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I was on another Reddit page and something someone said reminded me of how different smoking culture was when we were growing up and that it hasn’t been that long since it changed.

A few things:

1. smoking sections don’t work😂 It’s funny as the smoke goes everywhere. I can remember being on airplanes and people could still smoke. At this point you couldn’t smoke in your seat anymore, you would go to the back of the plane and they would close the curtain when people were smoking, like that did anything.

2. We could smoke in front of our school in the 90s and nobody looked twice. Cigarettes cost 1.85 and the would sell them to anyone

3. In late 90s I used to work in a restaurant where we would smoke at a table while we were working when it was slow.

4. I worked in an office in manhattan in 2000 and they would let the 2 IT people smoke in their office if the closed the door. It was so smoky.

The change from what was socially acceptable to unacceptable about smoking was rapid during the 00s. By 2010 most of what I mentioned above was no longer socially acceptable in many states. I remember going to Texas around 2010 and being shocked ppl could still smoke in bars. My hair smelled horrible.
My niece is 4 and the other day we could smell smoke from the neighbors bbq and she said it’s probably someone smoking cigarettes. I found it funny because I suspect there are plenty of small children who have no idea what a cigarette is as you rarely see people smoking where I live. The only reason she knows is because her great grandmother is a smoker.

I took my nephew to see Backrooms which is set in the 90s and looking at all the ugly furniture made me think of being at friends houses from high school. It just made me feel old, I was a teenager in all of the 90s.
I’m wish I was one of those ppl who feel better the older they get. I don’t, it makes me sad to know I’ll never be that skinny or pretty again. I hate that I’m aging. I’m mad because I always took care of my skin and I was never a hard core tanner and pretty much stopped tanning in my early 20s always used spf.
I’ve been thinking about how I will never have that much fun again, be that brave or take those chances again. I won’t have that excitement of doing new things. It’s hard because I still feel like the same person I was in the 90s, in some ways it feels like yesterday and I don’t feel my age in my brain. I actually had a boyfriend who was 12 years younger than me and that helped me feel young again but sadly he passed away in 2024 which broke and aged me more. Losing him took something from me. I think back to what I thought my future would be in the 90s and I think of all the hard stuff that happened to me that I was so unaware of all the disappointment that would come. I did accomplish things I planned for when I was in high school but they never turned out the way I thought they would and there was so much sadness along the way. Relationships that didn’t work out, loosing my dad and best friend in 2012 then my boyfriend 2 years ago. I’m scared because I’m getting old I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. I miss being young and pretty and I took it for granted.

The car has no way to pop the trunk from inside the car, you have to use the key fob. Also you cannot pull down the rear seam from inside the car, you can only release them from the trunk. I thought I locked my keys in my trunk but could not access my trunk even after I had someone come out and get the door unlocked. Allegedly the button on the trunk is supposed to work if the key is nearby but who knows how near it has to be to work. It didn’t work for me so I assumed my key wasn’t in the trunk but I still thinks it’s a poor design not to have a way to open your trunk without they key as this can be a concern if the battery dies. If my battery dies I will not have a way to access my trunk. I’m just generally disappointed as my ford had a key pad on the door if I got locked out and I could pop my trunk from inside the car and pull the back seats down from the back seat. Seems like a new car should have better features than a 2016.

Recently bought this car. It only came with one set of keys and I had been planning on getting another set. Today I can’t find my keys and all I can think is I left them in the trunk when I put something in there yesterday. I have car assistance coverage so I contact them to open the door so I can look in the trunk. The service provider gets the door open quickly but the alarm starts going off so we both are looking where to pop the trunk to see if the key is back there. There is NO way to pop the trunk from inside the car without the key fob, online search shows there isn’t one. So I’m like ok I will pull the seat down and access the trunk from back seat but there are no levers to release seats. Online search shows you can only release seats from the trunk! I was missing my ford fusion which had a door code to get in locked car and a way to pull seats and pop trunk from inside car.Another Online reach showed you can press a button on the trunk to open it but it will only works if key is nearby. This didn’t work so I assumed the key wasn’t in the car. I eventually paid someone to come out to make a new key and they were not in the trunk. I hope they show up so I’ll have another set.

I’m generally disappointed with this car design. I should be able to get in my trunk without a key. I also don’t like this design because if the battery dies that means I will not be able to open the trunk or gain access to it. I had this happen in my ford but was able to get what I needed from the trunk by pulling down back seat.

This came up last week at work as I work for a county determining Welfare benefits. We were doing a training about work requirements for SNAP recipients. Basically if you work and are on SNAP you have to work a certain number of hours OR make a certain amount to be exempt from work requirements. So you either have to work 30 hours a week OR make $217.50 a week to be exempt. Why $217.50? That’s the number you get if you multiply 30 hours times federal minimum wage. $217.50 for 30 hours of work! What’s funny is the minimum wage where I live is $21 so that means people only need to work 12 hours a week to be over the limit and be exempt from working programs. Good! Fuck it!

Someone else’s post about using sick time after never missing and helping out made me think of this.

