u/Swimming-Song-159

Hi everyone!
I’m going to Bali from the 22nd to the 29th of August, and this is my first ever international trip, so I’m equal parts nervous and excited. I’m flying in from India and my husband is coming from Australia, and we’re meeting there. I wanted to ask a few things and would really appreciate any advice.

My flight is Air India (economy ofcourse) and it’s about 9 hours. Is the food okay? Do I need a neck pillow? Is there anything I should carry with me?

For the visa, we’ve registered for the e-visa, but we’re stuck on the tourist levy payment - keeps getting cancelled every time at payment. Has anyone faced this? I also know there’s some health pass we’re supposed to do. Is there anything else we need to sort out before we go?

We already have Grab and Gojek downloaded, and I bought a Telkomsel eSIM from Balisim.in - is there anything I should be careful about with that?

Is it safe to wear our wedding rings? We"ll be carrying our laptops too, can be left in the airbnbs?

On clothes, we don’t have a fixed itinerary yet - just booked the villas - 22-25 in Bija Villa Ubud and 25-29 Villa LeNomi Seminyak. We will go to Finns one day surely. But I’m confused about how to dress for the day. We plan on renting a scooter so we can go around easily, but should I wear swimwear with a sarong over it for the whole day, or just change when I actually go to the beach?

Sorry if some of these sound silly, I’m just really nervous! I’ve already sorted mosquito repellent, ORS, and stomach/flu medicines. Any other tips or guides would mean a lot.

Thank you in advance for your time!

I sound like a broken record at this point. Its been 2.5 months I paid for products which I havent reveived. Ofcourse Il check in time and again. Just because they add dear doesnt take away the hostile tone 😪
If only they would actually provide the product, I wouldnt have to reach out again n again
Now the shoes I booked are out of stock and they wont even refund and stop responding when I question/ask for compensation

Hi fam
My cousin just got admission into Mata Sundari Girls College DU and SD chandigarh
CONFUSED AF as to where to go
Both are average yes
Delhi is better for its location but its an all Girls college
She is introvert as is, her stepmum refrains her from talking to boys and I want her to get the exposure and confidence to be able to sit in ANY room but not at the cost of her education
Iykwim
Appreciate any help

Thanks

Throwaway for obvious reasons. I’m an Assistant Manager at a large IT/BPM MNC in India. Looking for advice from anyone who’s been through something similar.
Here’s the situation:
• I’ve been released my project since January. They didn’t allocate me to a project. I stayed available the whole time. Just put me on bench last month
• My appointment letter says employment can end “at the instance of either party by giving the other a notice in writing for three months.” So as I read it, if they want me out, they owe me 3 months’ notice or pay in lieu — same as I’d owe them.
• Now, suddenly, my manager and HR (who seem to be working together on this) are giving me an ultimatum: either start reporting daily to my base office in another city — which they never required during the entire period — or “take early release” Basically, resign.
• The reporting demand appeared at the exact moment they started pushing me to quit. I have ~60 days of runway I’m trying to protect while I job-hunt.
I know the game here is that if I resign, they save the notice payout. So I’ve decided I’m not resigning, I’m not going AWOL, and I’m asking them to put every instruction in writing.
What I’m trying to figure out:

1. Have you been through bench-to-resignation pressure at an Indian MNC? What actually worked?
2. Can they force a sudden daily-reporting requirement specifically to push a resignation? Does the timing matter if this ever escalates?
3. Anything I should be documenting now that I’m not thinking of?

Just want to hear from people who’ve actually navigated this. Thanks in advance.

Throwaway for obvious reasons. I’m an Assistant Manager at a large IT/BPM MNC in India. Looking for advice from anyone who’s been through something similar.
Here’s the situation:
• I’ve been released my project since January. They didn’t allocate me to a project. I stayed available the whole time. Just put me on bench last month
• My appointment letter says employment can end “at the instance of either party by giving the other a notice in writing for three months.” So as I read it, if they want me out, they owe me 3 months’ notice or pay in lieu — same as I’d owe them.
• Now, suddenly, my manager and HR (who seem to be working together on this) are giving me an ultimatum: either start reporting daily to my base office in another city — which they never required during the entire period — or “take an exit as soon as possible.” Basically, resign.
• The reporting demand appeared at the exact moment they started pushing me to quit. I have ~60 days of runway I’m trying to protect while I job-hunt.
I know the game here is that if I resign, they save the notice payout. So I’ve decided I’m not resigning, I’m not going AWOL, and I’m asking them to put every instruction in writing.
What I’m trying to figure out:
1. Have you been through bench-to-resignation pressure at an Indian MNC? What actually worked?
2. Can they legally force a sudden daily-reporting requirement specifically to push a resignation? Does the timing matter if this ever escalates?
3. Anything I should be documenting now that I’m not thinking of?

