u/Strawberry_002

I’ve actually left this job now but I still just can’t believe this happened to me and thought I’d share my horror with the group!
So I had a colleague who I was friends with he is much older than me (23F) I would guess he’s 60ish. We crossed paths a lot so would chat regularly I didn’t mind it felt like he was being a bit fatherly
( he is married with a daughter my age) and I enjoy chatting with any colleagues I pass and didn’t treat him any differently. Anyways went to the Christmas party and he started to get a bit full on and weird. Then he found out I might be leaving he asked if I wanted to meet outside of work to “talk it out” obviously said no. he started making comments like “ if you go I’ll miss you, you’ll know how much I’ll miss you don’t you, I care so much about you more than I should” and “if only you were older and I was younger and things were different” he then gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. obviously alarm bells are ringing at this point and I’m mega stressed about it and even the manager has noticed and is asking me what was going on.

My Next shift with him I’m not even in the building and he ambushed me in the door saying I had to meet him so he could talk to me and explain himself. His exact words “ I’m not a sexual predator” like I’m sorry but normal people don’t have to clarify that! I’m so fed up with the whole thing at this point I say fine I’ll be in the staff room but he says no that’s not private enough “no one can hear this can you meet me in my car”. Again obviously a no! And I’m thinking what the fuck is he going to say to me that has to be this private! anyways lot of back and fourth with what he considers “private enough” and we end up by the shipping container out the back stupid of me ik ik but I just want this over with and it’s covered in cameras and it’s frequently used. To sum it up He tells me he loves me and he’s heart broken I don’t feel the same and he goes on about how sorry he is and I tell him he’s made me massively uncomfortable. The Whole thing was horrendous the most uncomfortable conversation I’ve ever had in all my life!! He then asked if I wanted a hug!?! And if he could have my number so we can stay in touch when I leave, again a big no!
I then spent the next two months avoiding him like the plague but he acts like nothing has happened and comes to speak to me daily causing me to get very paranoid and anxious.
I’m so glad I go out of there it was the most stressed I’ve been in a very long time and the manager was not much help he kept joking he was going to give me a pic of him as my leaving present.
Anyways moral is don’t always assume the seemingly nice older married guy is ur friend!!

Any one else end up in awkward situations because people think they look younger than they are?
I’m 23F but often get mistaken for a lot younger when I meet new people they always ask me how schools going etc. Anyways I went out with my mum and stopped at the petrol station on the way, my mum drove because she wanted to try out my car. We get there and I get out and start to fill up and the women at the till comes out and says to my mum “excuse me you have to do your own petrol children aren’t allowed at the pump!” I had a fun time showing her my license to prove that shocker I am a legal adult this is my car and I can in fact do my own petrol.
On one hand it can be entertaining when this sort of things happens but at the same time it gets to a point!

Helloo so I’ve just had a big house move to a new area so will need to change GP but I’ve been reluctant to sort that out as it’s in a completely different area so it will be a different trust. I’m worried I’ll be taken off the list I’ve been on and be put on the local list sending me right back to the bottom. Wondering is anyone has any advice or has had the same problem?
The area I’ve moved from has a wait time that’s easily 4 years long so I’m by no means near the top but after a year of questioning if I have ADHD a year and a half to get my initial appointment and another year sat on the list for an assessment I really really want to avoid making the wait any longer than it has to be I can’t stand not knowing it’s driving me crazy.
Also i didn’t go through right to choose originally which i regret so if I was to swap would I be able to go through right to choose now even if I’ve started the process already as I’ll be switching providers anyway? Grateful for any thoughts!