My job was at a residential treatment center for out of control teen girls- it’s like a mix between juvinelle hall and a psych ward. It was a weird mix of kids- some were there for drugs, assault, attempted murder, prostitution and others due to psychiatric issues who were often hard to reason with. My concern wasn’t so much with the girls who were there instead of jail as they were high functioning and could be talked to. I was good at my job, I ran a strict unit but I was also fair, respectful and could be fun when it allowed so I didn’t have a hard time with these types most of the time. What concerned me was the truly crazy ones who had no sense. I had never missed a day in 2 years when this happened.

My hand was swollen 3x its normal size and I was on Percocet and none of the ppl in charge suggested I go home. What’s crazy is the girls had more sympathy than the ppl in charge did. They really felt bad for me as my hand was fucked up, I literally appealed to them to please be well behaved as I was in this messed up state. How pathetic that kids in the care of California Youth Authority had more compassion than ppl with MSWs (CA shipped many kids to my state as they can’t restrain kids in CA unless they are in jail).

I was in a cast for 3-4 months and I only recall one night when they got out of control when I had a cast on. It was a big fight with numerous girls in the unit and since I wasn’t allowed to touch them when I was in a cast I was blocking them from assaulting each other with my body and my hands held above my head screaming ‘I can’t restrain’ to the other staff. I’m female and was same size as these girls. When it was finally calm again me and some of the girls got a good laugh at me screaming trying to stop the fights best I could. Oh and one night when I was still in a cast they had me work with this old lady who was on oxygen because she had COPD and couldn’t restrain kids because she was elderly and I had to run my unit with just her!

The facility was in Aurora Colorado but is now closed and if you KNOW you KNOW. I saw hundreds of kids rotate thru so in case any of them see this thanks for being pretty well behaved most of the time considering the adults in your life failed you. Hope things are better❤️ and HMU if you want.

I was talking to a black friend who told me they like Trump as he is a gansta and I said no he isn’t and he is doing every thing to undermine blacks votes and I wouldn’t trust him to not bring back slavery if it were an option. For context I’m white and most black ppl I know are anti Trump she is the only one I’ve heard express this. I’m cool with her- my BF passed away in 2024 and she is his dad’s girlfriend. She wasnt offended and seemed like she took what I said into consideration. I work in public assistance and I also explained to her the changes he is making to welfare due to the Big Beautiful Bill🤮🤢. FYI these changes aren’t going to save that much money as all they do is increase work load and create issues with ppls benefits.

Am are wrong for being scared of what Trump can do? There seems to be no end to the insanity- he keeps pushing stuff further and further with not much reaction or accountability. If Obama said or did 1/10 of what he has it would have been chaos and outrage by the right.

Edit- these reason I brought up welfare was because the entire reason I was talking to her today was to help her apply for Medicaid.

My mom has 3 sisters and out of 4 of them NONE of them changed their name when they got married. For perspective they are all baby boomers born in the US. I think they kept maiden names for a combination of reasons- considering the time they were raised in they were very liberal and were raised to believe in women’s rights. My grandmother was very open minded and my grandfather was receptive to her opinions. She was a supporter of the civil rights movement and of women’s rights as she had been raised by her mom and aunts who were all educated women (nurses starting around 1910) who taught her to think this way. The other reason is their maiden name is a rare Italian name and I think they genuinely liked it and didn’t want to give it up for generics last names (everyone they married had pretty common American last names). My oldest aunt even gave her daughter her last name even though she was married. They agreed their son would take the dad’s last name and the daughter would take hers.
Do you know a lot of women who kept their maiden names? I’m not married but if I ever did I would keep my maiden name, it feels too much like I’m getting rid of a part of me- I could never imagine having a different last name.

Someone commented that she was with her grandma and heard a story from another woman her grandmas age who had numerous abortions then went back to her job at a factory. The comment was like ‘and this was 30 years ago, it was even common way back then’ like that was shocking. Seriously I was thinking 30 years ago was 1996 not 1946. The way she said it was like it was soooo lonnggg ago she couldn’t believe it. Like this woman worked in a coal mine and barely had electricity. The timeline isn’t that different, you all wear the same stuff we did and young people were listening to music about sex and drugs like they do now and getting into trouble exactly the same.

This question probably comes with the caveats of it depends on your current relationship with your parents, if they accept you leaving or have left themselves. I watch Alyssa Grendel on YouTube and she seems to have a good relationship with her parents but I often wonder how she doesn’t carry some resentment for what they put her through. She seemed to suffer from extreme religious guilt from Mormon teachings.

I’m not a parent but I will alway remember this story my friend told me. My friend would smoke weed from blunts in front of her small child. She said one day they were in the car and she looked back at her daughter who was a few years old and the daughter was “smoking” a brown crayon (looks like a blunt). She said this was an eye opening moment for her and she felt like a degenerate.

I’ll go first- I usually went to very diverse schools but for 2 years of high school I was in a Catholic school with a lot of white kids and there were so many Jennifer’s! This was in the early 90s. Some of them had the same last initial so you couldn’t even call them Jennifer S. as there were like 3 Jennifer S’s.