u/Reiiseverywhere

Hey guys. There's not really a lot of body language here but I still would like help. I don't know anywhere else to put this. So I formed a pretty nice friendship with a girl from my school, we started talking after she responded to an Instagram note of mine. We both share the characteristic of talking too much. I find her attractive and she's made comments that I do look good. However I don't want to maybe ruin the friendship by asking her if she likes me but at the same time I do to get it out of my head, move on and talk to some other girl and hopefully just stay as friends. We talk a lot over anything I've given her advice and she has given me advice, sometimes I felt like she really helped me and motivated me to keep going, so I really appreciate her as a person. However I also have certain preferences, I don't enjoy dating anyone from my school so that's another thing that's conflicted with me.

We seem to be able to talk freely with each other, just not on the flirting aspect. When we talk in person we make direct eye contact, we enjoy talking about pretty much anything, and there's some other things that opened my eyes a bit on the possibility. Last night she made comments on my muscles over a joke that I got scared, I mentioned to her that I didn't talk to her these last few days because I thought I was bothering her, since I start conversations mostly, she said I can talk to her any time I want, we re touched on a conversation we had about relationships, that we both don't want to waste time with people and she also like in a really detailed way mentioned that she doesn't want to look for anyone, but if someone does have interest to tell her, if the interest is mutual then yeah but if not nothing happens. Its a bit hard for me to read her because she laughs a lot with me and everything but we both have mentioned that we're focusing on ourselves and I've even told her that I'm not looking for anything serious since im open to her about my view on it and my experience with other girls. But I don't know, I don't want to affect the friendship by confessing and if I dated her It would have to be very private, I don't want anyone in my school to know. There is another girl that I'm mutual with and I'm seeing that she's showing interest, but I don't want to get into something while thinking about this other girl. I could since nothing has happened yet, just forming a friendship, but still I'm holding myself back.

Hello everyone. I am on summer vacation and I'm using the time to investigate what to study for college. I've always felt like I'm a very ambitious person, but when I push my-self too hard I tend to burn out and lose interest in things. I've built interest in multiple things like music, psychology, engineering, chemistry, math. But I never really committed really well to either of them to truly explore it and if its what I want as a career. I often picture myself in the future on the field but I unmotivated myself from exploring the topics more by focusing on the negatives. What I need is engagement, and starting this summer I've begun to change that by every day re learning math courses, grammar, building routines but more relevant to this post, learning if I truly like engineering. However I'm having a bit of trouble, I can't really find a whole lot of info on YouTube that truly tells me if I like it or do I just like the dream of creating things, solving problems and commit a big part of my life to it. For some reason I relate the professions that I'm interested in with fame or social recognition or that I will do it for the rest of my life so I discard them. But I know its not true anymore. Most people change mindsets every ten years and what I need to find now is a major that I'm currently interested in and if I think I will enjoy it, but with a plan and not just dive straight into it. Any advice would be appreciated.

9 days gone just like that. I am disgusting. I should've just done no content if I was that desperate. I just don't want to do it at all and its so difficult especially when I'm talking with girls. I don't want to grow old with this and be some creep for the rest of my life. Please help me.

Having a bad academic year motivated me to discipline myself more and begin building healthy habits. However I don't feel like my progress is as fast or as meaningful than it is. I've always tried to self improve but I often got stuck in a cycle where I went all out burned out and stopped. This created a mentality where I think I'm destined to fail and to not progress. Recently though I've downloaded a calendar app and Microsoft to do to show my daily victories instead of giving up and escaping through bad habits. I just think that since I get anxious by thinking I have to solve it all in one day or if I'm doing good enough or not putting in the effort, time, that I'm creating an unstable, unpredictive environment. So lately I've been very dedicated on myself and have focused on disciplines like re learning algebra to prepare for pre-calculus and hobbies like journaling, guitar, exercise. They are good meaningful ways of improving on myself but since I can't overload myself with many tasks I miss out on important things like cleaning my room, house, maintaining an organized room, self care. And I try to do them every day but mostly micro dose them ( 5-30 minutes) depending on how I feel. I think it is working, given that I started this recently and the first thing I'm not doing when I wake up is doom scrolling, but too slow or due to my past I don't trust myself so I stress on being productive and avoid relaxing like playing a video game or exercising, watching a movie, show, reading manga. I have a very hard time explaining myself but this is the best way I can and I can currently describe. I don't have to explain it all in one post. I feel like I don't deserve summer vacation to improve and getting over myself without a difficult school structure is less valuable. So I constantly try to be productive or do lots of things for short periods to deserve a break. So working up to things feels wrong, especially when those close to me do more

