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Like if maybe ADHD related to not having the bandwidth for that area?

In my case, I struggle between wondering if I struggled because of ADHD or I wasn't smart enough after all. I was a straight A student for most of middle and high school (even gifted and talented for Math and Science since the 6th grade) and the kind considered by adults as smart but needs to apply myself or not be lazy/pay attention more, but just scraping by mostly passing for esp the rigorous Sciences in many college semesters. And got diagnosed (which I sought) when I was finishing college

I have a lot of fomo or sadness when I see reminders of the career path pre-college me dreamt of

Like if maybe ADHD related to not having the bandwidth for that area?

In my case, I struggle between wondering if I struggled because of ADHD or I wasn't smart enough after all. I was a straight A student for most of middle and high school (even gifted and talented for Math and Science since the 6th grade) and the kind considered by adults as smart but needs to apply myself or not be lazy/pay attention more, but just scraping by mostly passing for esp the rigorous Sciences in many college semesters. And got diagnosed (which I sought) when I was finishing college

I have a lot of fomo or sadness when I see reminders of the career path pre-college me dreamt of

I am in a transitory stage of life where I am debating among 3 career interests, with 1 being the PA route after a post bacc and another being career positions within the field I have been working

I also am debating between doing the post bacc for remaining pre requisites asap now, before some of my courses reach that expiry mark, or taking my time with exploring and doing a post bacc, including retaking courses, when I am sure of the path and also ready to take on the courseload (including prioritizing studying over working , such that I can afford to not be full time if I transfer from another career where I have saved enough).

I am wondering if there are post bacc people at all who have retaken courses-maybe some validation I am not wasting time

Today there's no old friend I have bad blood with, but all of my friends from when I was under 10 are mere acquaintances. Maybe one I am barely in touch on and off (long distance when her family moved countries once we were 10). As for friends I had since I was a tween, I sense we are all growing apart. Even my one best friend I am slowly accepting we seem to be drifting with only our past in common (even tho we were ride and die as teens). Also very ironic is one of those elementary close friends I am now just an acquaintance of is a "friend of a friend" through one of the since tween close friends (whom she is wayyy closer to. Recently they were even her bridesmaids at a wedding while I was just one of many guests because her mom invited me lol).

I know people commonly talk about always remaining best friends with a childhood friend or picking up where they left off

But wondering if any women also relate to me on this lol

Basically when people say ask for what you bring to the table, or someone must be xyz like you to be on their level, I'm wondering if anyone else finds it often hierarchal and arrogant. Like implying people certain type of people are above or below certain types

Whereas saying you want a certain quality because you want an effort reciprocated or because you are more compatible with someone tends to *not* be arrogant

I'm talking purely subjective physical attraction, regardless of where someone stands conventionally.

By binary, I'm talking everyone attractive enough to date tends to be almost equally attractive to you (on looks alone)

By threshold, I'm talking about a minimum degree of attractiveness and some people being more attractive than others

I'm talking purely subjective physical attraction, regardless of where someone stands conventionally.

By binary, I'm talking everyone attractive enough to date tends to be almost equally attractive to you (on looks alone)

By threshold, I'm talking about a minimum degree of attractiveness and some people being more attractive than others

Much like how reactive abuse isn't the same as abuse (and can be a valid response) I am saying shouldn't same apply to reacting to bullying?

Whenever I see hot takes on popular media on bullying (ie "Janis and Cady were just as mean as Regina" or "Janis and Cady were the real mean girls" or is revenge against Regina even comparable to targeting people who did nothing to you?) I have been wondering this

PS mean girls is just one example. I see similar takes with bullying themed shows and movies (the kinds you find on Netflix) which I think reveal a certain real life social attitude. Recently I saw this with a foreign Netflix show.

My views and this question can apply to men (bullies or victims) as much as women btw. On a tangentially related note, if the bully happens to be a woman, is it really "patriarchy pitting women" as opposed to certain women having other power dynamics over people that can be abused when they choose to bully?

