For me, it’s the front right one. The back ones feel too far away, and the front left just doesn't heat up the same. Tell me your weirdly specific daily habits so I feel less insane!
I am so incredibly sick and tired of the toxic positivity and the constant "sab theek ho jayega" gaslighting in this country. Let us stop beating around the bush and look at the raw, ugly truth. Almost every single systemic crisis we face today, from the economic misery and unlivable inflation to the absolute collapse of our healthcare and loaded electricity bills, can be traced back to one single, massive, unchecked disaster: our population explosion.
We are sitting at over 255 million people. We are expanding like an out of control wildfire, and for what? The state cannot build schools fast enough. It cannot build hospitals fast enough. It cannot create jobs fast enough. We have 26 million children completely out of school, and we just keep adding millions more to the fire every single year.
And let us call out the absolute engine driving so much of this backward madness: our obsession with cousin marriages.
Seriously, screw cousin marriages. They have completely shattered the love lives, personal freedom, and mental health of the younger generation. Young people are trapped in emotional blackmail, forced into matches they do not want just to keep property in the family or please toxic family politics. Your romantic compatibility does not matter to them; your personal choice does not matter.
But it is worse than just destroying our personal happiness. Generations of marrying first cousins have created a full-blown public health nightmare. We have some of the highest rates of Thalassemia, spinal atrophy, and congenital blindness on the planet. Families are spending their life savings treating completely preventable genetic disorders, and our public hospitals are overflowing and broken because of it.
People say young couples are afraid of having kids. Damn right they are! How can anyone blame them? Who wants to bring a child into a country where a grocery basket costs a week's salary, where the air in Lahore is literal poison, and where a basic bachelor's degree gets you a starting salary that would not even cover a monthly utility bill?
We cannot blame everything on political discrimination or ongoing clashes anymore, because honestly, that political stability has improved a lot recently. The government is finally setting up the right infrastructure, fixing transit, and modernizing systems. We cannot use the state as an excuse. The real issue is the human math, and we need radical changes right now:
Weaponize the Tax System: If you have more than two kids, you should lose state subsidies on fuel, gas, and electricity. Period. Tax luxury brackets heavily for families exceeding a certain size.
Force Pre-Marital Genetic Testing: Make DNA and Thalassemia screening 100% mandatory across every single province before a Nikah Nama can legally be signed. No test, no legal marriage. Break the cycle of cousin marriage health crises by law.
Mandatory Marriage Licensing: Force couples to go through mandatory family planning and economic stability courses before getting a marriage license. Education is not working fast enough; make it an administrative gatekeeper.
Flood the Country with Free Access: Put modern family planning methods in every single village council, basic health unit, and pharmacy completely free of charge, and penalize local bureaucrats if their district's birth rate does not drop.
Our parents' generation ran this country on autopilot, assuming resources would just magically appear. They did not. We are the ones left behind in the wreckage, watching our brightest minds pack their bags and flee the country in a massive brain drain because they see no future here.
If we do not drastically bend this population curve down in the next few years, we are not just going to face an economic slowdown, we are going to face absolute structural collapse. It is time to stop hiding behind tradition and start fixing the math before there is nothing left of this country to save.
What are your honest thoughts? Are we too culturally stubborn to ever fix this, or is the younger generation finally ready to break the cycle?
Edit 1: Damnnnnn this blew up more than I thought it would but If someone wants me to spit out some strict measures or what I think can change the curve of this specific problem, I'd love to add it or I'll make a follow-up post on that.
NEED ADVICE. In short. We've known eachother for more than 2 years, she's my very close and good friend, we finished highschool together and now in different unis first year, I call her by nickname, and in last 8 months we haven't skipped a day of texts, like we did meet few times too but texting has made us like permanent constant of eachothers day. I want her to be that girl my kids would call mother one day.
idk I feel like I'm way past crush stage but I'm just so afraid to make it official like we both know what's happening between us but it's like she's very shy soul and I'm very shy and introvert as well
so idk what should I do.
I'd love some advice.