how to improve working memory?

i don’t want to give a personal anecdote so i’ll just ask on behalf of all people with poor working memory who find it frustrating—what can these people do?

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 10 days ago

family vacation and no one wants me here

food is spinach and ricotta lasagna and creme brulee kinda thing i had (alone) in venice

edit again bc i a am employed and have 2 streams of income i didnt realize it was unclear

i (21ftm) moved 7000 miles away from home the moment i turned 18 and this trip (first one since moving) is making me remember why i will just list things out here in no particular order

- every word is an argument. if not that, every time i open my mouth i am ignored. i went up to my mom trying to tell a silly story and she turned and began a conversation with my sister as i was mid sentence

- the one thing i said i wanted to do was draw the scenery. im an artist who likes to specialize in sculpture portraits and im in italy, a match made in heaven. my mom agreed months ago to let me draw. all to not let me sit more than 20 minutes to even get a sketch down. but then other instances they will just leave me in shops or in the street without telling me and i have to track them on life360. so why not let me draw? just leave me here

- the one place i wanted to go was pompeii or herculaneum. just a day trip, even. my sister wanted to go to the dolomites. guess where we are spending four days in

- my sister and i both have dietary restrictions. they only ever check for hers on the menus

- my sister is downright vile. i can’t even begin to express it in this reddit post. just imagine the most catty and vitriolic person and it’s about that. we aren’t allowed to fight—verbally or physically—so imagine the kind of insidiousness you can mask as innocuous so we don’t get in trouble even at our grown ages. for instance she wouldn’t let me borrow her hair brush because i’m ‘dirty.’

- they all walk 20-50 meters ahead of me knowing im disabled, my mother having taken me to all the doctors appointments and hospital visits.

- i accidentally knock an *empty* *plastic* water bottle onto my sisters arm. my parents tweak out yelling at me because my sister had surgery on that arm 8 months ago. silent treatment commence

- after expressing joy for the first time while in the doge palace my mom said she wishes we never went there

every time i am called sir i see my mother frown more. every time i express an interest i see her look away. it just sucks, i’d rather be alone or back home with my friends. and even tho my dad is the more decent person he will always side with my mother

i know why they act like this. im the queer kid they sent to christian camp hoping to be fixed. im the emigrant they send money to every month so they can feel like they are good parents. and if i wasn’t being financially supported by my mom, i would never ever talk to her again, and nothing at all in my life would change

the cherry on top, this is day 4 of an 14 day trip!

i dont really need advice, just feels good to get off my chest

edit because im tryna reply to some comments but for some reason its not registering i have a flair so cant reply 🥀 i see the support and thank you all for it!

u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 20 days ago

anyway to force move your home gym?

i moved in december and the amount of times i’ve used my closest gym now still has not moved my home gym. i asked staff at the new gym and they said it will do automatically after i visit enough. i typically use gyms all throughout the city with most being this new gym, but still hasn’t changed. the past 13 visits in a row have been to new gym and still nothing. i’m tired of limiting myself to one gym but i want the cheaper rates there

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 1 month ago

completely dead iphone 13(pro?) only shows charging symbol when i unplug it from either side

im not sure the IOS as it is dead and i cannot check, but it was not up to date (storage). i bought it in USA in march-may of 2023

there have been charging and battery problems within the past year, i got a new battery did not change the problem. many different chargers in many different circumstances and same problem (portable charger, charging from a wall, from my laptop, etc). last night it was dying so i plugged it to my portable bc i was out. it got a couple more percent maybe but slowly went down, i get home and plug it up to my laptop (use it as a battery idk if its a problem) but it went down even though saying its charging.

i wake up to it dead, whatever. i jangle the cords a bit and itll pop up with the dead battery and charging logo then disappear. i go plug it into the wall and now it only says its charging as i pull it out ON EITHER SIDE. i thought it was a lint problem, so i cleared it (there was lint). but didnt fix the problem. if i unplug it from the wall side itll also flash the charging logo--so that means it isnt a problem with the port, right?

any help appreciated

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 2 months ago

creche — what happens if you don’t go to the dream visitor

no spoilers for beyond act 2 because that’s wha i got to in my main playthrough

but after defeating the ch’rai and talking to vlaakith, i went to go inside the artefact as i did in my main playthrough, and the dream visitor said don’t. my pc is like oh okay!! and we left n wiped out the creche

im wondering, though, am i locked out of anything down the line? is it a requirement for more progression?

