
It’s Not Going Anywhere…
For context: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now. He makes me VERY happy. He’s the best boyfriend that I have and he genuinely makes me feel wanted, valued, appreciated and loved. However, it feels like it hasn’t gone anywhere the last 2 years…. We are long distance. We live about 3 hours apart but in different countries (I live right by the U.S./Canada border, and he’s in Canada). I haven’t been able to go visit him like I hoped because of some medical issues I was having. I had to have surgery which in turn led to doctors appointments, more doctors appointments and more. Plus, my job keeps me very busy. Traveling to see him also costs money which I don’t have a lot of because I’m so drowned in medical bills and other bills I have to pay. He keeps saying that we have a future together and everything and that he’s making plans to see me and try to get me to Canada to live together and that he WANTS to propose, but he never has. He’s been saying this for over 3 years btw.
My mom and I were just causally chatting last night while watching the fireworks, and she said “I love the guy, I think he’s great but if he were serious he would have at least tried or even proposed by now.” And I feel like she’s right. I’m a 24F (25 in October). All of my friends are getting married and having kids (I don’t want kids anytime soon). He’s a 30M about to be 31. Things need to start happening sooner rather than later if we want a family. I even told him and asked him what his plans were and he said ”I want to spend the rest of my life with you” without any sort of clear cut answer besides that.
{Food is a homemade calzone}
EDIT: YES WE HAVE VISITED EACH OTHER AND MET!!!!!! We have visited each other a few times but not in 2 years due to my medical issues.