u/Puzzleheaded-Cake400

Wussup Reddit. I never thought I’d end up here but here I am. So to preference this, I’m a M24 in a now year long Relationship with my gf F20, she is pregnant at 37 weeks.
This morning we had an ultra sound appointment at the hospital today that was scheduled for 11:00AM. She woke up and also woke me up at 10:40 and told me that she woke up late. I immediately get up and put all my clothes on. It’s now 10:45 or 10:46 and my stomach is killing me (I had some McDonald’s last night at like 12am)
I tell her that I needed to use the restroom cause my guts were straight bubbling. She was still getting dressed her self while telling me she wants to get there early in case we have to do paper work (I don’t see why that matters because once we are checked in before 11:10 because if the 10 minute grace period, that we are officially on time, which I told her but she disregarded that and told me she doesn’t care and that she wants to be there on time anyways because if we aren’t there at 11 the whole world is apparently going to end).
I spend like max 5 minutes in the bathroom because she was outside the door telling me to hurry up because she doesn’t want to be late so I cut my shit early and just suffer through the stomach ache I gave myself. As we are leaving to get in the car she’s telling me that she’s annoyed with me that I “don’t respect her time” and that “I don’t care that she gets stressed if we aren’t early to things.”
I tell her that I cut my bathroom trip extremely short and that I do respect her time and that is why I took so short in the bathroom. I tell her this, but she keeps on nagging at me that I still didn’t respect her time because she wanted to leave at 10:50 and we left at 10:52. I tell her again “I do respect your time and I’m sorry that we didn’t leave at exactly 10:50, but I needed to use the restroom badly”
She again keeps on talking condescendingly towards me saying “uhhh if you respected my time? we would’ve left at 10:50 and not 10:53 😬, so yeah you don’t respect me time at all.”
Now I start to get upset at this point because this feels extremely disrespectful and rude take it that my stomach is still hurting and I cut my bathroom break extremely short.
I tell her “if it was that serious that you are going to keep talking like this to me you could’ve just gone by yourself” I get this wasn’t the best thing to say at the moment but I was getting fed up with how disrespectful she was being at me for using the restroom. She understandably get upset at this and starts telling me that was mean and rude to say. And keeps telling me how much I don’t “respect her time”. I start talking to her in a more direct tone and she tells me that I’m being rude to HER.
I start getting more frustrated at this point because I was only speaking In a straightforward tone almost like if I was talking to a phone rep or something and say “yk what I’m sorry I made us late.” And I just stop talking and get on my phone. She starts crying and telling me that I don’t need to be rude just because she was stressed about being on time.
I tell her that’s not all she was doing or else I would’ve been more receptive and that she was getting on to me about something I couldn’t control and that we still have a 10 minute grace period to get there. She mentions the paper work thing AGAIN and I just go back into silence because she’s not listening to me. Now we get her ultra sound done, and got there at 11:06 (there was a train we avoided but we still got there ON TIME WITHIN THE GRACE PERIOD) after we left she again starts nagging em about not respecting her time and asking if she deserved for me to be rude to her and asking why I’m not acting normal(???).
I tell her I wasn’t being rude and that I was only speaking in a straight forward tone and that I felt disrespected because she keeps blatantly disregarding the fact that I did respect her time because I cut my restroom break as early as I could. We get home and she’s still in my ear saying I was now being rude and not respecting her time. At this point I’m absolutely fed up so I am talking in a bit of a ruder tone that I was this morning, simply because of how frustrated it is to be called something that I’m not and that being all her evidence for being upset at me. We get in the house while this is all happening, her still nagging me about not respecting her time and also now apparently being rude. I go in the bathroom finally and I am currently shitting my guts out finally. she starts bawling her eyes out on the other side and crying in the living room.
AITAH for using the restroom this morning?
I feel as though I am not “disrespecting her time” and that I actually did the opposite. I also understand she’s 37 weeks pregnant and that hormones are insane during this time. I’ve already spent my time with the berating and being screamed at for doing the smallest of things for 37 weeks, but I feel like this situation is getting to me. I’d also like to say I’ve already apologized for what I told her this morning about her going by herself if it was that serious yet she’s still upset about all of it despite her causing all of this. Would like y’all’s thoughts.

