u/SentinelHigh

51f. 105 pounds. 5ft. No medication. No alcohol no nicotine. Drink caffeine everyday.
I developed these bumps on the knuckles of my index fingers and some on my middle fingers. They hurt and itch mostly in the morning. they look really bumpy and thick, there is something white in the bumps but it doesn’t seem like fluid. I also have similar small dry thick patches on my knees. I’ve had this for about two months now. Is it psoriasis?

I joined OLD again two days ago. I’m currently engaged in 27 conversations. I rarely block someone based on their picture without at least a conversation. I did block four people who have drug use disclosed on their profile.

Below I list some experiences, free of judgement, just experiences. It would be fun if you shared yours:

1. The guy who gives you his number right away and wants to go off the platform.

2. The guys who spends two days sharing everything about himself

3. One guy asked if I wanted to meet up. I said yeah of course. He said do I like the coffee shop or the sandwich shop in a specific neighborhood. I said coffee might be better for a first meeting. Ten minutes later he messaged and said I’m sitting at the table by the window in a tan shirt. This all happened within 30 minutes.

4. The guy who messages: I’m looking for a wife. Will you marry me.

5. The guy who says in his first message: I’ve been divorced for four years. I’m searching for my person. Would you like to meet up for a conversation and see where it progresses.

6. There were plenty of: “hi”, “you’re cute”, “wanna chat”.

7. Lastly there were a couple of boys who wanted to have sex right away: “want a deep massage?” “Are you horny”

As women age their boobs become saggy; and are flat like pancakes sometimes. Does this affect men’s attraction to the female body, especially if you’re dating and still learning about each other’s bodies?

Edit: Thank you everyone for the funny, vulnerable, authentic, and honest responses. I asked my partner today what he thinks of my suddenly sagging boobs and he said he “huh? I didn’t even notice. I love them. They look hot!”

Excuse the TMI. I’m on day 26 of not smoking and the constipation is terrible. I took a stool softener and that did not work. I drank senna tea and that’s working slowly. Ive had like two movements in 25 days. I feel so bloated and disgusting but I’m not smoking. I only ate like 500 calories yesterday because I felt so bloated and sick to my stomach that I couldn’t eat anything.

50f smoked off and on since age 23. I’m starting day 19 smoke free in about 90 minutes here. It’s been amazing.

No more lung pain, no more back pain, no more itchy chest, no more joint pain.

I can actually take deep breaths without my rib cage and lungs feeling stuck, no more anxiety after each cigarette, no more feeling crappy when I’m buying cigarettes at the gas station, no more worry of my breath stinks or if I stink when I’m around other people, no more hiding in the garage to smoke.

My skin is no longer dry and patchy, teeth is starting to get whiter, wrinkles around my eyes are getting lesser, I can walk and run without my heart hurting.

My partner still smokes but I have no urges to smoke with him at all. I also quit my evening glass of wine at the same time so I’ve been alcohol free as well! It feels amazing!!

Day 7 of quit smoking. I feel pretty good. Yesterday there was some chest pressure but it’s gone today. I’m sure it will return as my body gets used to not smoking. Overall sleep is going well and appetite isn’t too over the top. I’m exercising every morning. No urges to smoke. Thoughts about smoking flitter through my mind but they aren’t urges to smoke. In fact I got gas for my car this morning and thought how happy I was to not have to go inside to buy cigarettes. How freeing.

Five days smoke free. Tongue is tingling today. Some tingling down my back and my arms. Lungs are clearing so lots of coughing up phlegm. I’m working out every morning. Breathing during my workouts is getting easier and easier. Breaths are deeper and fuller.

I quit smoking on Memorial Day 2026 (United States) because I came down with a cold (maybe flu). It’s been 48 hours. My cold is better after 24 hours of really bad headaches and body aches.
I have no desire to smoke again. I’m a 50f who smoked since age 23 with stints of not smoking peppered in (5 years smoke free, 2 years smoke free, one month smoke free, etc) during that time.
I’m going to be checking in with folks for support and for shared experience. So far so good. No cravings yet. Just fleeting thoughts but no urges to smoke. In fact I never enjoyed smoking. It always made me anxious and it really affected my nerves.
I shared with my boyfriend that I quit smoking so I asked him to not smoke around me. He said ok.

I’m just venting here. The most toxic person in my life is my younger brother. Thankfully I’ve only seen him twice in the last 26 years. The times before 26 years ago were toxic as hell as well. He was a drug addict, criminal, violent, beat his wife, was in jail for a shooting, lived with me briefly because he was homeless since my mom kicked him out but he ended up stealing from me and threatening to kill me. I kicked him out too. At the age of 23 I cut off contact with him. The next time I saw him was at my mom’s funeral. I only said one sentence to him which was how are you. I saw him again today because my dad threw a birthday party for his kid. Fuck he is still toxic as hell. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about the way he talks to people. He told me he thinks my partner is gay, that I’m old as hell with the bags under my eyes, lifting his eyebrow at me and saying “remember that time” like What time! And what are
You talking about sicko. Saying “you need someone to protect you. If I come up on you and hit on you you need someone to beat my ass” WTF! Are you saying what I think you’re saying? I will never talk to him again. Fucking sick and disgusting.

A student has 42% in the class due to not completing assignments. Just simply not doing them and not turning them in. It’s the end of the semester and she emails and says “ are there extra credit assignments I can do to bring my grade up.” What’s wrong with this picture. Why not do the work that’s already there? Why for more work when you can’t even do the work that’s there?

I know this was not nice. I 50F matched with 58M. After four days of chatting on the app he offered his number. We texted by phone for another two days. Seemed fine except for every of my two sentence texts he would send two pages of texts such as “my kid did this my kid did that I have to fix this I have to do this at work etc”

I thought oh that’s nice that he’s so open.

Well he asked for a phone call I said sure. Well as soon as i pick his call he talked for about 20 minutes with me saying uh huh, ok, uh huh. No pauses to ask me questions about myself so i just hung up. He called back three times, left a voicemail, and a text saying “I think the call dropped”

Anyone have a favorite protein bar they absolutely love? I get hungry sometimes after my workouts and want to stash some snacks in my bag. I’ll still go home and eat a good breakfast but just need something to hold me over.