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 2 months ago

[Artist alley] [Clients] Protocol when turning previously commissioned works into sellable prints

people have commed me to make fanart from time to time, and next year i will be doing an artist alley at a Real Con and im preparing for that. i'd like to use some of the fanart comms ive been paid for in the past and here is my idea for that: first and foremost, as the client for permission to do so. then i was going to completely refund them the price of the comm, as well as offer a simple comm for free as well/high discount on something more complex

would you guys do this? how would you go about it? thanks for any advice

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 2 months ago

anyone here worship Peitho, goddess of persuasion?

i'm working through the texts we have on her now, and preparing an offering/hymn to introduce myself and begin worshipping her. so im wondering ig anyone else here has worshipped her and have any experiences theyd like to share ^^

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 2 months ago
▲ 419 r/Hellenism

my Hera art!

created for this epithet database where we are trying to put together an exhaustive list of the epithets used for the theoi. feel free to check it out here! (had permissions to post)

and if you feel like supporting the art on insta it’s here. more art of the gods to come 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

i used a piece by jester pepita as reference

u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 3 months ago

what to do after doxycycline suppressed [acne] comes back?

title basically. the first time i ran out of my scrip my acne started coming back so i got a refill. i think im on my third and final refill? it’s been since december

ive been using tretinoin since before my skin problems started and in between refills when it started coming back and 0 difference

i theorize the start of my problems came when i started testosterone HRT in 2024 but i haven’t had a dose since 2025 october so done know what to do/why i still have a problem

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 3 months ago
▲ 2 r/Tokyo

places to get charging port fixed/expected cost?

my drawing tablet charging port appears to be broken while im mid commission (ughhhhhh). im 99% sure its the port itself and not the battery as when its plugged into my laptop, it still doesnt work (when it should, if the battery was shot)

its not an apple or anything, wacom intuos. but ive never had electronic issues in my whole life and i dont know where to go/what to expect in terms of price and time it takes and things

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 3 months ago

anyone else have issues getting paypal business verification?

setting up business account in japan on paypal and i have tried verifying my identity 4 times and each time they reject my residence card. the first 3 times the reasoning was "ご提出いただいた身分証明書は、一部が隠れているか破損しているため、判読できません。身分証明書を枠内におさまるように撮影の上、ご提出ください" okay.... 3 times its illegible. i try different lighting and backgrounds, whether im holding it or not, etc. the 4th time they gave no reason, they just said resubmit

the only thing i can imagine is that on the upper left hand corner there is writing on it from the immigration office because of discrepancy between passport and resi card. its unobtrusive, though, and all the other times i have done this kind of ID verification, there has never been a problem

is this a paypal issue, a me issue,,,, some other third thing?

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 3 months ago

probably the most annoying thing on my trip so far. me and my friend enjoying our walk to our destination, or simply walking out of a building, whatever and there are tuktuks that just follow you and yell at you if you want a ride (just happened to me as i type this). no matter how much i say no or ignore them, they won’t stop following us. do people actually say yes and hop on? i can’t imagine this is a successful strategy. why would people go this way and not via app so you have a guaranteed price?

edit cus some people saying they havent experienced it often so i’ll add some more things that have happened. some guy was going on the other side of the road and honked asked if we needed tuktuk. we kept walking and he did a u turn to follow us the rest of our walk. was only 3 min but feels forever with someone following you the whole time. today we were checking out the bat trees in siem reap and tuktuks would wait on the road and just yell out if we needed some ride while they had literally just seen us arrive and take pics and then grab a seat. when we left a driver tried to meet us at an intersection. mind you this whole time we barely made eye contact. in phnom penh it was way worse than siem reap but still happens every time we step outside

kinda goes hand in hand with people non stop selling you stuff on the streets, markets, or stores. there have been so many times where im interested in buying something but the moment they start selling it to me i just walk away😭😭 ik its a SEA thing and im not tryna say this is a bad thing (cambodia is great love my time here) but gaddang i feel like in their position id know westerners dont like being sold things and would just let us be😭😭

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u/Reasonable-Bonus-545 — 3 months ago