Hi everyone. I am going to learn pre calc soon and decided to begin studying it over the summer as a way to be productive and one of the many things I hope to turn into hobbies for my life. I love math, I love the way we can find the unknowns thanks to it, solutions, problems, the fact that is how we can describe the real world, the universe, sounds divine and beautiful for me. However though I know that the numbers, variables and structures, are discoveries by man and the man made their interpretations of it. Which is why math is structured the way it is today. That is how I currently see it and I come here for help. I feel completely lost, since a kid I have never really been a good student but I have passion, I just put too much pressure on myself and start burning out instead of being consistent. I don't want that to happen to me now and strip myself the opportunity of being a better version of myself this summer.

overall my math foundations are very shaky, I don't know where to start or begin so I can actually study and understand pre calc consistently, that way I can start 12th grade more calmly. I did horribly with trig, mostly due to lack of fraction and algebra knowledge, did not learn the unit circle but I seemed like the only one in my class that saw interest in it, and they did fine while I crumbled. I just need something that doesn't overwhelm me and introduces me into what math really is right now. My overthinking and trying to understand all of the logic in one concept is whats mostly damaging me. I dont want to just memorize steps rules and processes I want to understand what math really is ,yet thats slowing me down and I dont know what to do about it.

here's what I struggle with

-Algebra

- PEMDAS

- Basic order of operations

- Basic calculations with large numbers

- Fractions and operations with them

- Simplifying, verifying trig identities/ pretty much most of trig.

- Decimals

I'm not the sharpest but I really want to understand this. And perhaps see if I am consistent, if I would find a math focused profession like engineering since Im still reflecting on what to study for college. I have no one else to turn to, anything positive or negative is heavily appreciated. Thank you.

So I just got done with 11th grade. To sum it up I had personal situations ( still no excuse to do how I did) and I am probably going to pass this grade with very low grades and that doesn’t feel like the results I want, I can do better. Im continuing improving on myself but I want to try something different this summer, which is learning pre calculus at least 2-3 times weekly to have an intro to the schools course on 12th grade. My Math foundation is very unstable any advice?

Here are concepts I understand:

Two step equations
One step equations
Addition
Subtraction
Division
Basic algebra ( pretty much the two things I mentioned first)
Basic operations with fractions

Low understanding:

Graphs ( sin cos tan, cot, reciprocals and general graphs taught in lower grades)
Decimals
Basic operations with decimals or large numbers
Mixed numbers
Fraction operations involving algebra
Simplifying, verifying trig identities ( lack of algebra knowledge and combining that with operations I would say)
PEMDAS

And probably much more, but this is the most I can remember currently.

I might not be the smartest, deep down we are all humans though and I know im able to improve and learn more, not for external benefits, but to grow as a person and who knows, help others.

As you can see very unstable foundation Any help positive/negative advice is appreciated. I also struggle understanding the history, structure, philosophy behind math. I know we created it but it does seem amazing and divine, I can’t comprehend how we created this from the ground floor when average people like me are walking around. And since I never really understood trig and liked it, I feel the anxiety that I have to start over, relearn everything or that what im doing ( learning pre calculus during summer) is insignificant.

17, feeling lost, I’ve had that feeling my whole life. I’ve had a lot of personal situations and insecurities, negative mental patterns that I’ve developed. I practice bad habits almost everyday. I have always had the desire to change but I feel stuck and I think it’s time I allow myself to be helped. I don’t want to overwrite this paragraph about my life and how bad im doing, because it’s not what this is about, I just need help,deeply.