Just want to hear from people who’ve actually navigated this. Thanks in advance.

Throwaway. Posting for my sister, who can't safely post for herself right now. I'm overseas and trying to help her from a distance.

She's an immigrant from India. About four years ago she married a US citizen and moved to the US to be with him. They now have a son who's almost 2. She was a working professional back home; she gave that up to move for the marriage.

From early on it was coercive control, not just by her husband but by his whole household (his mother and his sister live with them):

- Her documents were taken from her and withheld.
- Her husband never filed for her green card, and openly used her immigration status to control her — the message was "behave how we want or you'll be deported."
- She was cut off from everyone. They didn't let relatives visit, monitored her phone and texts, and tracked her calls. When the family went out, they would leave her locked in the car while they ran errands so she couldn't talk to anyone.
- They forced her to cut off her own family back home. She was told to "forget you have a family" there, that this was her home now. Her husband openly disrespected and shouted at her parents (including during a visit), and badmouthed her whole family in front of her.
- The control extended to her own child — his mother had to approve everything, to the point she wasn't even allowed to dress her own son without it going through the grandmother first.
- Her food and daily behavior were monitored and policed.
- A psychiatric evaluation she had was done with her husband sitting in the room the whole time.
- He recorded constantly. He appears to have recordings of a lot — including her begging to be allowed to stay, and heated arguments where, pushed to her limit, she said things back.

When she finally called 911 during a rare moment alone, the family flipped it on her. Now there are a restraining order and harassment complaints filed against HER by the husband and his mother, he's been granted emergency custody of their son, and she's been separated from her toddler. A close relative of the husband works in law enforcement, which they've used to make her feel like the system is theirs and resistance is pointless. She now has no money, is staying with relatives, and is barely holding together being kept from her child.

I've been reading about VAWA self-petitions (Form I-360) that let an abused spouse of a US citizen file for status independently, without the abuser. My questions for anyone who's been through something like this:

1. VAWA: where does she start, and how do people document "extreme cruelty" when the abuse was psychological/financial/controlling rather than hospital-visit physical? What counts as evidence?
2. The recordings: he has audio of her at her worst moments in arguments. How do survivors deal with an abuser who recorded everything to make the victim look like the aggressor? Does her own lawyer need this upfront?
3. The system being used against her: when the abuser files first and gets the restraining order + emergency custody, how do survivors turn that around? What kind of lawyer handles BOTH the immigration side and the custody side?
4. When the abuser has a relative in law enforcement — does that change anything legally, or is it mostly intimidation? How do people protect themselves from that pressure?
5. Any orgs, pro bono programs, or specific resources for an immigrant survivor with no income and a US-citizen child?

Any experience, guidance, or even just "here's what I wish I'd known" would mean the world. Thank you for reading.

Throwaway. Posting for my sister, who can't safely post for herself right now. I'm overseas and trying to help her from a distance.

She's an immigrant from South Asia. About four years ago she married a US citizen and moved to the US to be with him. They now have a son who's almost 2. She was a working professional back home; she gave that up to move for the marriage.

From early on it was coercive control, not just by her husband but by his whole household (his mother and his sister live with them):

- Her documents were taken from her and withheld.
- Her husband never filed for her green card, and openly used her immigration status to control her — the message was "behave how we want or you'll be deported."
- She was cut off from everyone. They didn't let relatives visit, monitored her phone and texts, and tracked her calls. When the family went out, they would leave her locked in the car while they ran errands so she couldn't talk to anyone.
- They forced her to cut off her own family back home. She was told to "forget you have a family" there, that this was her home now. Her husband openly disrespected and shouted at her parents (including during a visit), and badmouthed her whole family in front of her.
- The control extended to her own child — his mother had to approve everything, to the point she wasn't even allowed to dress her own son without it going through the grandmother first.
- Her food and daily behavior were monitored and policed.
- A psychiatric evaluation she had was done with her husband sitting in the room the whole time.
- He recorded constantly. He appears to have recordings of a lot — including her begging to be allowed to stay, and heated arguments where, pushed to her limit, she said things back.

When she finally called 911 during a rare moment alone, the family flipped it on her. Now there are a restraining order and harassment complaints filed against HER by the husband and his mother, he's been granted emergency custody of their son, and she's been separated from her toddler. A close relative of the husband works in law enforcement, which they've used to make her feel like the system is theirs and resistance is pointless. She now has no money, is staying with relatives, and is barely holding together being kept from her child.

