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The reason I've been putting it off is that I've been focusing on getting my degree (computer engineering) and I live pretty far from the closest town so it was inconvenient for me. I have roughly 70k saved up and I'm looking to move abroad for a few years to get some experience. I don't know if I want to live here because the housing market (Ireland) is so bad.

What advice could you give me?

The reason I've been putting it off is that I've been focusing on getting my degree (computer engineering) and I live pretty far from the closest town so it was inconvenient for me. I have roughly 70k saved up and am looking to move abroad for a few years to get some experience. I don't know if I want to live here because the housing market (Ireland) is so bad.

What advice could you give me?

To clarify, I had already made it clear to her that pursuing a relationship was not something I was interested in. She initially seemed to understand and agree with that, and I consistently framed our relationship as purely platonic.

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I’m naturally a curious person and I enjoy having interesting conversations and understanding other people’s perspectives. However, I can only assume that she interpreted that connection as meaning something more because there was no flirting or romantic intent from my side.

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Over time, her behaviour became increasingly intense and I was slow to realise that. She became more emotional and anxious about my free time, where I was, what I was doing, and so on. She would analyse every message I sent, often assuming meanings that weren’t there, and explode over the smallest things. She also began monitoring my social media closely, asking for explanations behind posts and wanting specific details about things I shared with friends.

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Eventually, I realised it had become too much for me, so I told her that I wasn’t comfortable with how things were. Since then, she hasn’t replied for a few days (she did let me know that she likes to retreat when she doesn't feel safe). I don't want to assume what she is feeling as I can't trust my instinct here, what do you think is happening?

WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU TRUST SHIT THAT YOU PULLED OUT YOUR ASS INSTEAD OF ACTUAL FACTS AND LOGIC????

In all seriousness when they're healthy and developed they can be wonderful to be around but oh boy when that Ni radar is off they're the most insufferable people to be around when they stop listening to logic and start ignoring reality like they're living in an alternate universe or something. Admitting you're wrong isn't that hard 💀

Edit: Why is this sub crawling with INXJs? Ya'll just love hearing me roast you?

Like we talk for a bit, have a few interesting conversations I either end up making a joke or comment that she finds insensitive, makes a huge fuss about how my mere existence has existentially offended her in XYZ way then "doorslams" me only to come back later messaging me trying to reconnect and how she saw her mistake, how she doesn't see me a certain way anymore and misses talking to me only to repeat the exact same pattern again like why do you insist on coming back and putting us through this again if you say you learned your lesson? I'm so confused

My dad has recently started saying nonsensical things like "my (dog's name) has a girlfriend!" or "temu" or something incredibly racist out of nowhere. He always had an audible inner monologue and sings some vocals from a song from time to time but this is like the first time I've noticed him saying complete nonsense. When you talk to him he can speak normally but when he's by himself he's constantly saying something crazy and is becoming more and more frequent. We recently had to give away our dog to a new family so could this just be stress? Can someone explain what is happening?

I don't mean to generalise all of them as bad at making jokes but she genuinely tries too hard and it ends up sounding like something my parents would say. It's hard for me to fake laughter that well so I know it sounds awkward. Should I still try to laugh anyway or would that be perceived as being fake? I genuinely don't know what to do to not make her feel bad but I can see that she's really trying to improve...

Help me out...