older age, wherever you go. Meanwhile beautiful people enjoy a lifetime of compliments and validation. Their self esteem grows while yours gets hammered

- Exclusion. being picked last or not at all, not being invited to partake, left out, overlooked, ignored

- Rejection. struggling to make friends. being abandoned by former friends for how you look. rejected by the opposite sex (or any romantic interest). not getting the job or the promotion. never being nominated for anything.

- Missing out. you missed your prom. you missed a load of parties. you didn't get to experience romance or someone having a crush on you like good looking people do. you don't know what it's like to be flirted with. you missed out on a load of other things, and the good memories that go with them, just because of how you look.

- Not being acknowledged for your abilities or strengths, where a beautiful person gets applauded or praised by everyone for the slightest effort

- A very low glass ceiling, and barriers to entry wherever you go that don't exist for better looking people, who get to walk right through

- The horn effect. (as opposed to the halo effect). People assume you are mean, rude, untrustworthy, weird, up to no good, dumb, or incompetent

- Being blamed for things you didn't do. Something goes wrong at work, and the manager is very quick to blame you for it. You get singled out all the time

- Double standards. Beautiful people can say or do pretty much anything, and society accepts it. But an ugly person who tries to say or do the same things finds they get quickly pounced on, put in their place, silenced

- The law. Beautiful people are more likely to get off or be presumed innocent while less attractive people are usually presumed guilty and are more likely to be punished

- Being heard. Beautiful people are listened to. Ugly people aren't, or they are trolled, heckled or dismissed when they try to have a voice.

- Getting help or support from others. Unattractive people are far less likely to be offered help than beautiful people

- Societal treatment. Unattractive people get treated less favourably and more harshly than beautiful people. A customer service person might be cold and abrupt with an unattractive person, while they instantly switch to warm, friendly and accommodating with a beautiful person

Did I miss anything?

From having Googled this, it appears that Sainsbury's are rather quick to issue lifetime bans against customers they feel have been "difficult."

What I would like to know is, what is the specific criteria Sainsbury's uses to determine whether or not a lifetime ban is justified? Is there any? Or is is just subjective?

If it is subjective, that is problematic and concerning as it opens up the possibility where some customers find they are slapped with bans for relatively minor things, such as challenging a manager, purely because they rubbed them the wrong way.

There is a definite pattern, not just at Sainsbury's, but many other private businesses, where certain groups tend to get banned, while other people don't get banned for the same thing, or worse. These groups include elderly customers, women, the vulnerable, lower income people, foreign born customers, and people with mental health issues.

In the UK, it seems as though some private businesses weaponise these lifetime bans against any customer they decide they don't like. It starts to cross into an abuse of position which favours spiteful, punitive and discriminatory behaviour over making positive effort to effectively resolve issues with customers. Perhaps they think the latter is too hard.

I would love for Sainsbury's to comment on this.

From having Googled this, it appears that Sainsbury's are rather quick to issue lifetime bans against customers they feel have been "difficult."

What I would like to know is, what is the specific criteria Sainsbury's uses to determine whether or not a lifetime ban is justified? Is there any? Or is is just subjective?

If it is subjective, that is problematic and concerning as it opens up the possibility where some customers find they are slapped with bans for relatively minor things, such as challenging a manager, purely because they rubbed them the wrong way.

There is a definite pattern, not just at Sainsbury's, but many other private businesses, where certain groups tend to get banned, while other people don't get banned for the same thing, or worse. These groups include elderly customers, women, the vulnerable, lower income people, foreign born customers, and people with mental health issues.

In the UK, it seems as though some private businesses weaponise these lifetime bans against any customer they decide they don't like. It starts to cross into an abuse of position which favours spiteful, punitive and discriminatory behaviour over making positive effort to effectively resolve issues with customers. Perhaps they think the latter is too hard.

I would love for Sainsbury's to comment on this.

You are offered $5 million tax free dollars. For that, you must live in a permanent heatwave where it's between 36c and 42c outside every day of the year. No more winter, no more seasons. Just hot. Wherever you choose to live, everything within a 70 mile radius will be affected. Outside of the 70 mile radius, temperatures will remain normal.

You can choose where you want to live for this heat. Pick any city or town. It can be your home town, or somewhere abroad, etc. But wherever you choose, the daily high will reach up to 43c, the night time lows will never go below 22c, and many people in the area will suffer, as will the infrastructure. Once you choose a location, you may not move out of the radius or you lose the money and everything you bought with it. And no, it's not cooler on the edge of the radius.

You may leave the area for the day, for 2 days a week, from 9am, but you must return to your heat dome by 6pm. If you fail to return on time, you lose the money and everything you bought with it.

You may also take one vacation anywhere you want for up to 7 nights each year. No more.

Of course, with $5 million in your bank, you can afford great air con at your property. You can buy a nice sparkling swimming pool. Your car can have the best air con available. But outside it will always be boiling.

Do you take the offer?

And i'm not talking about the elderly or disabled. I'm talking about fully able bodied people. i had this happen earlier today in a Primark. I was headed for the escalator down. i was walking at a normal pace, not rushed or anything. Just as I get close to the top of the escalator, a woman, well dressed, nicely made up, looked about 52, got off the escalator, crosses my path, stops, and she decided to just sort of linger there, blocking me, and anyone else who wanted to get on the escalator. I thought she looked a bit disoriented.

