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About 2.5 years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out of a family business/work environment that, over time, has started to feel increasingly toxic and emotionally draining for me. The restaurant is finally meant to open this August, but with a third child on the way and the uncertainty of a new business, I don’t feel comfortable just walking away immediately before seeing some stability and rebuilding an emergency fund.

What I’m struggling with now is the psychological side of this “in-between” phase.

I’ve realised I keep mentally postponing my real life:
“Once the restaurant opens…”
“Once I leave…”
“Once things stabilise…”

And I’m starting to wonder whether that mindset slowly disconnects you from the present.

How do you continue building purpose, energy, creativity, and happiness in your everyday life while still operating inside an environment that drains you?

And for anyone who has worked with difficult parents or in family businesses — how did you create healthier distance or become more emotionally/physically remote without creating constant conflict?

About 2.5 years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out of a family business/work environment that, over time, has started to feel increasingly toxic and emotionally draining for me. The restaurant is finally meant to open this August, but with a third child on the way and the uncertainty of a new business, I don’t feel comfortable just walking away immediately before seeing some stability and rebuilding an emergency fund.

What I’m struggling with now is the psychological side of this “in-between” phase.

I’ve realised I keep mentally postponing my real life:
“Once the restaurant opens…”
“Once I leave…”
“Once things stabilise…”

And I’m starting to wonder whether that mindset slowly disconnects you from the present.

How do you continue building purpose, energy, creativity, and happiness in your everyday life while still operating inside an environment that drains you?

And for anyone who has worked with difficult parents or in family businesses — how did you create healthier distance or become more emotionally/physically remote without creating constant conflict?

I posted on this a few days ago but I have a slightly different questions -

About 2.5 years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out of a family business/work environment that, over time, has started to feel increasingly toxic and emotionally draining for me. The restaurant is finally meant to open this August, but with a third child on the way and the uncertainty of a new business, I don’t feel comfortable just walking away immediately before seeing some stability and rebuilding an emergency fund.

What I’m struggling with now is the psychological side of this “in-between” phase.

I’ve realised I keep mentally postponing my real life:
“Once the restaurant opens…”
“Once I leave…”
“Once things stabilise…”

And I’m starting to wonder whether that mindset slowly disconnects you from the present.

How do you continue building purpose, energy, creativity, and happiness in your everyday life while still operating inside an environment that drains you?

And for anyone who has worked with difficult parents or in family businesses — how did you create healthier distance or become more emotionally/physically remote without creating constant conflict?

I posted on this a few days ago but I have a slightly different questions -

About 2.5 years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out of a family business/work environment that, over time, has started to feel increasingly toxic and emotionally draining for me. The restaurant is finally meant to open this August, but with a third child on the way and the uncertainty of a new business, I don’t feel comfortable just walking away immediately before seeing some stability and rebuilding an emergency fund.

What I’m struggling with now is the psychological side of this “in-between” phase.

I’ve realised I keep mentally postponing my real life:
“Once the restaurant opens…”
“Once I leave…”
“Once things stabilise…”

And I’m starting to wonder whether that mindset slowly disconnects you from the present.

How do you continue building purpose, energy, creativity, and happiness in your everyday life while still operating inside an environment that drains you?

And for anyone who has worked with difficult parents or in family businesses — how did you create healthier distance or become more emotionally/physically remote without creating constant conflict?

I posted on this a few days ago but I have a slightly different questions -

About 2.5 years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out of a family business/work environment that, over time, has started to feel increasingly toxic and emotionally draining for me. The restaurant is finally meant to open this August, but with a third child on the way and the uncertainty of a new business, I don’t feel comfortable just walking away immediately before seeing some stability and rebuilding an emergency fund.

What I’m struggling with now is the psychological side of this “in-between” phase.

I’ve realised I keep mentally postponing my real life:
“Once the restaurant opens…”
“Once I leave…”
“Once things stabilise…”

And I’m starting to wonder whether that mindset slowly disconnects you from the present.

How do you continue building purpose, energy, creativity, and happiness in your everyday life while still operating inside an environment that drains you?

And for anyone who has worked with difficult parents or in family businesses — how did you create healthier distance or become more emotionally/physically remote without creating constant conflict?

Im in this period of my life and wondering if i can top in to those who have been through it or anyone who left a successful job or family business even though, financially, it looked irrational from the outside?

I’ve started realizing that the stability i have had in this job (thats also been somewhat toxic) is to some degree disconnecting me from yourself, and i am soo far in it that i actually have no idea its impact as i have never left full time. From the outside everything can look good, the income, position, security, trajectory but internally you feel drained, unmotivated, creatively flat, or just… not aligned. And this is even though i have soo much flexibility I can work remote, i dont have major deliverables i dont have a boss over my head constantly, my boss is my dad lol.

What makes it harder is when there isn’t a clear next chapter yet. You know you need to leave eventually, but you also know walking away too early could be reckless.

Curious whether anyone else has gone through this and how you navigated it psychologically.

