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What kind of rebrand away from the "Christmas Queen" one would you think would fit her now?

It's just talk, keep it light 😊

I think soul-gospel singer-songwriter would be a good one. With finally more focus on her being a song-writer, not only a singer.

In the past she had these branding:

- adult contemporary (with partial erasure of her black identity)

- RnB fun, sexy, original, plenty of collaborations with hip-hop artists (with integration of her mixed-race identity)

- Christmas Queen (she doesn't even call herself it, but no harm money-wise!)

After listening to Here For It All and how she is adapting her vocals, I think that more collaborations with gospel and soul artists could rebrand her in this direction (still will underlying RnB). She can also start putting the highlight more on her being a "seasoned songwriter".

That said, this is just light talk, not saying what she should or shouldn't do. 😊

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I never dealt with common pains (headache, period etc) by using painkillers, so it's my first time using them. I generally always avoided medications unless it's life-threatening not to take them, so I'm not too familiar with anything.

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Issue

I have a bottom wisdom tooth infection that is spreading, the pain is unbearable. I might need to take the bottom ones out, I was planning to avoid it till the end of my days lol because near the nerve. I'm in my 30s.

I'm taking prescribed Antibiotics and antiseptic mouthwash.

I'm taking Paracetamol and Ibuprofen in liquid form (the bottles for children, 6+ of age). I'm taking a bit less than adult dose since I'm sensitive to substances and I'm small. Yesterday I took Paracetamol 7 times every 3-4h.

In the evening I took a baby dose of Ibuprofen and managed to sleep for 6h straight.

❓I'm taking them as soon as the pain starts again, am I becoming addicted?

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I was planning to take

- Ibuprofen older child dose 1x at 6:30am and 1x at 23:00 (Leaflet says to take it max 2x day)

- Paracetamol adult dose every 4h during the day.

- Cold compress during the day and before going to bed (I'm using a soft drink can, metal stays cold)

❓I'm not into mouth wash with salt, I never tried. Should I?

❓Also, does the NHS (UK) cover for painkillers? I'm going to spend a lot on them ...

Thank you!!

Lol!

She is having fun with her friends and colleagues, she is being creative, she is giving a middle finger to whoever is calling her a freak... It looks completely healthy to me!!!

The media were terrible, but we don't care.

I wish I saw this clip back in 2001, I would have made more sense of what Loverboy was about 🤣 I thought Glitter was about race cars 😂 (I had no exposure to the media/no info about MC in my country, apart that she was dropping a new album and movie).

The Obsessed Podcast is doing a great job releasing all these clips 😍

Do you think children (from 14-16 y.o. or so) should be taught

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- what grooming is and looks like

- to avoid being in a DV situation and it's implications (financial obstacles, housing obstacles, emotional weight, social shame)

etc.

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So that girls get used to the idea of never being financially dependent from a man, seeing early signs of coercion, knowing how to use cameras and safety items, not apologising for putting our safety and boundaries first.

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I have the impression that when things happen, a woman has to be lucky to find a DV advocate who really understands what's going on, let alone a honest social worker. If women stop being sold fairy-tales (it takes generations to change a culture) and get informed with the risks and the nature of things straight away from high school, this can create more prevention.

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What do you think?

I read that when Stella was Mariah's manager, Mottola commented negatively on Stella, in a way that would suggest care for Mariah's success and wellbeing.

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This is SO abuser's playbook. If you have dealt directly on indirectly with long-term abuse (even years after breaking contact), this sounds familiar:

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1). Abuser sends a person to sabotage the victim. One way to go about it is sending a same-gendered person that becomes a trusted friend to the victim.

2). Abuser disses this person publicly, and this person disses the abuser - to avoid detection (to avoid the chances of the victim realising the person is being sent by the abuser). They act as they don't know each other and as they dislike each other.

3). After the grooming and trust-gaining period, the person starts little by little sabotaging the victim, first in a sugarcoated way, then in a more aggressive way, even turning around the abuser-victim logic.

