Help a girl out , I got a balayage 3+ years ago and my hair has never been the same as before. I want to grow it down to my hips like it used to be when I was a teen. But I got a lot of hair loss from the balayage bleach and now my hair went from straight to this wavy texture and the new growth is also wavy…
Guys I’m genuinely confused whether I was the avoidant or my ex in my last relationship. What even is an avoidant ? How do I know if I’m avoidant or if I just like to have a healthy amount of space ? People are saying my ex was controlling and just awful so now I’m confused because he told me I’m avoidant and I can be a bit self-focused but I don’t neglect my partner’s feelings. He was neglecting my feelings and avoiding hard conversations whereas when I’m avoidant I’m genuinely busy with work/studies and too exhausted to make time for another human being. Or sometimes I get avoidant because I’m worried if I rely on him too much and he leaves me I’ll get hurt and I feel like I need to keep some independence or I’ll get very hurt.
I’m confused if I was avoidant or he was ?
I’m 22F and started my PhD at the start of this year My ex boyfriend (23M) of 2+ years was very upset, and had discouraged me from applying. He said I shouldn’t do a PhD because I’ll be broke and it’s dumb and that he “feels behind” and i will leave him ? Last year when I was studying hard in honours he told me that men don’t like intelligent/ambitious women and that women don’t contribute to the workforce, they just take coffee breaks. He said if he had a daughter he wouldn’t let her do a PhD and that’s it’s a dumb financial decision.
He joined the airforce himself and became awful and didn’t seem happy / supportive about my PhD. He said I should drop my PhD offer and move wherever the military posted him and do my PhD there (like it’s so easy to get accepted?). I felt really hurt because I worked hard and he said my PhD was dumb and it was the problem between us. I was supposed to support his career and follow him around, while he disrespected my ambitions. I ended up saying goodbye and ghosting him because I felt so emotionally neglected and he was being avoidant. We were dating to marry and I was heartbroken and struggled to feel excited for my PhD.
Has anyone had similar issues when starting their PhD ?
Hii ! I get really sad some days so I wanted to make myself a comfort items bag. Recently, I’ve bought some loop earplugs and chamomile tea and heat pack. I’m wondering what other comfort items I can buy for these really hard days when you are so sad and can’t stop crying or it’s been a rough day or you have PMS or period cramps or tired or whatever. What other things should I buy for my comfort bucket ?! What are you favourites ?
I’ve felt really really sad and cry a lot. This has been happening since December when my boyfriend joined airforce and the relationship slowly got worser and worser and ended. At the same time, I finished my honours degree and applied for new things like jobs, PhD scholarships, internships etc and was in constant uncertainty about my relationship and career. Now I have started a PhD, am single again, made some new friends etc. I’ve actually done a lot of new things but I just feel so sad and I cry so much. It’s especially worse around my period. I think it might be depression because I’ve never felt this sad for this long (6+ months). Is this a normal response to big life transitions or can it be depression ?
Every time it’s 10-11 days before my period I get incredibly sad and can’t stop crying. I miss my ex, I miss something I don’t know what and crave comfort. It is so extreme that I can’t study for more than 20 minutes and everything will make me irritated or really really sad. I will sleep 10 hours and still wake up exhausted and my body aching even though I skip all exercising. How do I fix this ? The worst part is the feeling lonely because that just makes me cry even more and I genuinely can’t help it because my work is an isolated, focused, lonely profession.
I’m 22F and started my PhD at the start of this year My ex boyfriend (23M) of 2+ years was very upset, and had discouraged me from applying. He said I shouldn’t do a PhD because I’ll be broke and it’s dumb and that he “feels behind” and i will leave him ? Last year when I was studying hard in honours he told me that men don’t like intelligent/ambitious women and that women don’t contribute to the workforce, they just take coffee breaks. He said if he had a daughter he wouldn’t let her do a PhD and that’s it’s a dumb financial decision.
He joined the airforce himself and became awful and didn’t seem happy / supportive about my PhD. He said I should drop my PhD offer and move wherever the military posted him and do my PhD there (like it’s so easy to get accepted?). I felt really hurt because I worked hard and he said my PhD was dumb and it was the problem between us. I was supposed to support his career and follow him around, while he disrespected my ambitions. I ended up saying goodbye and ghosting him because I felt so emotionally neglected and he was being avoidant. We were dating to marry and I was heartbroken and struggled to feel excited for my PhD.
Has anyone had similar issues when starting their PhD ?
I’ve noticed that I get sooo sleep, I can sleep 10 hours and still feel drowsy all day. Also, I get so so bloated it’s not even funny. Just ONE day after ovulation, my boobs will get sore, I’ll feel sleepy, sad and SO bloated. I’m not even joking, I barely eat and I feel so bloated. Like today it’s 6pm and all I had was some oats for brekkie and then two sandwiches and now I feel sooo bloated I can’t even focus on my study. Every part of my body feels so heavy and achy even though I sleep SO fucking much. Is this common ? Is there a cure for this because it lasts for 10-11 days after ovulation and doesn’t go away until my period comes. That means that I get 10-11 days of hell followed by another 2-3 days of hell when the period comes which is like half a month of agony 😭 How can I stop the bloating ugh. I MISS NOT BEING BLOATED.
I dumped my bf because HE started creating emotional distance, lack of reassurance and nonchalance. There was outside factors like he was extremely busy due to his new career (airforce training) . He made promises to fix it later but the trust was broken on my end and I had to leave because I was getting anxiety attacks. He didn’t try to repair. Should I reach out or should I wait for him or just move on ? We were together over 2 years and he was very mixed signals , talking about marriage but ignoring my present emotional needs.
For context my field is agriculture and neuroscience , project is using animals. I also have a background in neuroscience. I’m wondering how much I can change directions later on because I have a massive interest in human disease but my PhD is looking at animals from an agricultural pov. Would it be possible to pivot into researching something like Alzheimer’s or cancer despite having a different research background? Also what sort of jobs might I be able to do with a PhD ? Or does it not really help ? I’ve heard that a PhD makes it harder to get a job. Is this true ? Regardless I’ve already stated my PhD so now I’m just gonna have to accept whatever.