TLDR; gf is seeing my 5 minute bathroom break as disrespectful to her time because it made us late by a few minutes but still within our grace period.

Wussup Reddit. I never thought I’d end up here but here I am. So to preference this, I’m a M24 in a now year long Relationship with my gf F20, she is pregnant at 37 weeks. This morning we had an ultra sound appointment at the hospital today that was scheduled for 11:00AM. She woke up and also woke me up at 10:40 and told me that she woke up late. I immediately get up and put all my clothes on. It’s now 10:45 or 10:46 and my stomach is killing me (I had some McDonald’s last night at like 12am)
I tell her that I needed to use the restroom cause my guts were straight bubbling. She was still getting dressed her self while telling me she wants to get there early in case we have to do paper work (I don’t see why that matters because once we are checked in before 11:10 because if the 10 minute grace period, that we are officially on time, which I told her but she disregarded that and told me she doesn’t care and that she wants to be there on time anyways because if we aren’t there at 11 the whole world is apparently going to end). I spend like max 5 minutes in the bathroom because she was outside the door telling me to hurry up because she doesn’t want to be late so I cut my shit early and just suffer through the stomach ache I gave myself. As we are leaving to get in the car she’s telling me that she’s annoyed with me that I “don’t respect her time” and that “I don’t care that she gets stressed if we aren’t early to things.” I tell her that I cut my bathroom trip extremely short and that I do respect her time and that is why I took so short in the bathroom. I tell her this, but she keeps on nagging at me that I still didn’t respect her time because she wanted to leave at 10:50 and we left at 10:52. I tell her again “I do respect your time and I’m sorry that we didn’t leave at exactly 10:50, but I needed to use the restroom badly” She again keeps on talking condescendingly towards me saying “uhhh if you respected my time? we would’ve left at 10:50 and not 10:53 😬, so yeah you don’t respect me time at all.”
Now I start to get upset at this point because this feels extremely disrespectful and rude take it that my stomach is still hurting and I cut my bathroom break extremely short. I I tell her “if it was that serious that you are going to keep talking like this to me you could’ve just gone by yourself” I get this wasn’t the best thing to say at the moment but I was getting fed up with how disrespectful she was being at me for using the restroom. She understandably get upset at this and starts telling me that was mean and rude to say. And keeps telling me how much I don’t “respect her time”. I start talking to her in a more direct tone and she tells me that I’m being rude to HER. I start getting more frustrated at this point because I was only speaking In a straightforward tone almost like if I was talking to a phone rep or something and say “yk what I’m sorry I made us late.” And I just stop talking and get on my phone. She starts crying and telling me that I don’t need to be rude just because she was stressed about being on time. I tell her that’s not all she was doing or else I would’ve been more receptive and that she was getting on to me about something I couldn’t control and that we still have a 10 minute grace period to get there. She mentions the paper work thing AGAIN and I just go back into silence because she’s not listening to me. Now we get her ultra sound done, and got there at 11:06 (there was a train we avoided but we still got there ON TIME WITHIN THE GRACE PERIOD) after we left she again starts nagging em about not respecting her time and asking if she deserved for me to be rude to her and asking why I’m not acting normal(???).
I tell her I wasn’t being rude and that I was only speaking in a straight forward tone and that I felt disrespected because she keeps blatantly disregarding the fact that I did respect her time because I cut my restroom break as early as I could. We get home and she’s still in my ear saying I was now being rude and not respecting her time. At this point I’m absolutely fed up so I am talking in a bit of a ruder tone that I was this morning, simply because of how frustrated it is to be called something that I’m not and that being all her evidence for being upset at me. We get in the house while this is all happening, her still nagging me about not respecting her time and also now apparently being rude. I go in the bathroom finally and I am currently shitting my guts out finally. And she starts bawling her eyes out on the other side and crying in the living room.
AITAH for using the restroom this morning?
I feel as though I am not “disrespecting her time” and that I actually did the opposite. I also understand she’s 37 weeks pregnant and that hormones are insane during this time. I’ve already spent my time with the berating and being screamed at for doing the smallest of things for 37 weeks, but I feel like this situation is getting to me. I’d also like to say I’ve already apologized for what I told her this morning about her going by herself if it was that serious yet she’s still upset about all of it despite her causing all of this. Would like y’all’s thoughts.