u/Seayolkdadoge

My sister (21F) asked me if she could share my room 2-3 years ago, as she had back then recently repaired her relationship with our mother (div) and was planning on staying at her house for a bit

She said that it wasn't fair since she didn't have a bedroom on either of our parents' side since she went to college and let me have her room as she said she never planned on going back to our dad's side as he used to abuse her as a child but has gotten a lot better to the point of only an occasional yelling, but it wasn't fair that me and my brother have our own childhood bedrooms to come back to while she doesn't

I ofc said sure, but the agreement was that I would get to use the room when I came back every other weekend from dad's side

She agreed

After 3 weeks she didn't keep her word

I went back and she said she was sick so I couldn't use my room for a while

I said sure and told her to focus on her recovery

After that, there were many excuses like she was on her period and didn't feel like sleeping in the same bed as our mother so I had to, or she would invite her boyfriend in the room and close the door until I got tired and accidentally fell asleep on the couch or our mother's bed

When I confronted her about it she called me a selfish brat who was just like our parents (she has this crazy idea that they were the same as when they were still married and abusive) because I was taking away her childhood and robbing her privacy

I ofc felt bad and stepped down, but this cycle kept repeating until she felt comfortable enough to constantly call me a rude unhygienic nasty selfish spoiled brat and eventually late last year, a bitch

My brother and parents stepped in and she was forced to cave

But by that time she'd already told our helper to deep clean the bedroom which included throwing away my art supplies "because they were moldy" which was not true. And then she stole 70% of my wardrobe space so many of my clothes went missing and took up my whole glass cabinet with her bags that she doesn't even use. She also called me out for eating in my room and laying on my bed right after coming back on Fridays after school even though she does the same and it's not even her bed

She also replaced my desk chair without my permission and won't let me sit on it until I've finished showering, but I can't have my original chair back because it's too much of a hassle. She's also thrown out many of my science comic books because "they're for kids" or "I thought you'd grown out of them"

She also frequently fat shames me and calls me stinky for no reason even when I had just finished showering, but the one time my dad told her she'd been gaining some weight recently she locked herself in the bathroom and cried for hours but apparently I was overreacting because I got angry and asked her to stop

She also removed my name plate from the center of the room door, (breaking it in the process) and replaced it with a fmacy plate with her name on it and moved my name plate to the bottom side, also throwing out my DIY door decorations. She frequently threw tantrums when my brother called her a colonist for stealing my room and she said that I gave her permission

I only gave her permission to sleep there when I wasn't there and use some storage space, but now she acts like the room is hers and spams my phone with messages like wow I can't believe you're such a snitch or fine brat, have your room, then she steals it back after a week or two.

FINALLY after a year she 'let' me sleep in it when I come back, but still has all her stuff in there, doesn't close the door when I ask her to, constantly barks at me to lower my volume because it's distracting her from her work even though I'm in my room and she's the one who decided to put her laptop in there. And one time I had enough of her and ignored her when she yelled at me while I was scrolling on shorts, purposely didn't look up from my phone and told her to shut up, she smacked my phone out of my hands and spammed me with messages calling me a spoiled bitch who has no respect. She's also violent

Example :

Was about to beat me up when I ignored her barking

I'm scared of her but my parents just say it's due to her being a sensitive child

Everyone in my family secretly doesn't like her at some degree.

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