u/Slow-Attorney46

I am a victim of sexual abuse, as well as other forms of abuse and neglect. I’m now an adult and struggling to understand how my parents could’ve been in the room while it happened and not have noticed or said something. Or to know these family members had a history of molesting and beating their own children and not have considered that maybe they weren’t the suitable option to babysit me for hours everyday for 10 years.

Like to say you never saw signs of the abuse and that if you did it would’ve stopped immediately. But I remember crying for help on the phone and then they’d do nothing. Or like in the room at a family gathering and for the abuser(s) to make me sit on his lap and I refused and then was coerced into doing so by the abuser and my parents were in the room and said nothing? Like this abuser had me sitting in his lap at 8 years old when I said I wanted to sit on my own chair, and he has his hands doing some inappropriate things and not one adult in that room saw anything??

And to claim now as I am an adult that you never saw signs and I never said anything. And that since you couldn’t afford childcare they were your only option? My parents very well could afford childcare as two full time working people with 6 figure incomes. And let’s say they’re cheap and don’t want to then why were these family members the first choice???

I just can’t seem to rationalize the choices they made to let me be molested and much worse and beaten and called names. And to continue to claim they love me and did their best.

My parents themselves were abusive and neglectful but I still can’t rationalize them letting be sexually abused for my entire childhood.

As someone who had a mother who made it known she never wanted to be a mother, and only had kids cause my dad wanted them, it’s weird celebrating Mother’s Day as an adult. Went out for dinner with the in-laws for Mother’s Day and got to pick out a gift and card and it’s weird cause she wants to be mother and likes having kids. I was so uncomfortable the entire day and at the restaurant cause I looked around to see so many people celebrating their moms and i felt sorta shocked in a way. I didn’t know people liked being known as mothers or celebrated as mothers.
Is this just me? How do I cope knowing my mom never wanted kids and treated me like she didn’t?

It was never unclear whether she liked being a mom, she didn’t. It’s almost worse than all the physical abuse and neglect it’s the fact I knew she didn’t want me and told me so.

Tried cutting a mango(with a pit) for the first time and well it was a hack job… tried the slice and spoon method and the peel and dice method and they both sucked. I’m a newbie to cutting vegetables and fruit and have poor fine motor skills. I have very shaky unstable hands and trouble cutting anything with a kitchen knife. Tips and advice pleaseeee.

Been on Prozac for 5 years at varying doses usually on the higher end at 100mg/day as prescribed by a psychiatrist. I 21f have noticed significantly reduced fine motor skills. My hands are very shaky and I can’t use scissors well or do things like build lego, origami… like anything requiring fine motor skills. Anyone have a similar experience? I feel kinda inadequate about how much I struggle to do such simple tasks.. like cutting fruit today was a struggle and a half…

I thought final grades would be available on d2l on the 29th as per the calendar of critical dates. But I still don’t have a couple marks back for a gned I’m taking, no final exam which was written on the 20th and a couple assignments that were completed in early April. No communications from prof either stating there would be a delay.