u/Put-Stunning

hey i’m just curious if parents think their kid is ugly sometimes be honest hahahah

i’m mainly coming here to vent because i’m sure most of the advice will be “move on” and “cut him off” which i’m kind of already thinkin… anywho. my best friend is becoming someone really annoying and dismissive. all of this happened the MOMENT we entered college btw. we have been BEST friends since middle school and we are both 19. anywho, i’ll crack down the main issues

1. cigarettes and being performative as fr*ck

2. this guy is smoking several packs a month and is making his whole personality cigarettes and being a smoker. btw the only time he posts: it’s always “aesthetic photos” which comes off really pretentious and annoying to me. like bro u can be funny on instagram it doesn’t always have to be a video of you walking downtown or lighting a cigarette. i smoke too but i don’t make it my whole personality and pride myself on cigarettes??? like why do u always have to talk about it

3. dismissive

4. told him recently and briefly that i got a fwb and bro didnt even ask questions about it.. or give a fuck who it was. he asks no questions about my life and kinda only takes an interest in his own. i’ll talk to him about my classes and i kinda just get a “nice” and no questions.. no joke anytime i talk about anything in my life, he won’t even get excited for me?? i told him i was going to europe and he didn’t care to ask me where i was going, what i was doing. like why can’t you even pretend to be excited for my life 😭

not making any plans nor texting first
so this is prob the worst one but i’ve noticed we won’t hang out unless i initiate. if i don’t plan something, we just DONT hang out. if i don’t text first, we just DONT text. for someone who is supposed to be my best friend, im surprised he doesn’t even care to plan a lunch or anything. like the “no effort” has been making me feel like this friendship is really one sided and im the only one who cares about it. by the way we have had FOUR conversations about this!!! where i said “hey i wish you put more effort in to make plans and to talk” and he goes “yeah i know i gotta be more present” and then doesn’t even try after the convo! i really don’t wanna have FIFTH conversation about this stuff.. i decided to not text him to see if he would say anything and we haven’t spoke in 3 weeks. 💀

thank you to anyone who read all of this. i’m mainly just venting but if anyone has any advice how to cope with losing my best friend due to growing into different people. also can you help me decide if he’s a bad friend? these things annoy me but i’m not sure if it makes him a bad person

genuinely i am really sad. i miss my old buddy. he used to be so cool and fun but now it’s so distant and lame. :(

i’m so bored! AMA! :)

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tldr: how do i find ballrooms in SoCal