I've been reading about VAWA self-petitions (Form I-360) that let an abused spouse of a US citizen file for status independently, without the abuser. My questions for anyone who's been through something like this:

1. VAWA: where does she start, and how do people document "extreme cruelty" when the abuse was psychological/financial/controlling rather than hospital-visit physical? What counts as evidence?
2. The recordings: he has audio of her at her worst moments in arguments. How do survivors deal with an abuser who recorded everything to make the victim look like the aggressor? Does her own lawyer need this upfront?
3. The system being used against her: when the abuser files first and gets the restraining order + emergency custody, how do survivors turn that around? What kind of lawyer handles BOTH the immigration side and the custody side?
4. When the abuser has a relative in law enforcement — does that change anything legally, or is it mostly intimidation? How do people protect themselves from that pressure?
5. Any orgs, pro bono programs, or specific resources for an immigrant survivor with no income and a US-citizen child?

Any experience, guidance, or even just "here's what I wish I'd known" would mean the world. Thank you for reading.

Throwaway. Posting for my sister, who can't safely post for herself right now. I'm overseas and trying to help her from a distance.

She's an immigrant from South Asia. About four years ago she married a US citizen and moved to the US to be with him. They now have a son who's almost 2. She was a working professional back home; she gave that up to move for the marriage.

From early on it was coercive control, not just by her husband but by his whole household (his mother and his sister live with them):

- Her documents were taken from her and withheld.
- Her husband never filed for her green card, and openly used her immigration status to control her — the message was "behave how we want or you'll be deported."
- She was cut off from everyone. They didn't let relatives visit, monitored her phone and texts, and tracked her calls. When the family went out, they would leave her locked in the car while they ran errands so she couldn't talk to anyone.
- They forced her to cut off her own family back home. She was told to "forget you have a family" there, that this was her home now. Her husband openly disrespected and shouted at her parents (including during a visit), and badmouthed her whole family in front of her.
- The control extended to her own child — his mother had to approve everything, to the point she wasn't even allowed to dress her own son without it going through the grandmother first.
- Her food and daily behavior were monitored and policed.
- A psychiatric evaluation she had was done with her husband sitting in the room the whole time.
- He recorded constantly. He appears to have recordings of a lot — including her begging to be allowed to stay, and heated arguments where, pushed to her limit, she said things back.

When she finally called 911 during a rare moment alone, the family flipped it on her. Now there are a restraining order and harassment complaints filed against HER by the husband and his mother, he's been granted emergency custody of their son, and she's been separated from her toddler. A close relative of the husband works in law enforcement, which they've used to make her feel like the system is theirs and resistance is pointless. She now has no money, is staying with relatives, and is barely holding together being kept from her child.

I've been reading about VAWA self-petitions (Form I-360) that let an abused spouse of a US citizen file for status independently, without the abuser. My questions for anyone who's been through something like this:

1. VAWA: where does she start, and how do people document "extreme cruelty" when the abuse was psychological/financial/controlling rather than hospital-visit physical? What counts as evidence?
2. The recordings: he has audio of her at her worst moments in arguments. How do survivors deal with an abuser who recorded everything to make the victim look like the aggressor? Does her own lawyer need this upfront?
3. The system being used against her: when the abuser files first and gets the restraining order + emergency custody, how do survivors turn that around? What kind of lawyer handles BOTH the immigration side and the custody side?
4. When the abuser has a relative in law enforcement — does that change anything legally, or is it mostly intimidation? How do people protect themselves from that pressure?
5. Any orgs, pro bono programs, or specific resources for an immigrant survivor with no income and a US-citizen child?

Any experience, guidance, or even just "here's what I wish I'd known" would mean the world. Thank you for reading.

I’m an Indian citizen and need a reality check.

I applied for an Australian visitor visa in December. It was refused after about a month, the reason being that I hadn’t shown enough incentive to return home, even though I attached a No Objection Certificate from my employer.

At the time I was dating an Australian citizen but didn’t mention the relationship in that application. We’ve since gotten married.

My plan now is to get a tourist visa so I can be with him in Australia, then lodge the partner visa onshore (assuming onshore is faster than waiting in India). So I’ve reapplied for the visitor visa with the same NOC. The only real change is that I’m now married to an Australian, finances are roughly the same, and I’m currently on a notice period at my job which is not mentioned in the NOC though.

I’m worried this second application gets refused too, and that the partner visa takes up to a year. Everything feels on hold.

A few things I’d love input on:
• Does being married to an Australian help or hurt a tourist visa application?
• Is “tourist visa → onshore partner visa” realistic given I’ve already had one refusal?

Any experience appreciated!

Thanks in advance