About 2 and a half years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out, and it’s finally meant to open this August. But now I’m also about to have a third child, so I keep going back and forth between wanting to leave immediately and feeling like I should wait until the business proves stable for a while and I’ve rebuilt some financial breathing room first. I guess im writing this in the hope of finding some wisdom from those who are or went through this, learning how to stay present, enjoying my life and maybe deriving some purpose to some degree

Im in this period of my life and wondering if i can top in to those who have been through it or anyone who left a successful job or family business even though, financially, it looked irrational from the outside?

I’ve started realizing that the stability i have had in this job (thats also been somewhat toxic) is to some degree disconnecting me from yourself, and i am soo far in it that i actually have no idea its impact as i have never left full time. From the outside everything can look good, the income, position, security, trajectory but internally you feel drained, unmotivated, creatively flat, or just… not aligned. And this is even though i have soo much flexibility I can work remote, i dont have major deliverables i dont have a boss over my head constantly, my boss is my dad lol.

What makes it harder is when there isn’t a clear next chapter yet. You know you need to leave eventually, but you also know walking away too early could be reckless.

Curious whether anyone else has gone through this and how you navigated it psychologically.

About 2 and a half years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out, and it’s finally meant to open this August. But now I’m also about to have a third child, so I keep going back and forth between wanting to leave immediately and feeling like I should wait until the business proves stable for a while and I’ve rebuilt some financial breathing room first. I guess im writing this in the hope of finding some wisdom from those who are or went through this, learning how to stay present, enjoying my life and maybe deriving some purpose to some degree

Im recently in this period of my life and wondering if i can top in to those who have been through it or anyone who left a successful job or family business even though, financially, it looked irrational from the outside?

I’ve started realizing that the stability i have had in this job (thats also been somewhat toxic) is to some degree disconnecting me from yourself, and i am soo far in it that i actually have no idea its impact as i have never left full time. From the outside everything can look good, the income, position, security, trajectory but internally you feel drained, unmotivated, creatively flat, or just… not aligned. And this is even though i have soo much flexibility I can work remote, i dont have major deliverables i dont have a boss over my head constantly, my boss is my dad lol.

What makes it harder is when there isn’t a clear next chapter yet. You know you need to leave eventually, but you also know walking away too early could be reckless.

Curious whether anyone else has gone through this and how you navigated it psychologically.

About 2 and a half years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out, and it’s finally meant to open this August. But now I’m also about to have a third child, so I keep going back and forth between wanting to leave immediately and feeling like I should wait until the business proves stable for a while and I’ve rebuilt some financial breathing room first. I guess im writing this in the hope of finding some wisdom from those who are or went through this, learning how to stay present, enjoying my life and maybe deriving some purpose to some degree

Im recently in this period of my life and wondering if i can top in to those who have been through it or anyone who left a successful job or family business even though, financially, it looked irrational from the outside?

I’ve started realizing that the stability i have had in this job (thats also been somewhat toxic) is to some degree disconnecting me from yourself, and i am soo far in it that i actually have no idea its impact as i have never left full time. From the outside everything can look good, the income, position, security, trajectory but internally you feel drained, unmotivated, creatively flat, or just… not aligned. And this is even though i have soo much flexibility I can work remote, i dont have major deliverables i dont have a boss over my head constantly, my boss is my dad lol.

What makes it harder is when there isn’t a clear next chapter yet. You know you need to leave eventually, but you also know walking away too early could be reckless.

Curious whether anyone else has gone through this and how you navigated it psychologically.

About 2 and a half years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out, and it’s finally meant to open this August. But now I’m also about to have a third child, so I keep going back and forth between wanting to leave immediately and feeling like I should wait until the business proves stable for a while and I’ve rebuilt some financial breathing room first. I guess im writing this in the hope of finding some wisdom from those who are or went through this, learning how to stay present, enjoying my life and maybe deriving some purpose to some degree

Im recently in this period of my life and wondering if i can top in to those who have been through it or anyone who left a successful job or family business even though, financially, it looked irrational from the outside?

I’ve started realizing that the stability i have had in this job (thats also been somewhat toxic) is to some degree disconnecting me from yourself, and i am soo far in it that i actually have no idea its impact as i have never left full time. From the outside everything can look good, the income, position, security, trajectory but internally you feel drained, unmotivated, creatively flat, or just… not aligned. And this is even though i have soo much flexibility I can work remote, i dont have major deliverables i dont have a boss over my head constantly, my boss is my dad lol.

What makes it harder is when there isn’t a clear next chapter yet. You know you need to leave eventually, but you also know walking away too early could be reckless.

Curious whether anyone else has gone through this and how you navigated it psychologically.

About 2 and a half years ago I started building a restaurant project that was supposed to become my transition out, and it’s finally meant to open this August. But now I’m also about to have a third child, so I keep going back and forth between wanting to leave immediately and feeling like I should wait until the business proves stable for a while and I’ve rebuilt some financial breathing room first. I guess im writing this in the hope of finding some wisdom from those who are or went through this, learning how to stay present, enjoying my life and maybe deriving some purpose to some degree