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I was not following during the Stella era because I had severe health problems. I know this post is simply speculation and chatter, but I would like to know how you see it, in particular it you followed Mariah during the Stella period, which I missed. Thanks!

I'm pro Mariah Carey having fun, but when the video came out I was embarrassed and uncomfortable, I was just a teen...

Now I understand why... What do you think?

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Bear in mind only MTV was showing something about Mariah, I didn't have media exposure to her otherwise. And the video is not bad video at all objectively, I'm only focusing on personal subjective experience.

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- she says the video is LaChapelle fantasy, cars girls etc. I understand the funny light part, but the guy sounds like the average douche, I don't care how famous he was

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- the video looks like an American over the top kitsch fantasy with cars and girls... What does it have to do with the movie? It made me want to not go to watch the movie (well no cinema in my town was giving it anyway), I couldn't really justify to my friends going to watch a movie with American shenanigans and a woman who treats the car like her boyfriend. I was the only lamb and I remember saying that I loved the album but I have not seen the video 🤐. Yes, the movie is not about that, but understand that media exposure to MC was minimal, so the perception was on that video, when and if was on MTV. Internet was priced at the minute, we couldn't browse websites outside our country, we could have got our internet cut off by our parents.

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- to me it looked like objectification of women showing off (I was a teen, not a feminist), now I understand where the idea comes from... Obviously I'm ok with Mariah find it funny, she agreed with that and had fun... Did it help with the promotion of Glitter? Is it a video that was really a great idea for the average American? Maybe it is for American culture, of course, I mean, I'm sure it tickled that taste.

I feel like we are just a horrible species that deserve extinction... I think my PTSD is kicking in again...

We get r@@@, and people simply laugh and trash us. They make us the butt of the joke. End of the story.

Let's make it a ✨collective✨ effort, I know it's hard to pick an adjective, it doesn't have to be your first choice or an absolute choice, it's just to show some love in this way 🥰 we can always thumb up the comments of others as well!

Pick an adjective and if you want give a little explanation.

Genuine

I picked genuine because I always felt Mariah gives importance to being authentic and to having a genuine connection with others and her fans. We give genuine love back to her, and that's what she always wanted from us, I believe: not "idol worship", but genuine love and connection ♥️🩷🤍

I'm not American and I would like to learn the names of the genres used by Mariah in her albums and identify them correctly in her songs.

As a child in the 90s I had to (roughly) explain people around me what "hip hop" or "rnb" or "soul" meant at the best of my little knowledge 😆. The term "Adult contemporary" itself is different in my country and has a different nuance.

Could you list even just one album and justify briefly your answer? For example:

Album: x

Genres: y (see song k); z (see song t) etc.

or

song k mixes genres y and z.

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My guess is that from her Debut album, Vision of Love is both adult contemporary and soul. Am I correct?

Asking questions here is useless. Most of you ansered like I don't know what I am doing, or as if nobody did anything already, or if I even have access to children? I live in a different country.

I asked a question linked to child development: are jokes that refer to violence part of child development as in expressing fears or worries, or are these signs of exposure to videos or even worse?

I came to "child development" reddit for a reason, I didn't come here to say "help meeee I'm in contact with these kids (I'm not) and they are doing this nowwww (they aren't) and I dunno what to dooooo (things have already been taken care of). Thanks

I found this Instagram profile. His "video essays" on Mariah's songs, especially focused on her songwriting and composition skills, are top. What do you think? I watched one about Obsessed and others, he has many.

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Have you come across men acting misogynistic and aggressive (towards women) even low key, while pretending to be gay? Some asylum seekers are like that.

There is a lady who acts all progressive and mix the LGBTQ space with asylum seekers - I think it is an example of progressive objectifying the "other" (minorities) to feel morally superior.