So I asked her if she was okay. How does she respond? She whips her head around at me, gives me a dirty look and a once over, and spits out "I SAID SORRY". I wasn't asking you to apologise, karen. i was asking if you were okay. and i also never heard you say sorry, either.

If you do not know how to walk around in a shop without causing problems for everyone around you, stay at home. and if you act aggressively towards others when they are just being polite, because YOU are in the way, then seriously stay at home.

With yet another heatwave expected in just one week, I've been phoning around trying to get quotes for an air conditioner for my bedroom. So far, nobody is willing to provide this for me. They are prioritising bigger jobs such as commercial properties, or homes that want air con in the entire property. So, can people please refrain from lecturing people in the UK to get air con. It's not as easy as you think. Nothing here is. So many people will be scrambling to get air con after this last massacre heatwave, but they will find that most portable air cons are sold out, and that proper air con systems arent available for smaller properties. We're fucked.

This drives me nuts. You're trying to find information about something, or an answer to something - whatever it is - and the person you've asked, or the video you've clicked on hoping for a clear answer, is taking FOREVER to get to the point. They're babbling on about other non relevant shit for ages before they finally manage to get to the point, and even when they do finally answer your question, it's often a disappointment and you feel like you didn't really get an answer.

I sometimes wonder if people delay answering on purpose as a control thing to make you wait. Or if they are purposely vague because they don't actually want to help you out.

Can you imagine if we lived in a world where beautiful people had to be unattractive for three years, just so they could experience what it was like? They would wake up one morning, look in the mirror, and find that their face and body was completely different. Someone else. Someone who doesn't look good at all. Someone who society considers to be "ugly."

How much would their life change? How many friends would they lose? How many new partners or friends would they make? Would they keep their job? How would society treat them compared to their beautiful selves? Do you think this experience would change them? Make them more empathetic? Kinder? And would it stick once they reverted back to beautiful?

On the flip side, what if unattractive people got to be beautiful for three years? It would be interesting to see how much their life changes. How much they change.

Do you wish this was a reality of the world? Why or why not?

When there's a heatwave in the UK, like this week, it's absolutely oppressive and miserable for most people, even dangerous for some. Most homes get very hot, and it takes over a week for them to cool back down.

But what I hate are all the smug assholes who take to social media to boast about how they have a great air con system, and how they will be "freezing" in this heat wave.

Why do people have to be such smug assholes. If you have air con, good for you. But you dont need to boast about it in the comments on social media wherever there's a story about the heatwave. It's no different to boasting about being in perfect health in a channel where the content creator talks about suffering cancer.

I've read through many posts on here, and I'm saddened because there seems to be a real lack of empathy, kindness and compassion on here. It's more common that an unattractive person finds they are beaten up a bit by harsh comments that often blame them for something that isn't their fault, or they get invalidated, or told to "stop moping."

Be nice to see more kindness in this sub. Is that asking too much?

A genie has given you the ability to try out up to ten alternate lives. The ten possibilities are based on your regrets of the past - things you didn't do but felt you should have done, paths you never took, dreams you never achieved, things or people you walked away from (or stayed with), all the life choices you made.

You get exactly 24 hours in each alternate life, like a taster. At the end of 24 hours, you must tell the genie if that's the life you want, or if you want to keep trying out other alternate lives to see if you can do better.

Once you turn down an alternate life, you cannot change your mind and return to it. And once you choose an alternate life, there is no going back, either. So you must be careful what you choose.

If you choose nothing by the tenth alternate life, the choice comes down to either choosing that tenth life, or going back to your original life. You will never be given this chance again.

How do you ensure you make the right choice?

The offer is $10 million dollars... To get the money, you must be cruel to someone every day for one year. You may be cruel to the same person over and over, or you may spread it around - it's entirely up to you. You must be cruel to their face, not online, not in writing. You can pick anyone you want.

What constitutes cruel: Saying or doing something that causes the other person either emotional or physical harm. If you go too easy on them, you will be notified, and you will only have until the end of that day to make good on it.

You are responsible for protecting yourself from any aggressive reactions or paybacks as the result of your cruelty. That said, nobody will unalive you.

Do you accept the offer? Why or why not?

It is one of my worst memories. I was around 11 years of age. We were all in the car. My dad was driving. My step mom riding shotgun. My two step brothers in the back with me. The radio was on. An advert came on with Brooke Shields going on about drinking milk. When the advert finished, my dad said to me "Just think, _____, if you drank more milk, you'd look like Brooke Shields." Then he laughed. My step mom hissed at him to shut up. My step brothers were silent. I fought back tears. The cruelty behind that remark still hurts to this day.

I was also lactose intolerant which is why I couldn't drink milk. All the laughing from other men (and some women too) later in life might not have hurt as badly had my dad not been the first to mock/insult my looks.

Whenever I go to the supermarket, people always ride up on my heels as I push my trolley along .Yes, I move slowly because I have arthritis in my knees, but I do my best. I am constantly allowing the people on my heels to go ahead of me, because i dont want them on my heels. I dont get why people cannot be more patient. Why do people have to do that to someone who is clearly struggling? Why can't they just back off a bit? I swear, if I fell, they'd probably trample me.

I bought a bag of these yesterday. They looked good. But when you eat them, it tastes like you're chewing on little bits of glass or wood (the cereal, apparently).

Whoever decided this was a good thing? Can the ASDA bakery every get anything right?