Handsome but extremely shy and it’s AWFUL

I’m 28M and never had a girlfriend or had sex. I’m average height, average weight, but have a (please, please, please bear with me) very handsome face. Part of me wishes I were unattractive so I could at least have an explanation to my dad. I literally stopped speaking to him because of how embarrassing it is that I’m “wasting his face” and the fact that he looooveeeeessss the “girlfriend?” question.

What I need advice on is how do I overcome this fear of speaking to women irl? I get the signals all the time that they’d like me to come over and talk to them (staring then looking away when caught, tapping her friend with her elbow, adjusting her pants if she’s thick etc), but I chicken out like a bitch.

I’m much bolder online, but the gag? I’m one of those unfortunate cases of good looking irl, hideous in pics. The online dating has been filled with so much rejection, that it’s affected my real life self esteem, which of course makes it even more difficult to approach women.

I’d greatly appreciate any tips on conversation starters. Maybe even podcasts or books that you guys listen to for affirmations or anything really. Thanks in advance, guys.

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u/Racentour — 27 days ago

Good looking but extremely shy and it’s AWFUL

I’m 28M and never had a girlfriend or had sex. I’m average height, average weight, but have a (please, please, please bear with me) very handsome face. Part of me wishes I were unattractive so I could at least have an explanation to my dad. I literally stopped speaking to him because of how embarrassing it is that I’m “wasting his face” and the fact that he looooveeeeessss the “girlfriend?” question.

What I need advice on is how do I overcome this fear of speaking to women irl? I get the signals all the time that they’d like me to come over and talk to them (staring then looking away when caught, tapping her friend with her elbow, adjusting her pants if she’s thick etc), but I chicken out like a bitch.

I’m much bolder online, but the gag? I’m one of those unfortunate cases of good looking irl, hideous in pics. The online dating has been filled with so much rejection, that it’s affected my real life self esteem, which of course makes it even more difficult to approach women.

I’d greatly appreciate any tips on conversation starters. Maybe even podcasts or books that you guys listen to for affirmations or anything really. Thanks in advance, guys.

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u/Racentour — 27 days ago

Good looking but extremely shy and it’s AWFUL

I’m 28M and never had a girlfriend or had sex. I’m average height, average weight, but have a (please, please, please bear with me) very handsome face. Part of me wishes I were unattractive so I could at least have an explanation to my dad. I literally stopped speaking to him because of how embarrassing it is that I’m “wasting his face” and the fact that he looooveeeeessss the “girlfriend?” question.

What I need advice on is how do I overcome this fear of speaking to women irl? I get the signals all the time that they’d like me to come over and talk to them (staring then looking away when caught, tapping her friend with her elbow, adjusting her pants if she’s thick etc), but I chicken out like a bitch.

I’m much bolder online, but the gag? I’m one of those unfortunate cases of good looking irl, hideous in pics. The online dating has been filled with so much rejection, that it’s affected my real life self esteem, which of course makes it even more difficult to approach women.

I’d greatly appreciate any tips on conversation starters. Maybe even podcasts or books that you guys listen to for affirmations or anything really. Thanks in advance, guys.

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u/Racentour — 27 days ago

Good looking but very shy and it’s AWFUL

I’m 28M and never had a girlfriend or had sex. I’m average height, average weight, but have a (please, please, please bear with me) very handsome face. Part of me wishes I were unattractive so I could at least have an explanation to my dad. I literally stopped speaking to him because of how embarrassing it is that I’m “wasting his face” and the fact that he looooveeeeessss the “girlfriend?” question.

What I need advice on is how do I overcome this fear of speaking to women irl? I get the signals all the time that they’d like me to come over and talk to them (staring then looking away when caught, tapping her friend with her elbow, adjusting her pants if she’s thick etc), but I chicken out like a bitch.

I’m much bolder online, but the gag? I’m one of those unfortunate cases of good looking irl, hideous in pics. The online dating has been filled with so much rejection, that it’s affected my real life self esteem, which of course makes it even more difficult to approach women.

I’d greatly appreciate any tips on conversation starters. Maybe even podcasts or books that you guys listen to for affirmations or anything really. Thanks in advance, guys.

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u/Racentour — 27 days ago

The State Game: Joey Tribbiani is not who we Thought he was!

Now I’m sure we all remember the Thanksgiving episode in which Ross wasn’t allowed to eat until he named all 50 states, right? Well this episode turned out to reveal something about Joey. He’s a super intellectual and a revolutionary.

He named 56 states and we all thought it was hilarious. Unbeknownst to us, he’s actually part of a movement fighting for the statehood of the United States’ five territories as well as Washington DC.

In the attached photo you’ll see lieutenant Joseph F. Tribbiani Jr. planning military strategy alongside one of his comrades. At least now we finally know what he really meant when he said “the south will rise again”.

He was referring to American Samoa, Guam, Northern Mariana Islands, Puerto Rico, and the U.S. Virgin Islands, all of which are located south of mainland United States 🤯

u/Racentour — 2 months ago

P.I.S.S.E.D. (Pretending I’m Strong, Supporting Eshgham’s Departure)

The better man won, stole her heart fair and square, she’s a bit of a handful, I just hope you’re prepared. I want her to be happyy, so I’ll share some adviice, when you pour her tequila, she needs three cubes of ice. Be careful what you feed her, she’s allergic to shellfish, poke her left outer thigh, when she needs epinephrine. When she’s reading a novel, that’s her time to herself, nothing else even matters, til it’s back on the shelf. 74 degrees, how she likes the apartmeent, anything less than that, then our girl gets to barkin’. Yes I know she’s a LADY, but she’s misunderstood, she may act like a princess, but she needs her hair pulled. And she might be a headache, but she’s also a DRUG, treat her right she gon heal you, treat her wrong best of luck. Kiss her forehead and TELL HERRR, that she makes you COMPLETE, if you don’t she’ll replace youu, and you’ll end up like me.

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u/Racentour — 2 months ago
▲ 5 r/NerdDating+2 crossposts

Hey Reddit 👋 my name’s Isaac and I’ve been lurking for a while, tho this is my first post on one of these types of subreddits. I’m in search of someone that can be at least somewhat nerdy, but not stereotypical so. Does that make sense?

Basically, I’d like a woman that can easily learn all of my hobbies (paintball, laser tag, trivia game nights, board games, fantasy sports leagues etc) and became good at them. In return I’d happily go out of my way to learn yours.

About me: I’m 5’11, slim-medium build, Latino, and work full-time as senior paralegal for a trusts and estates firm. In my free time besides being a nerd, I volunteer as a big brother (BBBS of America) to a young man on the autism spectrum. Personality-wise I’d say I’m pretty easy going but stern when necessary, funny but mature, and competitive but in a friendly way lol.

About you: In decent shape, shorter than me, kind, funny, ambitious, unique (many ways to be), loyal, and empathetic. Don’t really have much other physical preferences. You’d probably be surprised at the wide ranging phenotypes of my exes. When in doubt, just shoot your shot and the absolute worst you can get from me is a “you’re gorgeous, just not really what I’m looking for” 😆

Here’s me and Lucky: https://imgur.com/a/45XfYB3

u/Racentour — 13 hours ago