Anecdote:

There is a nice asylum seeker at the LGBTQ centre who is respectful and I see he is on Grindr (I'm not a man, I just know), but there are two that enact the typical misogynistic, potentially predatory male behaviour towards women (staring at girls top to bottom and back in a mocking way and laugh with each other, even grabbing without consent a girl's arms repeatedly, telling a girl she needs to be punished - completely unprovoked...). There's no point to raise a safeguarding concern to the progressive lady because she is too into the "feed me the narrative of the "poor other" so I can nurture my sense of moral superiority". These males take advantage of it.

I grew tired I don't care anymore my phone is tapped. I changed 6 phones in a year.

I hear a voice speaking from some device in my room and have some random pervs out in social occasions telling me what I do in my room.

I wanted to hear your anecdotes.

One example:

I was at a Bible study group, led by a great female teacher who is a scholar. We were two women and two male boomers (MB1 and MB2).

MB1 challenges something written in the Gospel, which is legit, we all enjoy a debate. I answer without challenging directly, but rather contextualising the use of language in the Gospel passage by using "maybe"/"it could be the case" statements and asking the teacher what she thinks. The teacher picks from it and kind of confirms my reflection as appropriate. Later the other woman supports my reflection as well. I don't take particular credit as we were all discussing, I kept a deadpan expression, it wasn't about me.

At the end of the session the two MB started asking me a lot of questions pressuring me on answering, turning their body towards me, using a not that friendly tone of voice.

MB2 asks me in my native language why I am in this country. I reply in English (native language of all of them) that I live here. He keeps saying things in my native language. I tell him I don't identify as [my first nationality] so I don't have much to say about it, I do not remember how to speak my native language (kind of true).

MB1 intervenes asking if I'm studying at university and what. I say I'm studying Theology. He replies: "Good for you!". Gosh, I'm not your school-age granddaughter, ffs, I'm almost 40, idiot.

He then asks me again why I decided to come in this town. I said "God brought me here", he keeps asking "Is it because X?" "Is it because y?" kind of questions until I say "I don't have to articulate, I already answered".

Then he asks me "Do you know other languages?" I point at the teacher and said "Just Hebrew." and they both comments "Oh well done!" [Cringing]

"And do you study Greek as well?" with patronising tone like I am a little girl. I start packing my back and reply with an uninterested "Yeah" and sigh, while moving away. "oh good! So you are learning Greek as well!" (patronising voice).

Tell me some anecdotes, like storytelling, without making it into a debate! Women only discussion, men replying will be mass-downvoted.

It's not all male boomers, but when it happens it is embarrassing.

I was at a Bible study group, led by a great female teacher who is a scholar. We were two women and two male boomers (MB1 and MB2).

MB1 challenges something written in the Gospel, which is legit, we all enjoy a debate. I answer without challenging directly, but rather contextualising the use of language in the Gospel passage by using "maybe"/"it could be the case" statements and asking the teacher what she thinks. The teacher picks from it and kind of confirm my reflection as appropriate. Later the other woman supports my reflection as well. I don't take particular credit as we were all discussing, I kept a deadpan expression, it wasn't about me.

At the end of the session the two MB started asking me a lot of questions pressuring me on answering, turning their body towards me, using a not that friendly tone of voice.

MB2 asks me in my native language why I am in this country. I reply in English (native language of all of them) that I live here. He keeps saying things in my native language. I tell him I don't identify as [my first nationality] so I don't have much to say about it, I do not remember how to speak my native language (kind of true).

MB1 intervenes asking if I'm studying at university and what. I say I'm studying Theology. He replies: "Good for you!". Gosh, I'm not your school-age granddaughter, ffs, I'm almost 40, mate.

He then asks me again why I decided to come in this town. I said "God brought me here!", he keeps asking "Is it because X?" "Is it because y?" kind of questions until I say "I don't have to articulate, I already answered".

Then he asks me "Do you know other languages?" I point at the teacher and said "Just Hebrew." and they both comments "Oh well done!" [Cringing]

"And do you study Greek as well?" with patronising tone like I am a little girl. I start packing my back and reply with an uninteresting "Yeah" while moving away. "oh good! So you are learning Greek as well!"

[This was not a friendly conversation from their side, but I can't replicate body language and tone here]

Sorry not sorry.