I want to be regular again, not successful, rich when im 25 type, just regular, productive, and look at my life in a positive, less stress environment and seek constant improvement. I feel what messes with my mind is the lack of action I take, mostly influenced by fear of taking risks, self doubt, and my addiction to social media ( instagram). My whole life I have always felt like I want to bring something into this world, have purpose, meaning, share my life through music, a book to help others or maybe getting a degree in something important like engineering, however with letting my passions/ hobbies go and sulking its not helping with my career choices. My grades are going down and even worst after finals week and I feel disappointed that I stopped trying after trying really hard for a test and not being successful, thats not how life works.
The reason why I want to be normal like I described is because im not truly enjoying my life whatsoever, im just letting my phone artificially satisfy those feelings, without exploring, learning, being bored, peeling back the layers of things, I can’t even enjoy movies, series, manga, actual video games like I used to. And to think I can’t even have self control makes me feel even more embarrassed. I have felt like I am destined to fail because compared to others I don’t have the same skill set, or exercised the act of getting better at skills more, etc. So before I can be successful or do whatever it is I’ll discover I want, I need to progress to that first by doing easier, regular routine things ( also im disorganized, irresponsible.) I just know that no matter how much I fail, how hard, I need to have faith in something better, and that failing is actually what you’re supposed to do.

I really need support on starting out, I would really appreciate the support. Just don’t mention the gym or exercise a lot, thats all I’ve done mostly and it doesn’t help, I need things that occupy my mind though instead of constant overthinking, analyzing things instead of acting.

17, feeling lost, I’ve had that feeling my whole life. I’ve had a lot of personal situations and insecurities, negative mental patterns that I’ve developed. I practice bad habits almost everyday. I have always had the desire to change but I feel stuck and I think it’s time I allow myself to be helped. I don’t want to overwrite this paragraph about my life and how bad im doing, because it’s not what this is about, I just need help,deeply.

I want to be regular again, not successful, rich when im 25 type, just regular, productive, and look at my life in a positive, less stress environment and seek constant improvement. I feel what messes with my mind is the lack of action I take, mostly influenced by fear of taking risks, self doubt, and my addiction to social media ( instagram). My whole life I have always felt like I want to bring something into this world, have purpose, meaning, share my life through music, a book to help others or maybe getting a degree in something important like engineering, however with letting my passions/ hobbies go and sulking its not helping with my career choices. My grades are going down and even worst after finals week and I feel disappointed that I stopped trying after trying really hard for a test and not being successful, thats not how life works.
The reason why I want to be normal like I described is because im not truly enjoying my life whatsoever, im just letting my phone artificially satisfy those feelings, without exploring, learning, being bored, peeling back the layers of things, I can’t even enjoy movies, series, manga, actual video games like I used to. And to think I can’t even have self control makes me feel even more embarrassed. I have felt like I am destined to fail because compared to others I don’t have the same skill set, or exercised the act of getting better at skills more, etc. So before I can be successful or do whatever it is I’ll discover I want, I need to progress to that first by doing easier, regular routine things ( also im disorganized, irresponsible.) I just know that no matter how much I fail, how hard, I need to have faith in something better, and that failing is actually what you’re supposed to do.

I really need support on starting out, I would really appreciate the support. Just don’t mention the gym or exercise a lot, thats all I’ve done mostly and it doesn’t help, I need things that occupy my mind though instead of constant overthinking, analyzing things instead of acting. I have mostly been stagnant and when I try to quit my bad habits I feel like I can’t find something to occupy my time so I freeze.

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Hey guys. I’ve always felt some sort of confusion, meaning disconnection from math. Although I admire it I never truly committed to it or followed it like people in my class. I don’t think im special or anything, im just a junior in high school and I just want some advice because instead of studying I involve philosophy behind math, try to find the meaning behind definitions, axioms and waste my time and fail the trig quiz because I practiced barely any problems and focused on understanding things before practicing/ meaning, instead of doing exercises, recognizing patterns and executing. Honestly I don’t know what to study for college and I feel like I could study something like engineering but I need to do career research and see if I really love math or I just overthink things. Im looking to separate both parts ( practicing and thinking abroad) because they affect my grades but I really want to know if anyone has struggled with this and can offer their time. Please just offer what you can, this is my first post and im not looking forward for negative comments or attacks, I really hope someone understands this message. Have a good day!