I feel like the Internet seems to be increasingly portraying this as common (and I do agree women give more sincere compliments then men, and women are more open with women then men are with men)

But I can't help but feel like frequency from random women depends on this individual woman and the environment she's in. I'm mostly used to compliments only from those who know me well, unless I really dress "hot" or say something noteworthy in a first convo.

But curious on others' experiences

Ngl the fear of the clock hits me for the kids aspect

I know I am also considering 2 different masters degrees for career paths that are different or overlapping

The kids by early 30s (I'm in late 20s now) also really depends on if I find the right person (no, I won't just settle for anyone for the sake of a timeline)

But yea just wanted perspective from other women who wanted both. Bonus points if executive functioning has ever been a challenge for you (in my case, I am neurodivergent)

Idk if it's my alogorithm but I have been seeing a lot of late about how he was wrongly accused of being a pedo. About how even the Epstein files showed he tried to save children from Epstein and his people. About how Michael Jackson had a traumatic childhood and merely wanted to give the childhood he never had through Neverland (or something like that). And that those who spread false accusations were Zionists with an agenda (side note: I am anti zionist and pro palestine, and my posts are not for anyone that supports Zionism).

2018 was honestly the first time I learned more about his potential SA of minors and some documentary focused on men coming out about experiences with him as young boys. And I was barely a prepubescent tween when I first heard he died. I feel out of the loop on the entire timeline of his trajectory

Today I even came across a post about one news site saying his sister Latoya changed from accusing him to saying he's innocent, claiming that she said she was pressured by an abusive ex husband. Couldn't find much articles though. Comments on such posts seemed really horrifically not having any understanding for what it's like to be in an abusive relationship

Figure I'd talk about this here since overuse/misuse of pick me has been talked about before

I am NOT talking about supporting men who say and do unarguably willfully misogynistic things when I mention agreeing with individual men

Do people not distinguish between supporting individuals situationally and always supporting or appealing to men? (That's the really irritating part to me). Wouldn't being multi dimensional involve agreeing and disagreeing with different individual men and individual women?

Disagreeing with actual toxic behavior from individual women is its own story too

Like maybe something that you wish was recognized and appreciated more

Or maybe if something intended to be a compliment is a harmful expectation (ie selflessness, though it does beg if selflessness to your own kids is different from selflessness to others)

I am seeking a mix of insight and empathy I suppose. Or if anyone relates. And idk if this is related to ADHD or not

I'm one of those high acheiving during school years but barely scraped by in college types. And wasn't diagnosed until like the last semester of college (it was a lot related to my family not believing it's a thing).

Anyways college was a mix of classes where I could not pay attention at all in lecture (esp if all fast and no text on PPTs), classes where knowledge was straightforward application of textbook/lectures or creative project based and I could simply study and thrive ( reading and essays were still time consuming though especially with sustaining attention being hard, to the point of losing sleep), and classes where I studied, one I liked, but somehow barely passed all exams while doing good on study practice sets. I was often told I have the fundamentals down but need to master or need to connect the dots between more.

But yea the latter case, I wish for the life of me I could figure what it was I needed to do differently. And why I couldn't get a high gpa, graduate with honors, etc.

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But yea my cat has always hissed at cats while she warmed up quick to my roommate's cat when we first started living together. Same with dogs (for a previous roommate dog)

I work just a typical 9-5 on weekdays.

But yea with these put together would foster cats have to be kept in a bathroom or something when I'm not home? And if so, will that just make keeping them in my place detrimental? Or is it all doable and better than having them wait in the shelter?

IF as in intermittent fasting :)

Do you ever take a break from it or continue during your period

So obviously this thinking is called out more and more nowadays

But I have always wondered why people believe this in the first place. Like how do people make such an association? I never ever even believed that when any guy bullied or picked on me or another girl. Quite the opposite

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Also cannot recall where I read it but some social media group (either for ND people or Spongebob memes, most probably the former) pointed it out and now I cannot unsee it