Guys i am missing some context on the protest thing. Can someone fill me in please? Was she the one who irganized it? Why is it in the UK? Isnt she supposed to be in the UAE?
I dont know what to think about a friend. Let me explain:
Her and i have been friends for four years. I never invited her over to my home until very recently.
She got to visit me two times, and both times the house malfunctioned in ways that were unusual.
First time i thought it was a coincidence. But the second time, the pattern made itself obvious.
When she was at my home, she commented on a bunch of appliances and those very appliances are what ended up malfunctioning (or stopped working). During her visit we talked a lot about a whole bunch of things over some coffee. I thought we were just catching up cause it had been a while since we got together for a chit chat. During our long talk, she revealed to me that she struggles with envy (which i thought she didnt have). Thats when many memories came back and some things clicked (she did behave in strange ways before but i thought she was simply anxious like she told me).
When she left, i was left trying to fix or replace them.
Its been a week, i have been thinking about those two visits and how they reveled quite a lot. I didn’t believe in evil eye before, but now i am reconsidering it.
Believe me i feel like a weirdo saying that my friend of four years may be envious of me and gave my home the evil eye. But i feel like it is not a coincidence. This is why i am making this post to ask you all here what you think? What should i do?
I never took the time to look at her instagram before. Now that i did, i see a person who genuinely has no clue what she’s doing in life. Just like all of us, she is simply figuring it out, but unlike her we dont act like we got it figured out. She started going online to preach life lessons and spiritual truths as an early 20 something young woman. Maybe that gave her a sense of control, but why were people listening to her? She is no different than many of those life coaches and spiritual gurus out there. Many havent even lived the things they preach, nor do they truly possess the wisdom they share. They never integrated those life lessons but they preach them to an audience anyway. Liz has no clue what she is doing, she is grasping at anything that gives her a sense of control and inner coherence.
Liz is incredibly immature, and her primary concern is saving her ego. Somebody here said that she is extremely insecure and i agree. She grew up valued for her appearance and her sexuality. She sold it very young, and that became her only currency in the world. She never got to develop any other area in her self and her life. It’s quite sad when you look at it this way. I wonder if she even realises the magnitude of what it means to have a child and being responsible for it.
There is also the angle of manifestation. I think she really believed that Landon was her one and only, and she even had astrological proof. But that fell shot and she could not digest it at all. She is also surrounded by people who fuel her madness. Her sister is also immature and they fuel each other.
What do you guys think? I had more empathy for her in the beginning because i thought she was manipulated. But she has been in on a steady decline crash out after crash out saying vile things. She needs serious help, not the internet, not Sabina.
I dont see many opinions on this brand. What do you guys think of it? I bought their hyaluronic acid pot cream and a sunscreen. Idk if it was a good purchase.
So I live with a parent who will just not shit up. It’s like having negative affirmations playing on like a podcast for hours. It’s hard to domy affirmations or stir my mind to my chosen assumptions while living with them. Does anybody have tips? Advice? Anything.
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I recently found out that i have been wrecking my skin and my eyes by using micellar water to remove makeup.
I mainly wear eye makeup and use micellar water to remove it. My eyes became more dry and i didn’t connect it to micellar water until recently. And yes i do wash my face after removing makeup.
What can i use instead, knowing that my skin is sensitive and it doesn’t handle oil removers either?
Is micellar water bad for eyes? I have been using it to remove eye makeup (and of course i wash my face and rinse it afterwards), but i noticed increasing dryness. It also irritates my skin sometimes. I am not very knowledgeable when it comes to skin care. What are better options to remove eye makeup? I cant use oil based ones either they irritate my skin (sensitive skin)
Anyone here who stopped wearing their retainers?
I stopped wearing mine and my teeth kinda shifted. I like them better now than en they were perfectly aligned. Anyone else didnt like how perfect their teeth were after braces?
It just occurred to me that i was sexually harmed in my childhood. In a continuous way. But i was never allowed to acknowledge that. I remember describing what was clearly “sexual harm” to previous therapists, and none of them reacted in a humane way. I tend to minimise my feelings , i try to have a nonchalant attitude about heavy topics , but that doesn’t mean i’m okay. I still needed help to understand what happened to me. Having a therapist not react and remain neutral when you disclose a history of physical and sexual harm is genuinely fucked up and messes up your mind.
Like why are you just sitting there behind your desk watching me describe a fucked up childhood, while im trying to remain calm. I was clearly struggling to name what happened to me, but all they could do was just stare at me? I dont understand. This therapy thing was supposed to be a safe space where healing occurs, but it was just another layer to add to a fucked up story.
Im not trying to generalize, but every single therapist i saw had a messy personal life and they made bad personal choices. I’m bot here to judge their lives and i dont want to, but i put my life between their hands. The hand of professionals who cant even get ahold of their own personal lives. The last therapist i consulted couldn’t even recognize abuse as abuse and kept trying to reframe it and soften it.
Cbt is professional lying. I never once had a good experience with it. One time i saw a therapist that used CBT techniques on me. I told her that my body is deeply affected by the stress and the abuse i experienced and i am not able to do life the way our current world requires. And she was like “ are you sure? Maybe you are dramatizing. Let me teach you about cognitive distortions!” And it completely derailed the reasons why i went to therapy in the first place, which was to get support outside my abusive family.
I’m tired of being told to “work on myself” when the problem isn’t me
This has happened every time i tried to do the “right thing” by going to therapy:
Every time I bring up actual situations (family dynamics, lack of autonomy, being constantly questioned or overridden, having to hide parts of myself to survive hostile environment,etc), it somehow always circles back to me.
It turns into:
you have low self-esteem
you need to work on yourself
you need to regulate
you need to reframe
And I’m just like… why?
How is that helpful?
Why is the focus always pushed back onto the individual, even when the situation itself is clearly the issue?
I feel like I’ve spent years doing “the work,” thinking things through, trying to be fair, trying to improve… and instead of helping, it just made everything heavier. Like now I’m not only dealing with the situation, I’m also responsible for fixing how I react to it!!!
It feels like misplaced responsibility.
There’s a difference between taking responsibility for your own actions and being made responsible for things that aren’t yours to fix.
Sometimes the most accurate thing is just:
“this situation is not good for me.”
No reframing, no digging, no “what does this say about you.” Just… reality.
I have so much built up frustration because i tried to do the right thing for the longest time only to be blamed for shit I did not cause. Therapy is rarely ever rewarding.
What have you done to deconstruct from therapy? Im currently in the process of deprograming from therapy culture but im lost on where to begin.
Out of curiosity, had anybody done an entire overhaul of their life using Law of Assumption?
By overhaul, I mean changes that include multiple foundational areas such as physical changes, health, situation of life, place where you live, people, how life treats you, money, etc?
I am asking because i wanna know if there are practitioners who went extreme with this knowledge.