Hi everyone. Before I start I just want to say I respect everyone here that is a veteran or is enlisted/ currently serving. Even if you don’t recognize it, you all made a very brave and important decision that might hopefully give yourself a start to a path of success. In summarized words currently I am 17 and im working on self improvement, I already take care of myself physically and its more on routines, getting back to hobbies, being disciplined that I have to work on. Im in junior year, the most important year I had a 3.81 GPA and eventually had an academic downfall. Due to personal struggles. I thankfully do have an economically stable family but lack a support structure. Due to this I have had to be more independent in terms of grades and discipline since a lack of encouragement.

The point is the national guard seems like the perfect tool to be a catalyst for my personal growth. But im trying to look more different options and compare the pro’s with the cons. I know the military shouldn’t be the only way for me to change. But it seems promising and exciting. The only bad side is that I will miss summer breaks if I were to deploy and potentially a low social life for a part of my life. I feel like active duty is too sudden for a change and I can focus on academics, explore more things as NG. I am aware that some things like drill weekends can extend so that makes me hard to pick since it could mess with my university schedule and random deployments are also a major risk im considering due to the current conflicts right now. I live in Puerto Rico so PR Guard is my option and a recruiter im talking to recommended the split ops program. Its just that even if my parents approved it would happen really fast since schools about to end and I have to make a decision to sign a 6 active, 2 years inactive contract that could change my life or perhaps end it since the national guard deploys frequently. With college benefits I can very well study a lot of things, courses which I desire but im not sure on what to study, and I desire to study more things in the future as a grown adult, so unless im sure to have a doctorate/phd, is it really worth it for the benefits? What made you guys make the choice? How did it change you if you were undisciplined or disorganized, etc? Any advice positive or negative is appreciated, thank you. By the way the MOS thats ideal for me would be 42A since it has a short AIT length, good for civ life but seems really boring.

Hi guys. Today I developed a crush on a girl from my local gym. While theres a lot of girls that frequent here, they are attractive but are usually moms, just out of my age range. This girl seems pretty young and theres also just something about her that draws her to me.

However I find it wrong and creepy to approach her or any girl at a gym. I’ve never approached a girl before, girls that I talked to or dated just hit me on me first or gave me obvious signs. And also if I was a girl I’d be pretty uncomfortable to get hit on at the gym and forced to say something, personally I’d be flattering for me but not everybody’s the same and some people just want to relax and workout, focus on themselves.

I think we might’ve glanced a few times, no direct eye contact so it’s probably that I glanced and she probably just happened to be looking at the same area. I honestly don’t think this is gonna go anywhere but If I see her again my gameplan is to make normal eye contact and be friendly at the right moment, but I don’t think I should talk to her unless I have a valid reason.

Also I fear that maybe shes one of those people at the gym that happened to be out of my age range as well ( older). I would say I have decent looks so Im a bit confident im fine on that, but im not going to do anything drastic like randomly talk to her or ask for something like her instagram, I just hope we make actual eye contact. If we do then I’ll see how I can read her body language and eventually talk. But aside from that Im not going to lose sleep on this, I just thought she’s really pretty.

Any advice?

I just feel very lonely. ( in my late teens,male) In my earlier years for some reason I seemed to get attention from girls or on my socials but my first real thing failed, which was a 2-3 month situationship that was about to go into dating. Yes before that I’ve talked to girls but it never really went anywhere, so I stopped focusing on girls overrall at that time. After a year I then did something stupid and was going to get into a friends with benefits thing with a new girl I met, but personality wise we were apart and she didn’t want to get close at all, just basically a hookup thing.Now im about to graduate soon,everyone around me is dating and I just feel like a cuck having to see that. Sorry for the language, better phrased is loser. And that was only a bit ago and im receiving no attention from girls that im interested in at all, sometimes 2 girls on my social like but they’re not my type and one of them is from school. And I guess that just makes me feel really lonely, because I have decent looks, a decent physique since I work out, if mostly everyone in my school gets to date why can’t I again? But at the same time I think I learned things wrong, im supposed to approach girls but its just really embarrassing because idk how to express myself and I overthink about my looks either way, like If I look good enough to deserve to approach a girl im attracted too, and much less not make them uncomfortable. Im trying to focus on myself because I have looks but im not the best guy either. Im pretty unproductive and im trying to work on myself, but it just feels so isolating. I wouldn’t even really want to start a long term relationship I just want intimacy and vulnerability with someone sometimes, even if it ends fast.