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It’s like this with my mom. She just seems to have poor communication skills. Our conversations must center around her. She has to be the one talking most of the time and the topic almost always is about her. She rarely asks me about my thoughts or feeling or experiences. And if I share one, she just goes right back to her own. No questions, no comments, just about her again. When she’s taking about herself, she could go on and on. But when she’s responding to me I usually get just an “mhhhmmmm” or “ok”. That’s it.

My mom doesn’t apologize. If we get into an argument, she’ll give me the silent treatment and the burden always falls on me to make amends. It doesn’t matter if she called me a piece, told me I’m an idiot, or told me to go kill myself. She won’t talk to me unless I apologize.

When I do apologize, I never get an apology back. Sometimes she will give me hug, which is nothing but frustrated. the hug is only for her to feel better. If she gave a single fuck about how I felt she would say sorry. Not hug me like everything is fine.

Everything might be fine for her, becuase she want the one being insulted and name called, and at the end of the day, she got an apology. But what about me and my feelings? Wtf is a hug going to do. The damage was still done. Say fucking sorry. Sitting there being so selfish with your stupid fucking hug. It’s to do nothing but make you feel better.

I feel like I’m talking to a 10 year old.

Just drained and irritated. Sometimes there’s a specific cause, such as her not listening to me. Other times I have no idea what causes it. Like she just talks to me and I’m irritated.

I feel like I genuinely can’t have a conversation with her for more than 2 minutes without feeling drained. I really don’t know what to do about it. I want to build closer relationship with her, but how in the world am I supposed to do that when I can’t stand talking to her? Someone please help

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I want to bring up some emotional and physical neglect that i experienced as a child. It was nothing very severe, just things like hygiene not being taking care of, having physical pain that my parents didn’t care much about, invalidation, etc. it was nothing severe, more of just smaller stuff. How do therapists typically approach it? Would there be any actual “healing/processing” that happens with this kind of stuff?

I want to bring up some emotional and physical neglect that i experienced as a child. Nothing crazy, just like not being taught hygiene or how to take care of myself, having physical pain that my parents didn’t care much about, invalidation, etc. it was nothing severe, more of just smaller stuff. How do therapists typically approach it? Is there any actual “healing/processing” that happens?

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Summer break started, which is a huge relief. But I only have 2 friends in this state, and one of them will be in vacation the entire summer. She’s going to a country with no WiFi, so I won’t be able to talk to her. This really sucks and means I only have one friend who I’ll be able to spend time with.

I also only live with my mom. My older siblings have all moved out and my dad lives elsewhere. I am worried I will get really lonely. The loneliness already gets pretty bad at night, like it is right now. It feels so horrible like I have nobody and feel an emptiness.
Anyone who can relate or any advice is appreciated.

I asked her at the end of the session can I give you a hug. And she said “yes, always”. But it wasn’t just a quick hug. She held me. She pulled away a little and then went back in for another hug. It was is sweet and made me feel so loved 🥺. When we pulled away she held my both of arms with her hands and said “I’m sorry you’re going through this”. I felt so loved and cared for.

this is such a random post, but I just wanted to share this moment. It was particularly special because I had had a rough week. Called her during a crisis, while I was feeling suicidal. We also probably had what you would call a rupture, because she ended up calling the police to do a welfare check. Anyway I just wanted to share this moment. It made me feel so cared for.

I don’t like who I am at all. really nothing good about me. I’m ugly, short, shy, unconfident, bad social skills, not many good relationships. I hate the way I look. My giant nose, chubby checks, dark circles, pimples. I just look horrid. I can’t get confidence. I’m not particularly funny or smart. I’m just a complete loser.

Sometimes I think it’d be better if I wasn’t here anymore. I want to change these things about myself, but I’ve been feeling so depressed and exhausted recently that I feel like I can’t get the energy to. I do WANT to though. Any advice please would be really appreciated.

I don’t like who I am at all. really nothing good about me. I’m ugly, short, shy, unconfident, bad social skills, not many good relationships. I hate the way I look. My giant nose, chubby checks, dark circles, pimples. I just look horrid. I can’t get confidence. I’m not particularly funny or smart. I’m just a complete loser.

Sometimes I think it’d be better if I wasn’t here anymore. I want to change these things about myself, but I’ve been feeling so depressed and exhausted recently that I feel like I can’t get the energy to. I do WANT to though. Any advice please would be really appreciated.

I don’t like who I am at all. really nothing good about me. I’m ugly, short, shy, unconfident, bad social skills, not many good relationships. I hate the way I look. My giant nose, chubby checks, dark circles, pimples. I just look horrid. I can’t get confidence. I’m not particularly funny or smart. I’m just a complete loser.

Sometimes I think it’d be better if I wasn’t here anymore. I want to change these things about myself, but I’ve been feeling so depressed and exhausted recently that I feel like I can’t get the energy to. I do WANT to though. Any advice please would be really appreciated.

I don’t like who I am at all. really nothing good about me. I’m ugly, short, shy, unconfident, bad social skills, not many good relationships. I hate the way I look. My giant nose, chubby checks, dark circles, pimples. I just look horrid. I can’t get confidence. I’m not particularly funny or smart. I’m just a complete loser.

I think it’d be better if I wasn’t here anymore.

Someone please give me advice. Be as harsh as you need.