u/Professional-Wolf461

When Brady took his shirt off before jumping into the pool, is it possible it was purely out of habit and he very quickly took it off while running to jump into the pool? Is it detailed in the police report? Maybe I'm giving him too much credit (not that I gave him any in the first place) but I always imagined it was just a quick impulse thing that didn't slow him down.

I'm just asking because a lot of people are extremely disturbed by this detail, and I want to possibly ease some of that discomfort.

If it can happen to anyone, then what's the point of water safety and drowning prevention? The reason prevention exists is because it works and stops accidents from happening to just anyone. Emilie said herself it was a preventable accident.

It's mindblowing how much support they get considering the details of the case. I used to understand not wanting to criticize despite knowing this accident was their fault because I figured the pain and grief of losing their child was punishment enough, but these two don't seem very bothered by what happened and they're still not practicing water safety.

The one detail that gets me the most is that some of their door locks were broken. That's a safety risk, period. How did they sleep at night knowing the locks on their doors were broken? I can't imagine being so overconfident that nothing bad will happen to me that I don't even bother to lock the doors at night.

She has several toxic traits but she's impossible to communicate with so I feel as though my only option is to block her and cut all communication. One of her ex-friends did the same thing to her that I'm doing now and she was really upset and didn't understand why, despite that friend trying to communicate the issues several times and finally got tired and blocked her.

Here's just some of my issues with her: male centered, selfish, insecure, jealousy issues, she's very quick to believe in wild conspiracy theories with no evidence, talks over me and doesn't let me speak, terrible at taking criticism, and I believe in general we just have very different morals and values. I also believe she's settling for her partner because she's putting pressure on herself to get married and have kids by a certain age, and I do not want to be around for that.

I'm going through a lot in my life and I do not need her toxicity but it's also been difficult to lose a friendship on top of everything else that's been happening. Especially when you know they're not going to understand why and they might even paint you as the villain.

For example, do you still put pressure on yourself to be happy and positive all the time, despite not really believing in that anymore? I ask because I have an ex-friend who grew up mormon and left the church, but only recently I connected the dots that her mormon upbringing probably heavily influences her behavior today.

For example, she has toxic positivity, male centered, performs traditional gender roles for acceptance and validation from her partner despite neither of them being very religious, cares too much about appearances and how her life looks on the outside, and she's very quick to believe in wild conspiracy theories with no evidence. I also believe she's settling for her partner because she's putting pressure on herself to get married and have kids by a certain age.

To be clear, I have compassion and empathy, and I ended our friendship for several reasons that don't necessarily have to do with growing up mormon. I would love some insight, and I appreciate your thoughts and opinions.

I had a close call recently with a car who wasn't paying attention to oncoming traffic and wasn't adjusting their speed appropriately. Got into a situation where I had to slam my brakes suddenly and a truck close behind us honked. Maybe I could've been more careful too, and I'm definitely a lot more careful now, but that's terrible infrastructure. Very little time for either car to make decisions and adjust.